A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?

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Yea if they can actually get there. I like someone who can deal with traffic and not have road rage, or knows where to go. lol
They don't have to be an uber driver though.

If he's perfectly capable navigating public transport, and can use his two legs and walk, or bicycle and not race off thats good too. One time I went for just a stroll with a guy and he was puffed even doing that. It's like he'd never walked anywhere?! And then he expected me to drive the windy roads up north by myself to an unfamiliar place just to meet him. I'm like....no.
 
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Lanolin said:
I like a man who is
Kind
Gentle
good
Loving
peaceful
joyful
Faithful
Patient
and can control himself.

I wish a man like that was easy to find. How can I tell what kind of man he is just based on appearance??
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Easy , the same way blind people have to , get to know them , slowly .
 
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Lanolin said:
I like a man who is
Kind
Gentle
good
Loving
peaceful
joyful
Faithful
Patient
and can control himself.

I wish a man like that was easy to find. How can I tell what kind of man he is just based on appearance??
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Obviously we can't tell what they're like on the inside from appearance. That takes time so you see someone you feel comfortable with on the appearance level then you get to know them to see if they are a match for you.

That's how I do it anyway.
 
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Huh so...blind dates are wrong! You have to see them first. Is thats what you saying?

*confused*
 
I've done a few actual blind dates. 😅

Five-hour train ride to meet a guy I'd only seen briefly on a dark video call. I barely knew what he looked like and I knew even less about who he was.

Let's just say... the return trip felt much shorter. 😂
 
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zeroturbulence said:
A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?

Just curious after watching a video. I'm not attractive and am not looking to attract women. I'm just curious to find out what the answers will be.
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A man is attractive if he compliments the values a woman has. If a lady values spirituality and sees a man who is spiritual, then she finds him attractive.

If she values fashion and sees a fashionable man, then she she will find her attractive.

If she values kindness and sees a kind man, then she'll find him attractive.

The list is endless.

I also believe everyone is attached, it's just that maybe you've not found your beholder. Cause beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
 
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Enjoy going to local church, serving local church, commit to local church. Have authentic relationship with God.

Such a man is very attractive now.
 
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Dee_loves_Jesus said:
Every woman is attracted to something they like right? I think all women are different in this regard.

For me yes it begins with Jesus loving and God fearing. That is a given here for most women on this site.

He is attracted to me as I am attracted to him.

Next for me it's political standing as I need to feel safe talking about it and do not want to choose a man just to argue with him about politics....one less argument. Check

Not a bar fly or alcoholic. Not physically or emotionally abusive. Can ask for help...that one is hard for men and I have been learning how to support in that regard.

Humbe, honest, kind, courageous, tough, stoic, calm, more on the quite side, collaborative at home and in our life together, would love if he had a good belly laugh....

He is more of a homebody and not a travel fanatic as I do not like to travel much. I enjoy simple pleasures so he would be same so we can be happy there.

Tend to gravitate towards those raised in Midwest where my Mom is from and raised me that way. People often think I am from there.

He is a good leader. I am smart so he has to be smarter in order to lead me.

Finally he has blue or gray eyes (like me), full trimmed beard, not skinny like me, over 5'10 because I am 5'8. I know those are looks things and I should not be that way although I have tried to ignore them and have not been successful in that regard.

Every lady has different things I would say. Many women say my taste in men is strange in the looks department so they love to have me as the wing girl because pretty boys are not what I can date it would be like forcing me to like food I don't like to eat so that is not fair for either of us.

I also prefer a widower as I am a widow. That one right there proves we like certain things at certain times or our lives based in our experiences.

Also, at different ages our preferences also change in my experience. For example....I never cared for beards when I was younger until I realized how fast a shaven face gets scratchy on my face and quit painful!!! LOL. I learned to love beards after that as they now make me feel safe for good reason!

I think it is good we all like different qualities in a man so there is someone for everyone! Although it often takes time to find our mates and sometimes it never happens since we are all so unique it can be hard to find that perfect unique puzzle piece that fits.

Right place right time?

Women - Pray the Lord gives us discernment to be where he wants us in order to see and meet those man mate(s) in which each woman was made for.

Men - Pray the Lord gives you discernment to be where he wants you to be in order to see and meet that woman mate(s) that the Lord made just for you!!

I pluralized mate in case some of you are a widow or widower/divorcee.

Finally as others have said in different words: Staying single for the Lord is very Honorable in order to focus on serving him and his will.

God Bless you all in HIS precious name Jesus!
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That's... Um... Wow that's incredibly specific.

I sure hope you're describing a guy you have already met and want to go out with. If that's a list of your requirements for a guy but you haven't met him yet, good luck.
 
Elissa said:
I can relate.

I once went for a blind date and felt frustrated that the guy I went to meet made no effort to dress up. 🤭

I just left immediately.
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At least he got dressed. For some guys I know, that would be an improvement.

You should have given it at least 15 minutes to see what kind of guy he is. You never know, he could have been the one. :cool:
 
Also, for both of you, howdy and welcome to the forum.
 
Mem said:
I was going to say, "Just sit up straight, and you'll do just fine."
And, now I see, it is the good advice since it shows off your chest, you back, your shoulders, your neck, your jaw, your arms, your hips, your thighs, etc etc etc.
Those ladies' eyes might've just as well have been keying in on the man's center to see how much he went off balance. Even if your physique isn't perfectly defined, as long as you're 'balanced,' it looks good. I think it's something to do with the formula of pi.
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pi is not a formula, dear - it is a constant :D ;)

I am going to guess that what you are thinking about is related to the Fibonacci Sequence and Golden Ratio.
 
GaryA said:
pi is not a formula, dear - it is a constant :D ;)

I am going to guess that what you are thinking about is related to the Fibonacci Sequence and Golden Ratio.
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Wow, @GaryA, you're nerdier than I am! 🤓 ...Fibonacci Sequence and Golden Ratio? I have homework to do now! Thank you, so much!
 
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zeroturbulence said:
A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?

Just curious after watching a video. I'm not attractive and am not looking to attract women. I'm just curious to find out what the answers will be.
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A man loves God, is so attractive,
A man who treats women right
A man who is neat
A man who dresses well
Aman who is Romantic
A man who is financially fit and not stingy
 
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I think the most attractive thing about a man is not just that he's willing to provide. The main thing is providing emotionally. Being a best friend is the most important thing I think if you guys don't like each other as friends then you're not going to be able to build a strong marriage.

That being said. One secret that not a lot of men know is that women are literally clocks. And I think what makes it very confusing for men to deal with women is that often they complain that we like one thing one minute and then we don't like it the next. And that's not 100% true. There is a video on this but if you follow a woman's cycle which goes through four phases there are patterns to her behavior and that's all based off of the hormone distributions. It sounds more complicated than it is but if you spend two months taking notes and knowing her full cycle it will be a lot easier to pin down when she needs space when she needs to be called a little bit more and when to push a little bit harder because she's willing to give a little bit more grace.

I just think that's really important if you're asking specifically what makes a man attractive because the biggest thing for women is having a healthy relationship with very strong communication. Because to me yes physical attraction is important but my idea of what is physically attractive can slightly change based on how good of an emotional relationship I have with that person.
 
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Lynx said:
That's... Um... Wow that's incredibly specific.

I sure hope you're describing a guy you have already met and want to go out with. If that's a list of your requirements for a guy but you haven't met him yet, good luck.
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Thankfully I don't believe in luck I believe in Jesus and I have faith.

God bless you.
 
ITS THE HEART NOT LOOKS A GUY WHO PUTS GOD FAMILY & ANIMALS FIRST & HAS A TENDER SWEET LOVING & CARING SOUL IS THE MOST SEXIEST PRIZE A WOMAN COULD WIN
 
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