How long have you been single?

[RodColeman]

Everything is doing it wrong. Have you been paying attention? He can argue against any side of any conversation. Or both side

Yes, absolutely. Dating apps favor hookups and disfavor commitments by its gamified design, so they could keep users on the platforms as long and profitable as possible.

Ah. So no Christian has ever found a partner on a dating app. Or no Christian who met a partner on dating app has ever seen that relationship grow into a romantic relationship and a happy and healthy marriage. How interesting.

Dating apps are just tools to find people and arrange an in-person meeting that can potentially result in more dates that potentially grow into a romantic relationship that potentially ends in marriage. But you've discovered that this actually never happens? I know plenty of Christians who've met that way and ended up in happy marriages. (I assume this is the part where you reveal your insight that these marriages cannot truly be happy or something. Haha.)

I know Christian couples who first met each other at swing dances and have now been happily married for years. But, wait, swing-dancing is a worldly invention that God never ordained and the Bible never talks about. (Gasp!) Did my friends screw it all up somehow?

Hahaha.

 

[Lovette]

Your familiarity with the romance novels of Jane Austen is rather at odds with your disdain of the desire for marriage. Makes me wonder how much time you're spending on worldly things like romance novels or classic literature instead of God.

Less worldly than spending on a wild goose chase for an imaginary Prov. 31 partner in real life.

 

[Lovette]

Ah. So no Christian has ever found a partner on a dating app. Or no Christian who met a partner on dating app has ever seen that relationship grow into a romantic relationship and a happy and healthy marriage. How interesting.

Dating apps are just tools to find people and arrange an in-person meeting that can potentially result in more dates that potentially grow into a romantic relationship that potentially ends in marriage. But you've discovered that this actually never happens? I know plenty of Christians who've met that way and ended up in happy marriages. (I assume this is the part where you reveal your insight that these marriages cannot truly be happy or something. Haha.)

I know Christian couples who first met each other at swing dances and have now been happily married for years. But, wait, swing-dancing is a worldly invention that God never ordained and the Bible never talks about. (Gasp!) Did my friends screw it all up somehow?

Hahaha.

Then good luck, enjoy your swiping and swinging. This is like "I know plenty of Lucky Lukes winning the lottery and hitting the jackpot", or "I know plenty of geniuses making a fortune at home on Crypto or day trading."

 

[RodColeman]

Then good luck, enjoy your swiping and swinging. This is like "I know plenty of Lucky Lukes winning the lottery and hitting the jackpot", or "I know plenty of geniuses making a fortune at home on Crypto or day trading."

So because you personally feel that finding romantic love and finding a happy marriage is as likely as winning the lottery.....nobody should bother with it?

Also, there's probably more happy Christian married couples in the world than there are people who made a fortune with the lottery, crypto, or stocks, haha.

 

[tourist]

Ah. So no Christian has ever found a partner on a dating app. Or no Christian who met a partner on dating app has ever seen that relationship grow into a romantic relationship and a happy and healthy marriage. How interesting.

I met my wife who is also a member on this site shortly after I joined in 2014. We were married later on in the same year. It has been told by a few members that this is not a dating site. I beg to differ. It is an excellent resource for those contemplating entering into a faithful, enduring, loving, intimate, romantic relationship that may lead to marriage. There have been a few other marriages that have happened as a result of this site.

 

[tourist]

So because you personally feel that finding romantic love and finding a happy marriage is as likely as winning the lottery.....nobody should bother with it?

If you refuse to play the lottery don't be surprised if you never win.

 

[tourist]

Less worldly than spending on a wild goose chase for an imaginary Prov. 31 partner in real life.

I wouldn't want a Proverb 31 wife. It seems to me that the narrative of that proverb has the wife wearing the pant in the family. That doesn't work for me.

 

[RodColeman]

If you refuse to play the lottery don't be surprised if you never win.

Exactly. Not that I'm personally endorsing literally playing the lottery, haha.

 

[tourist]

Yes, marriage is under attack, but by the preachers of purity culture and prosperity gospel...

I would avoid such preachers.

 

[Lovette]

So because you personally feel that finding romantic love and finding a happy marriage is as likely as winning the lottery.....nobody should bother with it?

Also, there's probably more happy Christian married couples in the world than there are people who made a fortune with the lottery, crypto, or stocks, haha.

Yet probably less such couples who particularly get married, stay married and supposedly "happily" married through swiping and swinging with perfect strangers than people who made a fortune with the lottery, crypto, or stocks.

 

[Lovette]

I would avoid such preachers.

Good, so would I!

 

[RodColeman]

Yet probably less such couples who particularly get married, stay married and supposedly "happily" married through swiping and swinging with perfect strangers than people who made a fortune with the lottery, crypto, or stocks.

Do you believe that "most" of the Christians who meet on dating apps end up in disastrous relationships?

 

[welsh79]

Crikey.

Is this STILL going on?

 

[Kainos]

For now, I'm not obsessed with either singlehood or marriage. Both are but labels, and I don't wanna be identified, judged or evaluated by labels only.

Eh? Do you keep losing your train of thought, or are you feeding your responses through a card shuffle generator?

The only peril you need to be worrying about is becoming a parody of the "better" follower you think you are.

 

[Lovette]

Do you believe that "most" of the Christians who meet on dating apps end up in disastrous relationships?

What's truly a worldly invention is attaching a Christian label onto a worldly invention which God never ordained, and promote it as a godly invention as though God did ordain. That's what you're doing in your justification with dating apps.

 

[Lovette]

Eh? Do you keep losing your train of thought, or are you feeding your responses through a card shuffle generator?

The only peril you want to be worrying about is becoming a parody of the "better" follower you think you are.

"Adios" means off to God, so why are you not on your way? Why are you still being so animated about getting even here?

 

[Lovette]

I met my wife who is also a member on this site shortly after I joined in 2014. We were married later on in the same year. It has been told by a few members that this is not a dating site. I beg to differ. It is an excellent resource for those contemplating entering into a faithful, enduring, loving, intimate, romantic relationship that may lead to marriage. There have been a few other marriages that have happened as a result of this site.

Yeah, a time much simpler and more innocent than this digital dark age. Congrats to you.

 

[RodColeman]

What's truly a worldly invention is attaching a Christian label onto a worldly invention which God never ordained, and promote it as a godly invention as though God did ordain. That's what you're doing in your justification with dating apps.

A dating app is just a tool to find people and meet them.

What, should we go back to betrothals at young ages, the groom's father paying the bride's family, the groom building an addition onto his father's house, the week-long wedding feast, etc. etc.?

I guess we could try that, haha.

 

[Lovette]

A dating app is just a tool to find people and meet them.

What, should we go back to betrothals at young ages, the groom's father paying the bride's family, the groom building an addition onto his father's house, the week-long wedding feast, etc. etc.?

I guess we could try that, haha.

Or we could decenter from our obsession with marriage and recenter on God through Christ Jesus, our eternal bridegroom.

 

[Kainos]

"Adios" means off to God, so why are you not on your way? Why are you still being so animated about getting even here?

You quoted my last message. I was polite enough to respond.

For now, is an unspecified period of time.