I have a bad view of women in general

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cynicalguy

cynicalguy

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I am very close to you I have the same problem but i have figured out the cause. women seem kinda like harlots to put it nicely there out there to be seen. which is allright theres nothing wrong with that but they dress horribly friend zone all the good guys go out with all the idiots complain there are no good guys in the world and get on your nerves.

This is cause by all the crap shows on TV like Home an away etc by the time women are 12 they are introduced to sex and the pleasure and pain it causes they are also told HAY IF U DONT HAVE A MAN U DONT FIT IN. If we destroyed every TV in the world and all the books for women like womens day and teen mag hot topic I think they might improve It would also be an idea to get rid of facebook because that's just annoying.

However we still need women and should accept them for who they are. I will admit I have met some strange ones but hell to some people im strange. so to some it all up We have to cut them some slack and give them the benefit of the doubt because most of them don't know any better. It will be hard but we cant genralise every 1 n say well if there not like my perfect idea of how a women should be there not good enough. if we do we will be judged accordingly by god.

Good to hear your thoughts Im glad someone else has the problem as well and its not just me losing my mind.
 
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Hellooo

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Harboring resentment and bitterness towards "women in general" ultimately hurts you. It drives other people away from you and stunts YOUR own spiritual growth.

Part of becoming an adult includes learning to move on, and recognizing our own limitations, what we can and cannot control. People, including women, will always fail you. People will lie to you, cheat, steal, hurt those you love, and die and leave you behind. In spite of our failings, (and I know I have MANY) people can also demonstrate great strength, wisdom, courage, and love. Only God won't fail you.

You can wallow in self pity and find millions of reasons and examples that other women are at fault for your attitude, but it's fruitless. Continue to snap at other people because you think they "need" it, throw tantrums, hold grudges over money, resent people who've wronged you. You'll just keep being a victim.

As a nagging woman, I see a real opportunity to try and overcome the cards you've been dealt with, to learn what it means to forgive, and be an example to those who persecute you. I understand you are entitled to feel however you want. However, some feelings cause us to be less productive.

A lot of people have given great advice already, and if you want to talk about that, GREAT. If you want to keep venting about all the things you find wrong with the women in your life and apply it to all women, then I'm out of the pity party.
 
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Robbinette

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Buff_Old_Guy said:
I don't know if God approves... because I think it was okay? I mean me expressing like that sent her the message and she received the message. She even agreed that she'd try to be less like that. I don't think talking to a woman super duper nicely all day everyday is going to show her... how bothered you are or mad you are... when your actually bothered and mad.

Would I want my daughter or future wife to be "put in their place?" It depends, on how it's done. If it's done with a just reason... yes... if not.. then no. For example, if my daughter was eating another human being... I'd want my son-in-law.. to scream and rebuke her and "put her in her place." In a righteous way. In other words, I think it's okay to correct people. I'm not advocating senseless rage. That being said...

"So my thoughts is this I know what I'm worth as a Christian woman and I would never allow a man to disrespect me or make me feel less of a person no matter how I'm acting."

What you said, seriously isn't right. I hope this is changing you mind.

I don't know if God was testing me. Maybe he tested me to rebuke her and I past the test... MAYBE. I don't know.

Thanks
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We are just going to have to agree to disagree :) Good luck to you and God Bless!
 
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Buff_Old_Guy

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Hellooo said:
Harboring resentment and bitterness towards "women in general" ultimately hurts you. It drives other people away from you and stunts YOUR own spiritual growth.

Part of becoming an adult includes learning to move on, and recognizing our own limitations, what we can and cannot control. People, including women, will always fail you. People will lie to you, cheat, steal, hurt those you love, and die and leave you behind. In spite of our failings, (and I know I have MANY) people can also demonstrate great strength, wisdom, courage, and love. Only God won't fail you.

You can wallow in self pity and find millions of reasons and examples that other women are at fault for your attitude, but it's fruitless. Continue to snap at other people because you think they "need" it, throw tantrums, hold grudges over money, resent people who've wronged you. You'll just keep being a victim.

As a nagging woman, I see a real opportunity to try and overcome the cards you've been dealt with, to learn what it means to forgive, and be an example to those who persecute you. I understand you are entitled to feel however you want. However, some feelings cause us to be less productive.

A lot of people have given great advice already, and if you want to talk about that, GREAT. If you want to keep venting about all the things you find wrong with the women in your life and apply it to all women, then I'm out of the pity party.
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I was over it several posts ago and maybe over a week ago. I wasn't doing this to throw a fit. I suppose I did vented but I honestly just wanted people to talk to... I don't share this sorta thing with anyone.. sometimes not even the closest people to me. I like my privacy.

I know I shouldn't hold grudges and forgive and all that. I was just mad. So, yeah I'm swell now. Thanks for replying
 
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Buff_Old_Guy

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thecreationtutor said:
Out of the heart man speaks - We cannot blame people for our reactions - we control our reaction
NO temptation has seized you but what is common to man - that means other men are getting more victory in this area, and there are some worse off.

We are without excuse - especially if we are Christians, God has given us everything we need, to live a Godly life and to Choose Him - God equips us for every situation
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On one hand... I think people can be blamed for our reactions... think of this... someone kills everyone you love.. do you have any reactions? I bet you would. Then going further... the Bible says our true enemies is not flesh.. but dark principalities... demons.. dark spirits are our true enemies.

On the other hand, God is there and we do have him so we do have everything we need to overcome anything.

Thanks for replying, I'm okay now.
 
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Buff_Old_Guy

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Relena7 said:
What are you trying to accomplish with this thread anyway?

Is the sole purpose of this thread just you trying to bait someone who is similar enough to your aunt or every ex you ever had into responding mean and familiar just like they would just so you can "put them in their place" as some bizarre attempt at making things right?
Because if that is what you are doing, I can assure you, it won't work. All you are doing is using innocent women as a scapegoat to complain. Nothing here is actually productive. People here have given you plenty of advice and it doesn't seem like you even care.

You are just unnecessarily hurting peoples feelings and giving the place a bad vibe now.
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Hey, I'm sorry.

Nuuuu, this thread wasn't to bait people so I can "put them in their place." Actually this has been productive because I was reminded a lot that... I shouldn't just think badly of all women. Not to hold grudges... to forgive... and that it's a human problem not just a woman problem.

I do care. And I still care now, sorry... I know people can't tell.

Again, sorry about hurting people's feelings but I WAS challenged and I responded.

I'm okay now so... yeah sorry and thanks for your input and that one.. stealthy disrespectful and funny post of yourself... the one where you "hit" me. lol

k thnx bye :3
 
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PrettyBelle

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Buff_Old_Guy said:
I don't know if God was testing me. Maybe he tested me to rebuke her and I past the test... MAYBE. I don't know.

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Or He was giving you the opportunity to turn the other cheek, or learn to forgive more than 7 times.
Our interactions with others are blessings from God, whether good or bad. They give us opportunities to grow and change into the image of our Lord. Sometimes actions speak louder than words, but words can hurt more and can't easily be forgotten.
Why not use these interactions to take the Christ-like actions? They may not see or care but our Lord does. He gives us millions of ways to rectify and redeem ourselves. Most times we make the wrong choices, but by grace and forgiveness we dust ourselves off and try again.
 
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