lol my first thought is that you are not alone in not liking nagging women because its even written in the Bible.
see this man would rather live on the corner of the roof than have to share a house with a contentious woman, another said do camp out in the wilderness than live with an angry and contentious woman
, but to be equal, a contentious man can cause as much trouble.
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my next thought was that a relationship is not healthy if its not based upon the mutual giving and love of both people. for example. my husband kind of spoils me and does things to make me happy, but I in turn try to do things (even things I don't like doing) because i know it makes him happy and because I know he doesn't like doing them any more than I do but we both know it needs to be done. (mostly laundry and dishes, thank God our kids are now potty trained but that was what I viewed as labor of love)
I believe truth is important but the truth is that feelings matter as well. however Christ told us to value others higher than ourselves and too view their needs above our own and if we surround ourselves with people who follow God's ways then they too will look to our needs and no one will want for anything. I guess for me that is what love and family should be about.
Anyway hope you find someone who will love you as much as you love her. Just make sure you are mature in Christ and ready for the responsibility(both spiritual and financial) of being a man of God and head of the household.
Feelings just say how you feel.. I'm sure their important for informational reasons. But, not a guide to life. It's not I feel therefore the whole universe revolves around my feelings.
so where did the money come from?
You don't have to answer but it seems strange that your mom has access to that money if you had a job and was saving for college.
It would make sense if your grandparents or dad saved it and placed it in trust under your mom until you were old enough to go to college. However, why didn't they just put it into bonds under your name and allow you to withdraw it when you turned 18?
Also there is the factor of what she used the money for: bills, food, etc would be understandable.
clothes (for herself not you), jewelry, etc not so much.
hmmm going to read the rest of the thread maybe it gets answered...
It sorta non of your business... no offense, but sure...
I'll answer vaguely. The money was mine. She knew it was for my college. She spent it. That's all you need to know. She did me wrong... period. Also, the spending of that money wasn't for the needs of our immediate family.
She didn't even ask me... talked to me.
those are your examples?
are you serious?
maybe she is trying to figure out why you didn't just open the driver's door instead of crawling through the passenger's side? lol if my husband or brothers saw you do something like that they would definitely pick on you more and not as kindly as your aunt who just expressed concern about your mental ability to reason. truthfully I would share her concern because its not logically to go through the passenger side when it would only take a few more steps to get in by the driver's side. If you were my nephew I would do more than give you a funny look.
that is not complaining its an observation. if it really bugs you just tell her that you are capable of good time management and you find her reminders insulting and ask nicely if she would stop. however, i doubt it would work. my husband does that all the time and is always rushing us but we all forgive him because we love him and he just concerned about wasting others time and likes being on time. its called being considerate of others to be on time. its not fatalistic at all. you should learn to forgive and/or talk to her about it in a loving and respectful manner.
no not really. she probably thinks the same thing you do. that you are unjust and she is loving and just in voicing her concerns. sounds like a break down in communication.
She clearly didn't care about what side of the door I was going through.. I even think she knew why. The car was parked... and I didn't want to go on the street side... to avoid cars. She was looking straight at the keys.. studying it as if it was a big deal I accidentally turned off the car with my foot. She even commented about it... confirming that she was studying and supervising me.
Also.. you just perfectly demonstrated a fine example of how a woman reads between the lines and makes her own universe out of nowhere and then believe it.
I have talked to her several times. She can be.. IS fatalistic... and they are fatalistic comments. To just claim, were late already... when the vast majority of the time.. were early... means she's fatalistic. And that's the only time I'll explain it to you. I don't want to argue much. It's just the plain truth. It isn't healthy to hear things like this.
I wouldn't be surprised if she thinks I'm unjust about my absolutely just complaints about her. I'm well aware that feelings can dictate truth with women so sure.. she can feel like she's right but she definitely isn't.