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I'm giving you an update:
After I heard, that this woman was interested in me, it worked in me. That's why I made this post.
I was torn. I was intrigued by it, although I might not have noticed her, if I hadn't been made aware of that.
After a while of struggle, we had some contact over WhatApp. But I shut that down after the 2nd day and a phone call.
I blocked her, as a protection, that I wouldn't go further down that road.
After 2 days I was asked by somebody else, if I had done it. I wouldn't have thought it, but that lady was really very upset about it. Self doubt, blamed herself, but didn't know, what she had done wrong a.so.
So, I agreed to talk to her, clearifying stuff.
I did and since then the contact was "normal" - for me it was just two siblings talking.
But I called her friend, to check what was going on.
Unfortunately, this 53-year old lady is deeple infatuated, rose coloured glasses, hopeful for the future.
Now I'm deconstructing it - piece by piece. Because she is nice, because I am maybe a little bit to blame, that it came to this.
After I heard, that this woman was interested in me, it worked in me. That's why I made this post.
I was torn. I was intrigued by it, although I might not have noticed her, if I hadn't been made aware of that.
After a while of struggle, we had some contact over WhatApp. But I shut that down after the 2nd day and a phone call.
I blocked her, as a protection, that I wouldn't go further down that road.
After 2 days I was asked by somebody else, if I had done it. I wouldn't have thought it, but that lady was really very upset about it. Self doubt, blamed herself, but didn't know, what she had done wrong a.so.
So, I agreed to talk to her, clearifying stuff.
I did and since then the contact was "normal" - for me it was just two siblings talking.
But I called her friend, to check what was going on.
Unfortunately, this 53-year old lady is deeple infatuated, rose coloured glasses, hopeful for the future.
Now I'm deconstructing it - piece by piece. Because she is nice, because I am maybe a little bit to blame, that it came to this.
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Sorry to hear it's gone a bit sideways. I'm praying things will get sorted out in a positive way.
In my experience, women who are quick to get relationships are: a) Desperate; b) Needy; c) Emotionally damaged somehow; d) Lack discernment; e) Lack impulse control; or, f) A combination of two or more of the previous. There's also a good possibility she's playing some kind of game, the rules of which are known only to herself. She may be trying to manipulate you. I'd be very careful you don't get entangled in something you'll regret. If all else fails, remember the words of the famous Paul Simon song: There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.
In my experience, women who are quick to get relationships are: a) Desperate; b) Needy; c) Emotionally damaged somehow; d) Lack discernment; e) Lack impulse control; or, f) A combination of two or more of the previous. There's also a good possibility she's playing some kind of game, the rules of which are known only to herself. She may be trying to manipulate you. I'd be very careful you don't get entangled in something you'll regret. If all else fails, remember the words of the famous Paul Simon song: There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.
Hi - I am a little different. I am 91 yrs old. My wife passed on to be with her Lord late last year . We enjoyed 68 great years together. I miss her terribly but know we will soon meet again in better circumstances. I attribute the 68 good years to the fact that before I met my wife I asked the Lord to lead me to the right woman. I always maintained that my wife was proof that God does not make mistakes. I recommend to you and all young people to pray a similar prayer.
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The original poster said he was having no trouble with celibacy and felt he may be one of the ones Paul was talking about who should remain unmarried. Maybe this experience has him rethinking that, I don't know.
Someone who was called while celibate, and they are content staying that way, should stay celibate in my opinion. If a man needs a woman, then by all means ask the Lord for a good woman; she will bless you.
Someone who was called while celibate, and they are content staying that way, should stay celibate in my opinion. If a man needs a woman, then by all means ask the Lord for a good woman; she will bless you.