@presidente's thread about whether or not to date or marry a divorced person reminded me of something I never see talked about when this subject comes up. I didn't want to derail his thread so it seemed better to start my own.
Years ago, I wrote a thread asking about what should happen to remarried couples who did not have a Biblical allowance to remarry.
* Should the couple be broken up?
* Should both parties then be required to live separately as singles forever?
* And what if they had any children together -- should the church refuse to see their marriage as legitimate and therefore have to declare any children they had as being illegitimate?
* How would the new living arrangements for the children be decided?
I understand that there is a lot of concern about people remarrying without having Biblical permission-- but no one talks about what should then happen to the ones who are already married, or when they now have new families of their own.
I can't find my old thread because it was so long ago, but I do remember someone posting a link about a pastor who taught on this subject -- and one remarried couple came to ask him what they should do, beause they wanted to stay together. He told them they would have to take it to God and see what He directed them to do. And if I remember right, we were all left hanging because the couple never came back to report what was decided.
The reason I'm asking this is because I'm curious as to how this has affected Christian families in our audience. I'm sure almost every one of us has witnessed remarriages that, from outside appearances, did not have a Biblical reason.
But what if it was in your own family, and closest to home, what if it was your own parents?
The interesting thing of course was that in the old thread, everyone agreed that we as Christians must adhere to God's principles of whether someone can remarry. But what no one, understandably, wanted to see, was how this Biblical application might apply to their own family. Everyone said the married couple should now stay together.
We can all sympathize with why no one would want to be seen as illegitimate in the church because it was their parents who made the decision to remarry or marry a divorced person -- the children produced from that marriage didn't do anything wrong. Surely we all understand why no one would want to see their parent and step-parent split up because the church concluded that their remarriage was not Biblically permitted.
The general consensus from that particular audience was that if someone was now married, they should stay married, whether it was a sin to do so in the first place or not.
I am wondering what the current crowd believes. And I'm posting this in Singles because we singles are the ones who are navigating our own path to possibly dating/marrying in a God-pleasing way, but everyone, whether married or single, is welcome to answer.
Along with the discussion questions asked above, I would also like to know, have you ever seen a married couple split up by the church because their marriage was declared unBiblical?
If so, what happened to the couple involved and their children?
And if/when you encounter the same thing today both in other families and in your own, how do you believe they should be handled?
Years ago, I wrote a thread asking about what should happen to remarried couples who did not have a Biblical allowance to remarry.
* Should the couple be broken up?
* Should both parties then be required to live separately as singles forever?
* And what if they had any children together -- should the church refuse to see their marriage as legitimate and therefore have to declare any children they had as being illegitimate?
* How would the new living arrangements for the children be decided?
I understand that there is a lot of concern about people remarrying without having Biblical permission-- but no one talks about what should then happen to the ones who are already married, or when they now have new families of their own.
I can't find my old thread because it was so long ago, but I do remember someone posting a link about a pastor who taught on this subject -- and one remarried couple came to ask him what they should do, beause they wanted to stay together. He told them they would have to take it to God and see what He directed them to do. And if I remember right, we were all left hanging because the couple never came back to report what was decided.
The reason I'm asking this is because I'm curious as to how this has affected Christian families in our audience. I'm sure almost every one of us has witnessed remarriages that, from outside appearances, did not have a Biblical reason.
But what if it was in your own family, and closest to home, what if it was your own parents?
The interesting thing of course was that in the old thread, everyone agreed that we as Christians must adhere to God's principles of whether someone can remarry. But what no one, understandably, wanted to see, was how this Biblical application might apply to their own family. Everyone said the married couple should now stay together.
We can all sympathize with why no one would want to be seen as illegitimate in the church because it was their parents who made the decision to remarry or marry a divorced person -- the children produced from that marriage didn't do anything wrong. Surely we all understand why no one would want to see their parent and step-parent split up because the church concluded that their remarriage was not Biblically permitted.
The general consensus from that particular audience was that if someone was now married, they should stay married, whether it was a sin to do so in the first place or not.
I am wondering what the current crowd believes. And I'm posting this in Singles because we singles are the ones who are navigating our own path to possibly dating/marrying in a God-pleasing way, but everyone, whether married or single, is welcome to answer.
Along with the discussion questions asked above, I would also like to know, have you ever seen a married couple split up by the church because their marriage was declared unBiblical?
If so, what happened to the couple involved and their children?
And if/when you encounter the same thing today both in other families and in your own, how do you believe they should be handled?
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