Would you or do you share bank accounts with your spouse?

I wouldnt share accounts
If he needs anything he can talk to me But i wouldn't share all of my stuff.
Saw it with my dad. He leaves and empties the account..not withme

I’m the sort of person who never gets into debt. Never had a credit card or taken out a loan. If I want something I save up and budget for it. I also am ok splashing out as long as priorities are covered. I’m not a miser either I will cheerfully give to others when there is a need. I’ve given lots away over the years God has never allowed me to outgive Him though.

It’s hard to find someone with the same mentally even among Christians. We live in a society which borrows and uses invisible money at the drop of a hat. The buy now pay later mentality.

That’s why I personally would prefer separate accounts as most people that I know don’t think twice about credit cards and loans. Separate accounts would prevent a lot of arguments.

The trouble is that in modern American culture marriage is so over romanticized that most people don't stop and think just how serious it really is. I used work in a drive thru wedding chapel in Vegas. It was all great fun doing things like renting a convertable or a Harley, going thru the tunnel of vows (tunnel of love is copyrighted) having some fake Elvis sing a couple songs to you, with a minister, photographer and videographer and doing a burnout down the strip, while the bride throws the boquet over her shoulder without a care in the world, hair flyin' in the wind.

Great fun but people no longer consider, hey wait a min. This is a contract between us and God for life, I may have to change their diaper. They may die and leave me with a mountain of bills and kids to take care of with a broken heart. People now days are too myoptic and self centered. Who among us has considered when we got married, if things go right one of us is going to die and leave the other alone and probably with a broken heart or worse yet, divorced?

Amen to Paul in 1st Corinthians chapter seven saying it's better not to get married but because of our flesh maybe we should. (yes I paraphraised, I'm not going to type the whole thing out) but at least be serious about the comitment. Have fun with it, be happy, seriously happy. That's all for now,...calibob

Considering half the marriages in America end in a divorce, and that means half the kids have already lived through a divorce before they grew up, I can't imagine anyone not worrying about death, divorce, or heartbreak when considering marriage.

I'm younger than my husband, and he was 11 years younger than my mother was when she died. I went into this marriage expecting him to die in 7 years, because he was so very old already. I've been happily surprised for the last three decades he didn't do what I expected he'd do yet. And also very shocked at how young we both were! Still, unless we get in a car crash together and both die, one or the other will die first, and leave the other one heartbroken and feeling completely incompetent. (We're so used to the other one doing certain things around the house, we've lost all skills to do it ourselves. I know I used to be able to set up a TV. Now I can't.)[/Q

I was sharing my perspective as a wedding professional. that's all.

I think what some people don't realize is that even if the couple involved is the most loving, most Christian-of-all-the-Christians-out-there people, there are plenty of people out there who are not, and can easily enter into the picture. You also don't know what changes your spouse might go through, such as turning to rampant alcoholism or addiction in response to the death of their mother.

I used to work at a store that processed a high number of money transfers, and I can't tell you how many lonely elderly people we had giving thousands of dollars every week to what they thought were young, extremely attractive members of the opposite gender online who "were in love" with them.

Even when we had the police talk to one particularly sweet elderly woman, she just wouldn't listen--until she realized she'd been scammed out of a rather large sum of money.

For those who had lost their spouse, I often wondered what their deceased spouse would say about them spending all the money they had earned together on a nonexistent, "hot" 24-year-old.

Now granted, I can't say I wouldn't fall prey to something like that either. I've had moments in my own life where I was in an emotional pit and did a whole lot of stupid things.

But I guess I am guilty of planning to haunt any future husband even from beyond the grave. If I should marry and then pass away first, I don't want my former husband spending any money I contributed to the relationship on his new 18-year-old girlfriend, sorry. IF he wants to spend HIS money on her, go right ahead--it's his to spend.

But if I want to will my last $100 to my nephew for college, THAT'S where I want it to go, not to some online predator who runs a lonely hearts club.

Now, as much as I would like to think he'd only do that out of all the IMMENSE SORROW he felt over losing me (ha ha ha), I would do everything legally possible to make sure anything I might have had or contributed went to better causes.

before getting married, we talked about finances. we were completely honest with each other about whatever debt we had. we agreed how we wanted to handle da monies.

now that we are married, although he takes care of the bills, i have access to EVERYTHING. i don't check often, but i do look at our account. what we do is working for us. each couple is different.

Our goal from the very beginning was to buy a house. To buy a house, you need credit. To get credit, you have to buy something you can afford on installment plans. (Our first installment plan purchases were cars. Our last one was to buy our first computer. A 486 Packard Bell with Windows 3.11, if you want to know how long ago this was.) We paid everything on time, because we knew we could afford to do that. Then we got the credit cards, and instead of paid off what we bought that month, we left a little in until the next month, because if you pay them all off each month, you're still considered a risky-borrower. (I don't make the rules, so don't ask me to explain why.)

But buying a house would have cost us 60 years of saving, since we'd have to pay for rent while saving up for the house, so I don't see anything wrong with buying a house on credit. I cannot imagine who those people are that they can buy a house in cash. I've known parents who give their kids a house as a wedding present, but then again those parents were saving for years to do that, too. And they owned their houses by that time, so could afford to save more each month.

Is not about money, because money represent Satan, money are Satan's bait. Like a fisherman use bait to catch a fish, the same Satan use money, earthly gold.

Then who is your teacher ?
You all better study Genesis chapter 3

Satan go at woman and the woman go at man.

By who is raised the man, not by the woman ? - and lead the child to have fun, entertain and to worship money ?

Considering half the marriages in America end in a divorce, and that means half the kids have already lived through a divorce before they grew up, I can't imagine anyone not worrying about death, divorce, or heartbreak when considering marriage.

I'm younger than my husband, and he was 11 years younger than my mother was when she died. I went into this marriage expecting him to die in 7 years, because he was so very old already. I've been happily surprised for the last three decades he didn't do what I expected he'd do yet. And also very shocked at how young we both were! Still, unless we get in a car crash together and both die, one or the other will die first, and leave the other one heartbroken and feeling completely incompetent. (We're so used to the other one doing certain things around the house, we've lost all skills to do it ourselves. I know I used to be able to set up a TV. Now I can't.)

How about that! I'm buying my groceries with Satan!

Is not about money, because money represent Satan, money are Satan's bait. Like a fisherman use bait to catch a fish, the same Satan use money, earthly gold.

Then who is your teacher ?
You all better study Genesis chapter 3

Satan go at woman and the woman go at man.

By who is raised the man, not by the woman ? - and lead the child to have fun, entertain and to worship money ?

I guess I'm all set then. If satan's only avenue of attack is through the woman, all I have to do is remain single and I'm golden.

Oh, labor pain is nothing. My mom said a bad toothache is worse. The amazing thing is, the baby kind of makes a woman forget what she just went through!

I think God is nicer to women than He is to men. He always looks after the underdogs and the weak. For example, when Samuel’s sons were being jerks and stealing from the people, God got onto Samuel for being a bad father- not on Mrs. Samuel.

Men have more responsibility. God always takes the woman’s side, like the woman taken in adultery- and when Tamar had to pretend to be a harlot because Phares did not keep his promise.

And God agreed with Sarah that Ishmael had to go- yet God was good to Hagar and had compassion on her in the wilderness.

Leah was hated, so God made her fertile. Then Rachel wanted a baby, so God let her conceive Joseph.

All throughout the Bible, God is very kind to women.

I wish feminists knew.

I'm fairly certain that loud screaming in the labor room is something.

According to Emil, Satan attacks men through women. The reason why men love money is becauae women have raised them to love money.

Since I am an old woman, he gave me the scriptures about how to conduct myself in a more seemly manner.

Momentary pain for a lifetime of reward is nothing. I don’t know, but I think women are the more privileged sex as we get to conceive and bear children.

Psst, just think how cool it would be if men had to give birth instead. Lol

Psst, just think how cool it would be if men had to give birth instead. Lol