HA! Nope. Better if you do forget it.
I mean it's still possible she might find somebody, but not because she's looking.
Can We All Find our Soulmate Somewhere In Between Dodging Zombies at Halloween and Fruitcake at Christmas?
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I mean it's still possible she might find somebody, but not because she's looking.
Thats a big question 'who am I' but I suppose if you are a christian you may be a bit more secure in your identity eg Gods child, in Christ.
I dont think I could be a solo parent that would be too hard have a dependent rely on me for everything
Ive not figured out why people are called caucasians when only very few people are from caucasia (causcasian mountains? or am I mixing that up with carpathia) why are they not called Europeans from Europe and asians from ...Asia. I suppose in America they cant just call them Americans (North and South) the only time I ever hear people being described as Causcasian is on Crimewatch tv show where police are discussing criminal profiles.
You being born in Asia, you can say well I am from Korea and been adopted thats why I live here, but I have to explain well I am NOT from Asia and live in this country because I was born here so I am from here, but people always ask me where I am from. It gets a bit old after a while. Nobody has to ask me if they know me or are family, but its like I dont tend to ask people where they are from the instant I meet them...I just take them as they are.
I am not the immigrant police or border control.
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I might have two (2) soulmates (is that possible?) (question for the op) i love them both and i cherish them in their own unique way wait do dogs count? my dog is like my daughter nah my dog is just a kid. Anyway I love my two soulmates i know i have their back just as they have mine. And i don’t wish any harm on them i’m just thankful I have them and I pray for their wellbeing may God protect them wherever they go. 
Due to the usual "You're a pagan devil-worshipping heathen if you have anything to do with celebrating Halloween" argument we see ever year (currently on full display in @Lynx's "Which Witch" thread...)
I'm bumping this to show what people have thought about this topic in one of the years past (seeing as this exact same pattern breaks out every. single. year here, and often in the Singles Forum.)
Because everyone knows Singles must constantly be talked down to and kept in line without knowing anything about us as individuals.
Oh, those darn Singles!!
If only there was a way to keep them policed and patrolled!
I'm bumping this to show what people have thought about this topic in one of the years past (seeing as this exact same pattern breaks out every. single. year here, and often in the Singles Forum.)
Because everyone knows Singles must constantly be talked down to and kept in line without knowing anything about us as individuals.
Oh, those darn Singles!!
If only there was a way to keep them policed and patrolled!
Due to the usual "You're a pagan devil-worshipping heathen if you have anything to do with celebrating Halloween" argument we see ever year (currently on full display in @Lynx's "Which Witch" thread...)
I'm bumping this to show what people have thought about this topic in one of the years past (seeing as this exact same pattern breaks out every. single. year here, and often in the Singles Forum.)
Because everyone knows Singles must constantly be talked down to and kept in line without knowing anything about us as individuals.
Oh, those darn Singles!!
If only there was a way to keep them policed and patrolled!
The longer I'm here, the more predictable the patterns become.
The Singles Forum always seems to be a prime target of those who want to armchair judge and try to curb other's behavior. Because of course, all of us Singles are wild, reckless heathens who need to be preached and shamed back into line!!
They don't go to Family to try to preach to all the married people --nope, it's almost always the Singles.
Now I can understand "back in the day" when the majority of singles here were 25-35, with a few 40's-50's. But right now, I'd guess that the median age in Singles would be somewhere around the late 40's. I could be wrong. But that's most of the people I've met here are right around that range. And even then, the singles I've gotten to know here lead very responsible lives. They're not out clubbing and partying or picking up strangers by any means.
Sure, we all need reminders to behave now and then, and sure, there are some people who might be living on the wild side, but at least take the time to get to know us first. And if judgment/how to's MUST be dispersed, at least even it out. Be sure to preach to the married dealing with porn and all of their problems equally before just slamming it all on the singles, please. Just distribute the corrections evenly among all demographics is all I ask.
But people constantly come in and preach without trying to get to know anything about the Singles community here or what our lives look like. With most of us being in our 40's or above (I'm in my 50's but people talk down to me all the time,) we're no longer kids. Many here were also married at some point, but often have been widowed or abandoned. Many are raising kids, and in some cases, "kids" who are now adults, along with grandchildren.
When people break out into bashing one gender or another, it's not just aimed towards other singles here -- it's basically telling all the participating parents of grown children, "You did such a lousy job at raising your son or daughter, I have to be the one to warn everyone else against utter vermin like the ones you produced."
This doesn't exactly foster community.
I have repeated this often and will do so for all my remaining days here -- the story of a man coming into Singles and blasting us for being "too young" to "know anything about love or marriage." And quoted another user when saying this.
It turns out, the man preaching to us was 56 -- and the man he quoted and told was "too young to know anything about love or marriage" -- is around 70 years old, and had already experienced fulfilling his vow to God of "'til death do us part," because he took care of a wife who became ill until God called her home.
And yet we see things like this repeatedly in Singles -- which should explain to newcomers why people here generally don't take it seriously when others come in and immediately start shaking their fingers at the crowd.
Has someone been preaching on here??
I thought we were the choir! You are not allowed to preach to the choir!
I'm a soprano.
I thought we were the choir! You are not allowed to preach to the choir!
I'm a soprano.
Yeah.
It's always interesting to see who comes into Singles and starts preaching about who's who and what's what and if we don't believe exactly as they're saying we should, we're obviously lost heathen devil worshippers.
And like I was saying, I don't see these kinds of speeches being conjured up especially for the marrieds. It's always the singles that are seen as the easy, naive targets. If you're going to preach to one group, then preach to all -- not just singles -- at least show us some capacity for equal opportunity scolding!
Another thing I always harp on is that the landscape of the church is changing -- and very quickly at that. The time is fast coming where it will be singles that are the majority in churches -- I've heard guesstimates of around 60% in the near future. I was at a church in the early 2000's that was already probably at least 40%, if not more, single/divorced/widowed.
At the church I used to go to in another state, even the pastor is now apparently divorced (I don't know all the details and it's their own business.) He's in his 50's and they were married young, now having one adult son and another who's almost there. I understand some people would call for his removal from office but again, I don't know all the details, it's not my business, and he is still the head pastor. I do know that him and his wife apparently had problems for many years, because what drew me to that church was that he was real about his own life struggles. (He never mentioned the details, but had said he and his wife had been separated before.)
This time it's apparently permanent, as he no longer wears his wedding ring, and in his last sermon, he mentioned his son joking about him dating in the future.
I highly suspect this is becoming more common (people in church leadership splitting up.) So as church demographics are shifting, not only will the singles become the majority, but it won't be the 20-30 somethings the church is used to hollering at to keep them in line.
Rather, now it's single people in their 50's, 60's, 70's and up with many having "children" that are actually middle-aged adults, along with possibly adult grandchildren.
I would guess we'll see the shift to the majority in the church being singles rather than married within the next 10 years, if not sooner -- and I wonder how different things are going to be as that happens.
For instance -- who's going to lead the church if the only people left or willing and now single, with few to no married to lead?
I don't know what or who this is about so it's probably someone I'm ignoring.
@seoulsearch by the way, one of the things that make Korean dramas so good is the orphans. There's a lot of orphans in Korean dramas. They're either looking for their real parents, or the fake parents are keeping them from realizing they're not their real parents, or the real parent is looking for them. In some cases the orphan grew up poor or average only to find out they are the true heir of a rich family. As you probably know, there are many orphans in Korea.
@seoulsearch by the way, one of the things that make Korean dramas so good is the orphans. There's a lot of orphans in Korean dramas. They're either looking for their real parents, or the fake parents are keeping them from realizing they're not their real parents, or the real parent is looking for them. In some cases the orphan grew up poor or average only to find out they are the true heir of a rich family. As you probably know, there are many orphans in Korea.
In civilized countries a bed has two blankets on it. In barbaric countries like the USA we only have one.
This is just me, and there are many others who feel much differently than I do, but one reason I could never feel "connected" to "my" "Korean heritage" is because Korea (South) has made a very lucrative business out of legally selling their orphans.
Yes, in my case, it worked out to my own benefit (due to the grace of God,) but obviously, it doesn't for some.
One of the reasons Korea has so many orphans is because of their cultural beliefs. Unless it's changed, Koreans must be added to their family registry to even legally exist (this is the equivalent of your legal papers that allow you to go to school, get married, etc.)
Children born illegitimately or seen as orphans are not added to that registry, therefore, they do not legally exist in anyone's eyes (traditional Asians do not want "bad" or disgraceful blood in their family lines.) This is such an ingrained belief that even in my lifetime, adoption in Korea was at times outlawed, because no one wanted impure blood in their families.
As one could imagine, children without legal papers generally have no other options except to be trafficked, house slaves, or adopted out to other countries.
Koreans will generally not adopt a child and if they do, the child can only be an infant or someone very young (when the legal process can take many years,) then have to start over in a new area where no one knows them -- so they can pass the child off as their own, or the family will be ostracized.
Nowadays with the internet in full swing, I don't see how anyone could hide it.
This is why you see so many adopted Koreans in other countries -- Korea itself does not accept them, and culturally, they are merely seen as a venue for profit.
To traditional Korea, I was just a product to be sold.
I should also add that it's not just illegitimate children that are rejected/denied legal recognition, only to be given up, or even killed.
This can also apply to any child with anything seen as being a flaw or not fitting up to social standards, such as having disabilities, or being a girl when the parents wanted a boy.
Korea also has many persisting superstitions that contribute to getting rid of unwanted children.
I knew a Korean woman who was less than 10 years older than me, and because her father was dead when she was born (killed by a military strike,) she was seen as "the bad luck baby" all her life. Her own grandmother told her mother to toss her in the river and get rid of her as soon as she was born, but her mother refused.
However, beliefs and actions such as this were seen as perfectly normal in Korean society.
Everywhere this woman went, people blamed her for everything that went wrong, and often beat her terribly.
When she was in her 40's she came to know Christ, and finally found acceptance.
Now certainly not all Koreans are like this. I know a native Korean whose parents are absolutely wonderful to me, and there are many things to love about Korea and its people.
I have read that during the Korean War, mothers became known for fastening the sashes around their bodies as tightly as they could -- in an attempt to ignore their own gnawing hunger pains while they gave any scraps of food available to their children instead.
But there are other unpleasant and ingrained cultural beliefs regarding children who aren't wanted, and it's tough, if not nearly impossible, to change them.
Of course all things are possible with God.
But if one looks at the cultural scars and clashes we struggle with even in the USA, it's easy to understand why there's often little to no change.
This can also apply to any child with anything seen as being a flaw or not fitting up to social standards, such as having disabilities, or being a girl when the parents wanted a boy.
Korea also has many persisting superstitions that contribute to getting rid of unwanted children.
I knew a Korean woman who was less than 10 years older than me, and because her father was dead when she was born (killed by a military strike,) she was seen as "the bad luck baby" all her life. Her own grandmother told her mother to toss her in the river and get rid of her as soon as she was born, but her mother refused.
However, beliefs and actions such as this were seen as perfectly normal in Korean society.
Everywhere this woman went, people blamed her for everything that went wrong, and often beat her terribly.
When she was in her 40's she came to know Christ, and finally found acceptance.
Now certainly not all Koreans are like this. I know a native Korean whose parents are absolutely wonderful to me, and there are many things to love about Korea and its people.
I have read that during the Korean War, mothers became known for fastening the sashes around their bodies as tightly as they could -- in an attempt to ignore their own gnawing hunger pains while they gave any scraps of food available to their children instead.
But there are other unpleasant and ingrained cultural beliefs regarding children who aren't wanted, and it's tough, if not nearly impossible, to change them.
Of course all things are possible with God.
But if one looks at the cultural scars and clashes we struggle with even in the USA, it's easy to understand why there's often little to no change.
Girls that should have been boys, daughters when the parents wanted sons...the story of a lot of chinese families. In China, there used to be a 'one child' policy (which has been revoked now) because the CCP took measures to curb the population, which had grown exponentially after the Cultural Revolution.
Its traditional for sons to inherit, and daughters to be married out. Those who remain unmarried, are called 'leftover women'. But the CCP recognises their economic power as workers, and there is a phrase that goes 'women hold up half the sky'
I wasn't a product of this Cultural Revolution...diaspora/refugees from Hong Kong managed to bypass it. But I was always acutely aware of the tradition that sons are more valued than daughters, and it has been that way for thousands of years. It is even in the Bible with the Jewish people.
In China girls are aborted or abandoned in favour of sons. That is why there are a lot of orphaned chinese girls and international adoption. It is similar to Korea but not quite...poverty is also a factor, but it used to be that rural families had many children because they needed help in the village rice paddies. Urbanisation has now affected the population, even around the world, couple simply cannot afford to have more than 2-3 children. The suburbs or American dream was to have on average 2.5 children because a typical suburban home had 3 bedrooms.
So, yes there are lot of unwanted children in the world. I think those who are Christian and grew up with 'godly' parents and raised in church, tend to forget this, and assume everyone lives the way they do. Or they bludgeon people with. their middle class values and think their wealth sort of makes them superior to everyone else. It just comes across as smug. I mean they can't help it, but not everyone had the privelige to be raised as they were. Not everyone has a church to go to or somewhere to belong.
As for gangsters, well yea what type of gangster depends on where you live, I mean, according to some people, gangsters are people who wear ties and suits, and are sopranos lol. Really? They've never lived in the 'hood.
Its traditional for sons to inherit, and daughters to be married out. Those who remain unmarried, are called 'leftover women'. But the CCP recognises their economic power as workers, and there is a phrase that goes 'women hold up half the sky'
I wasn't a product of this Cultural Revolution...diaspora/refugees from Hong Kong managed to bypass it. But I was always acutely aware of the tradition that sons are more valued than daughters, and it has been that way for thousands of years. It is even in the Bible with the Jewish people.
In China girls are aborted or abandoned in favour of sons. That is why there are a lot of orphaned chinese girls and international adoption. It is similar to Korea but not quite...poverty is also a factor, but it used to be that rural families had many children because they needed help in the village rice paddies. Urbanisation has now affected the population, even around the world, couple simply cannot afford to have more than 2-3 children. The suburbs or American dream was to have on average 2.5 children because a typical suburban home had 3 bedrooms.
So, yes there are lot of unwanted children in the world. I think those who are Christian and grew up with 'godly' parents and raised in church, tend to forget this, and assume everyone lives the way they do. Or they bludgeon people with. their middle class values and think their wealth sort of makes them superior to everyone else. It just comes across as smug. I mean they can't help it, but not everyone had the privelige to be raised as they were. Not everyone has a church to go to or somewhere to belong.
As for gangsters, well yea what type of gangster depends on where you live, I mean, according to some people, gangsters are people who wear ties and suits, and are sopranos lol. Really? They've never lived in the 'hood.
Can't believe no one has commented how pagan the idea of soulmates is in this everything is pagan thread. Guess it's up to me to take care of that.
SOULMATES ARE PAGAN YALL!
SOULMATES ARE PAGAN YALL!
What exactly is paganism? How different are pagans from heathens?
People always talk about it but I'm never sure what it exactly is.
I think the preferred term is 'unbeliever' but that doesn't stop people having other beliefs i.e belief in Santa Claus and the tooth fairy.
People always talk about it but I'm never sure what it exactly is.
I think the preferred term is 'unbeliever' but that doesn't stop people having other beliefs i.e belief in Santa Claus and the tooth fairy.
oh okFor we who are both pagan and heathen, it doesn't really matter.
Peathagens?
We have a store called Pagani in nz and it sell's women's clothing, which I suppose is pagan...there are no christian bonnets and the clothing isn't cotton quilting or pintucks. It's kind of more evening wear.
Australia does have a clothing store called Witchery and that sells witches clothing like black dresses and skirts.
I have bought a blazer from Pagani, and I do have a witchery skirt (but it's green) so, Maybe I am one as well as Christian. I mean, can you not be both at the same time?
Also, sometimes I do go out at night and its not the done thing to wear day clothes during the night. You are expected to dress up for some strange reason. But then what about pyjamas?
Now how about them Barbarians. How do they dress? I am supposing ripped and torn jeans, and maybe togas because you said Barbarian beds only have one blanket or do you mean a sheet. That extra sheet may have been stolen for uses as a toga rather than the blankets. A true Scotsman wears a picnic blanket.