So, you're complaining about your aunt complaining huh?
You don't even want to know what I would have done if I was your aunt in this situation.
Why do you let other people control how you feel?
If a man ever talked to me this way, they would be picking their dignity up off the floor and trying to put it back together with tears in their eyes while sucking their thumb
YOU need to get the message that YOU are in control of your life and your own emotions. Don't blame others because you cannot maintain self control, snapping at people and telling them to keep their mouth shut shows you have some serious anger issues. Whether you are just irritated at the moment or this is a daily thing for you...YOU need to work on your own attitude before you start to point out flaws in others.
People get annoyed at people all the time, but that is no excuse to lose control and react in ways you have described. There is probably a reason why your aunt is so negative. If people snapped at me and talked so bad about me like you talk about her then I would probably not be tip toeing through the tulips either.
I'm not sure if even want to talk to you but okay. I think your just looking for trouble but for the sake of making things clear for everybody else... here you go and hopefully you understand me better after this too.
The way my aunt complains is different from how I complain. She is what I'd call a fatalistic complainer... she points out negative things and then assumes and is convinced bad things are going to happen. For example, one day, when I got into my car (the car was in parking position [key point]) from the passenger side... and tried to get into the drivers seat. (I forgot why but I did it that way) My foot accidentally turned off the car because it hit the keys. The keys were still in the car, in the on position. Anyways, my aunts face focused on that and stared and I said. "aunt its okay just go home." She stayed for a moment still focused and stared at my foot as if to supervise... and I said again "aunt don't worry just go" and she remarked in a complaining voice and crunched up her face, almost seemed like a sad face "but you turned off the car with youur foooot" I replied, "yeah I know, it's no big deal" and hesitantly she left. It wasn't a big deal but somehow some little accident seemed like a big deal. I think she's paranoid about little bad things.
Also, when were running against the clock... if I'm not moving at the pace she thinks is best... she assumes and says things like "your gonna be late", "Your late" but in reality... I can count the number of times I've been late on one hand in the past FEW YEARS. But imagine hearing that on a daily basis. It would get old and annoying really fast. I snapped at her once about that... I've tried explaining to her in a nice way several times by the way. Anyways, she can complain about things and is fatalistic about things.... it sucks.
I on the other hand... am complaining about a behavior that is clearly not right. That's the difference. Her complaints about me... are mostly unjust and my complaints about her are just.
I'm not sure if I let people control how I feel. I think if I do and did... then maybe it's because I open up to people and let others talk to me which would make me and anyone vulnerable. I can't help but be vulnerable. I'm actually a pretty sef-controlled emotionally but nobody is a stone.
About you telling me your reaction... if a man were to talk to you... the way I talked. This is why I doubted about replying to you. Again, I'm not saying that all women are like that... but there are definitely some.
Maybe, there are some things that need to be worked on in me. On the other hand, maybe my reactions were absolutely just. All said and done, woman still have issues aswell... some a hell lot more than others.
I snapped at her because after years of frustrating behavior. In that context, I think I was okay. When things get bad, real bad. I think it's okay to express how bad it is. Would you speak softly in the sight of murder or would you yell? It's clear that yelling would be just if not the only just thing to do.
No offence.