How Do You React When God Tells You Hard Things (or Allows Difficult Things to Happen?)

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Blain said:
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Thank you, Blain, I did a few more tweaks on this panel after you bumped up the thread...
for instance I was not happy with the verse citation being tilted due to the banner
so I figured out how to fix that, and also did a few other minor things...


Isaiah 11 verse 6 ~ The wolf will live with the lamb, and the leopard will lie down with the goat; the calf and young lion and fatling will be together, and a little child will lead them.
 
Blain

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Magenta said:
Thank you, Blain, I did a few more tweaks on this panel after you bumped up the thread...
for instance I was not happy with the verse citation being tilted due to the banner
so I figured out how to fix that, and also did a few other minor things...


Isaiah 11 verse 6 ~ The wolf will live with the lamb, and the leopard will lie down with the goat; the calf and young lion and fatling will be together, and a little child will lead them.
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Because of my childhood I never ever felt safe . God changed that . I have never fully trusted any human being , that still stands for me but the reasoning has changed . I used to think that people would let me down because I wasn't worthy of their love or respect , now I know that people r just people like me , weak and foolish and it's unfair to expect too much of any person . God saved me from my dad and my mum . God saved me from me . God saved me when I was drunk and walking home late at night by myself . God saved me from unsuitable men . God saved me from cancer . One day I will die , this is a fact . I know that when I die it will b in accordance with God's plan for me and the next thing I shall b aware of is the face of Jesus . I'm still that person who will never trust or rely on any human but , I know that I can trust and rely on God . He's here with me now and He won't ever leave me . Whatever I have to go through next , He is right here with me . I know that for an absolute certainty .
 
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Suze said:
Because of my childhood I never ever felt safe . God changed that . I have never fully trusted any human being , that still stands for me but the reasoning has changed . I used to think that people would let me down because I wasn't worthy of their love or respect , now I know that people r just people like me , weak and foolish and it's unfair to expect too much of any person . God saved me from my dad and my mum . God saved me from me . God saved me when I was drunk and walking home late at night by myself . God saved me from unsuitable men . God saved me from cancer . One day I will die , this is a fact . I know that when I die it will b in accordance with God's plan for me and the next thing I shall b aware of is the face of Jesus . I'm still that person who will never trust or rely on any human but , I know that I can trust and rely on God . He's here with me now and He won't ever leave me . Whatever I have to go through next , He is right here with me . I know that for an absolute certainty .
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indeed, Hebrews 13:5! are you sure we're not brother & sister? i say that because much of your childhood was like mine. always getting beat, being told- " you stupid jerk", "can't you do anything right", "you ahole", " you dummy". i'm sorry to hear of your troublesome childhood. i hope for you peace & comfort forever Suze. also, i didn't develop trust in anyone. it still takes me longer than the average person to develop trust. blessings to you.
 
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Karlon said:
indeed, Hebrews 13:5! are you sure we're not brother & sister? i say that because much of your childhood was like mine. always getting beat, being told- " you stupid jerk", "can't you do anything right", "you ahole", " you dummy". i'm sorry to hear of your troublesome childhood. i hope for you peace & comfort forever Suze. also, i didn't develop trust in anyone. it still takes me longer than the average person to develop trust. blessings to you.
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I'm so sorry that u had a tough time also . I know u understand totally when I say that it's very hard for us hard knock kids to form close emotional bonds when , the two people that should have given u unconditional love and kindness and made u feel safe , did not do that . If u can't trust those two to treat u nice how can u expect or even hope that others will do so . Maybe there is something about u ? Maybe your mum and dad were right to b horrible to u because maybe it's all your fault ? Those feelings r soooo hard to shake off and to b honest they have never totally left me . My head knows that it wasn't my fault but my emotions do like to mess with me sometimes . Finding out that both my parents r diagnosed psychopaths helped me enormously and eventually I could feel some pity for them . I hope with all my heart that u know what a treasure u r to God , I hope u have love and joy in your life and that the peace of God is forever with u as it is now with me . God definitely protected me when I was a child as He does now . Please know that He protected and preserved u also and He will continue to do so , u r previous in His sight ❤️ .
 
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Suze said:
I'm so sorry that u had a tough time also . I know u understand totally when I say that it's very hard for us hard knock kids to form close emotional bonds when , the two people that should have given u unconditional love and kindness and made u feel safe , did not do that . If u can't trust those two to treat u nice how can u expect or even hope that others will do so . Maybe there is something about u ? Maybe your mum and dad were right to b horrible to u because maybe it's all your fault ? Those feelings r soooo hard to shake off and to b honest they have never totally left me . My head knows that it wasn't my fault but my emotions do like to mess with me sometimes . Finding out that both my parents r diagnosed psychopaths helped me enormously and eventually I could feel some pity for them . I hope with all my heart that u know what a treasure u r to God , I hope u have love and joy in your life and that the peace of God is forever with u as it is now with me . God definitely protected me when I was a child as He does now . Please know that He protected and preserved u also and He will continue to do so , u r previous in His sight ❤️ .
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Precious ! Not previous 🙄 .
 
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Suze said:
I'm so sorry that u had a tough time also . I know u understand totally when I say that it's very hard for us hard knock kids to form close emotional bonds when , the two people that should have given u unconditional love and kindness and made u feel safe , did not do that . If u can't trust those two to treat u nice how can u expect or even hope that others will do so . Maybe there is something about u ? Maybe your mum and dad were right to b horrible to u because maybe it's all your fault ? Those feelings r soooo hard to shake off and to b honest they have never totally left me . My head knows that it wasn't my fault but my emotions do like to mess with me sometimes . Finding out that both my parents r diagnosed psychopaths helped me enormously and eventually I could feel some pity for them . I hope with all my heart that u know what a treasure u r to God , I hope u have love and joy in your life and that the peace of God is forever with u as it is now with me . God definitely protected me when I was a child as He does now . Please know that He protected and preserved u also and He will continue to do so , u r previous in His sight ❤️ .
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Precious not previous 🙄
 
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Karlon said:
indeed, Hebrews 13:5! are you sure we're not brother & sister? i say that because much of your childhood was like mine. always getting beat, being told- " you stupid jerk", "can't you do anything right", "you ahole", " you dummy". i'm sorry to hear of your troublesome childhood. i hope for you peace & comfort forever Suze. also, i didn't develop trust in anyone. it still takes me longer than the average person to develop trust. blessings to you.
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Precious not previous 🙄 .
 
Blain

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Suze said:
Because of my childhood I never ever felt safe . God changed that . I have never fully trusted any human being , that still stands for me but the reasoning has changed . I used to think that people would let me down because I wasn't worthy of their love or respect , now I know that people r just people like me , weak and foolish and it's unfair to expect too much of any person . God saved me from my dad and my mum . God saved me from me . God saved me when I was drunk and walking home late at night by myself . God saved me from unsuitable men . God saved me from cancer . One day I will die , this is a fact . I know that when I die it will b in accordance with God's plan for me and the next thing I shall b aware of is the face of Jesus . I'm still that person who will never trust or rely on any human but , I know that I can trust and rely on God . He's here with me now and He won't ever leave me . Whatever I have to go through next , He is right here with me . I know that for an absolute certainty .
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I understand your pain very well I was severely abused drugged starved and beaten as a child then even in my adult years I went through so much emotional and mental abuse my family told me I was to stupid to even cook eggs I never knew and still don't know what it is like to have a family that loves you even today my family neglected my health I have a lot of health issue because of my past and I almost died last year because of it I was severely starved skin and bones my health was so bad I had to call 911 many times to go to the er just to get some fluid in me

I only now have some wight on me because I was sent to a nursing home from the er after I almost died but now I live in a prison like environment and they feed me but they neglect my health and my eyes that are ;legally blind they only care about money here not the people in it my whole life I have only known neglect suffering abuse pain ect. even to this day but God has been with me the whole time I never felt truly alone even though everyone in my life let me down
 
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Blain said:
I understand your pain very well I was severely abused drugged starved and beaten as a child then even in my adult years I went through so much emotional and mental abuse my family told me I was to stupid to even cook eggs I never knew and still don't know what it is like to have a family that loves you even today my family neglected my health I have a lot of health issue because of my past and I almost died last year because of it I was severely starved skin and bones my health was so bad I had to call 911 many times to go to the er just to get some fluid in me

I only now have some wight on me because I was sent to a nursing home from the er after I almost died but now I live in a prison like environment and they feed me but they neglect my health and my eyes that are ;legally blind they only care about money here not the people in it my whole life I have only known neglect suffering abuse pain ect. even to this day but God has been with me the whole time I never felt truly alone even though everyone in my life let me down
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Oh Blain I'm horrified for your situation 😳! If I can help u in any way please just ask me , if I can do it I will . God is with u all day every day I'm sure u already know that , He sees u and , u have the support and affection of everyone who reads this site . Keep talking to us and most importantly to Him who loves u best . We r all of us here for u 100 per cent , much love to u in Christ our Saviour .
 
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Oh Blain I'm horrified for your situation 😳! If I can help u in any way please just ask me , if I can do it I will . God is with u all day every day I'm sure u already know that , He sees u and , u have the support and affection of everyone who reads this site . Keep talking to us and most importantly to Him who loves u best . We r all of us here for u 100 per cent , much love to u in Christ our Saviour .
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Thank you for your kind words as for what you can do for me all I ask is that you would seek a deeper relationship with God believe me there is so much more to him than most realize I mean a connection to him so close he would even appear to you in person trust me I know from experience. The good thing about all my suffering is I learned from it and it lead me to seek him more and more since he is all I have and the only one to ever love me in my life everyone in my life for whatever reason let me down.
To be honest the one thing I desired most and even now is the love of a mother so many take it for granted but it means more to me than anything of course I am thirty three years old so it is to late for me now but if you have a mom that loves you and I am speaking to everyone in general or rather a family that loves you cherish them don't take them for granted because some of us would do anything for that
 
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Blain said:
Thank you for your kind words as for what you can do for me all I ask is that you would seek a deeper relationship with God believe me there is so much more to him than most realize I mean a connection to him so close he would even appear to you in person trust me I know from experience. The good thing about all my suffering is I learned from it and it lead me to seek him more and more since he is all I have and the only one to ever love me in my life everyone in my life for whatever reason let me down.
To be honest the one thing I desired most and even now is the love of a mother so many take it for granted but it means more to me than anything of course I am thirty three years old so it is to late for me now but if you have a mom that loves you and I am speaking to everyone in general or rather a family that loves you cherish them don't take them for granted because some of us would do anything for that
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U have a family right here Blain , u r loved and appreciated and respected . I have been reading and enjoying your posts for weeks now and u have helped me a lot and I'm confident that u will continue to do so 😜 . My heart goes out to u my brother in Christ . Yes ! I know exactly what u mean about your parents and upbringing having taught u things . We r old souls us abused children that's for sure . I think that we , more than many , know what it means to rely on God , because we know from personal experience that we cannot rely on humans . I wish I lived somewhere near u cos I would b visiting u for sure . But , we r connected in Christ 😜 and that's a bond that can never b broken . Love in our Lord ❤️ .
 
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Suze said:
U have a family right here Blain , u r loved and appreciated and respected . I have been reading and enjoying your posts for weeks now and u have helped me a lot and I'm confident that u will continue to do so 😜 . My heart goes out to u my brother in Christ . Yes ! I know exactly what u mean about your parents and upbringing having taught u things . We r old souls us abused children that's for sure . I think that we , more than many , know what it means to rely on God , because we know from personal experience that we cannot rely on humans . I wish I lived somewhere near u cos I would b visiting u for sure . But , we r connected in Christ 😜 and that's a bond that can never b broken . Love in our Lord ❤️ .
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Knowing you have been reading and that it has helped you made my heart leap inside me and I am very grateful for you and your kind heart. yes we who have suffered much know more than anyone that only God can truly be relied on and truly love us but do not worry when he comes back forus and we are taken there is beauty and wonders that await us that you could not imagine. I was taken to the other side and got a glimps of it your treasures are vast and great because of your suffering in a way you are blessed for all your suffering because the way it works in his kingdom the more you have suffered in this life the more he blesses you in his. one day we will meet and on that day I will have a present for you it is a secret for now but believe me it will be very nice
 
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Blain said:
Knowing you have been reading and that it has helped you made my heart leap inside me and I am very grateful for you and your kind heart. yes we who have suffered much know more than anyone that only God can truly be relied on and truly love us but do not worry when he comes back forus and we are taken there is beauty and wonders that await us that you could not imagine. I was taken to the other side and got a glimps of it your treasures are vast and great because of your suffering in a way you are blessed for all your suffering because the way it works in his kingdom the more you have suffered in this life the more he blesses you in his. one day we will meet and on that day I will have a present for you it is a secret for now but believe me it will be very nice
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Sending u much love and hugs Blain , u have touched my heart today , may God continue to bless , comfort and strengthen u with His love ❤️ .
 
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Suze said:
I'm so sorry that u had a tough time also . I know u understand totally when I say that it's very hard for us hard knock kids to form close emotional bonds when , the two people that should have given u unconditional love and kindness and made u feel safe , did not do that . If u can't trust those two to treat u nice how can u expect or even hope that others will do so . Maybe there is something about u ? Maybe your mum and dad were right to b horrible to u because maybe it's all your fault ? Those feelings r soooo hard to shake off and to b honest they have never totally left me . My head knows that it wasn't my fault but my emotions do like to mess with me sometimes . Finding out that both my parents r diagnosed psychopaths helped me enormously and eventually I could feel some pity for them . I hope with all my heart that u know what a treasure u r to God , I hope u have love and joy in your life and that the peace of God is forever with u as it is now with me . God definitely protected me when I was a child as He does now . Please know that He protected and preserved u also and He will continue to do so , u r previous in His sight ❤️ .
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so beautiful & true, what you wrote. thanks for your "sisterly" statements. at my mom's funeral, only 1 person showed up! i think she was sorry she had us! you speak as i do when reviewing my relationship with Jesus. i was a burden to them in some way i think because of my poor eyesight. but when i became born again 1993, about May to June, the 1st thing i thought of was forgiveness. & it occurred very easy to forgive. no doubt that was Jesus doing most of the work. it seems i will always have this distant feeling of people, on extra guard, to speak. (gtgn) got to go now Suze.
 
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