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That is not a nice story, I find it even worse as my own church has a thriving youth ministry and I myself am a Leader in house, I lead the younger kids sunday services.
If you look for the bad you will find it. People run churches, people are not perfect. I think it is awful that something like that was going on in your church but it is not the norm and although its not toally impossible it is incredably unlikely to even happen around you again.
I think when looking for a church you need to see it from a people point of view, don't expect it to be perfect but at the same time don't make excuses. There are things about my own church I would do differently and there are things that frustrate me but the good outweighs the bad every time. good luck.
If you look for the bad you will find it. People run churches, people are not perfect. I think it is awful that something like that was going on in your church but it is not the norm and although its not toally impossible it is incredably unlikely to even happen around you again.
I think when looking for a church you need to see it from a people point of view, don't expect it to be perfect but at the same time don't make excuses. There are things about my own church I would do differently and there are things that frustrate me but the good outweighs the bad every time. good luck.
I do realize how unlikely it is for something so awful to ever happen again in my sphere, or for it to directly affect me so badly. It's hard to let go of that fear, particularly now having a son whom I'd really like to raise in a church we feel safe in, but I know I need to let it go and learn to trust God more fully.
You're also right about finding a church- I honestly don't purposely find fault with churches, as in, I don't step in the doors and immediately start criticizing things. It's more like, I go to a new church one morning, and at first am pleasantly surprised when anyone is friendly, or if the sermon was good, or whatever. So I go again, and for some reason something rubs me the wrong way...maybe the people ignore me completely or are rude, maybe the sermon seems to conflict with the previous one...I don't know. I go again the next week and I notice they don't focus on something important like communion or...they put too much emphasis on giving them money, or I notice half the congregation has fallen asleep.
But I do need to relax a bit about inconsequential things and look for the greater good. I'll work on that