Would you or do you share bank accounts with your spouse?

Let me get this right. Satan means money. Satan attacks women. Does that mean all women should be loaded?

In hopes of getting this train back on the tracks...........

My wife and I have always maintained a joint checking/savings account. Since I'm the one to sit down and pay the bills I'm the one who knows how much "disposable" money is in the account at any given time so my wife gives the courtesy of asking prior to major purchases, not because I demand absolute financial control but because she knows that a major purchase at the wrong time could have a bad affect on our finances.

I've know a handful of couples that do 3 accounts......his, hers, theirs and it always seems to me that there is a lack of trust and frequently a lack of long term financial planning as a couple that goes along with this model.

Interesting.

My friends who don’t share bank accounts also say that whoever out of the two of them earn less shouldn’t have a right to “spend” the higher earning ones money. But it makes me think, why did they get married in the first place if they cannot share money? It’s not even about money tbh, it’s about the unconditional love that was taken as a vow to their spouse.

Money is not evil, it’s HOW you use it and HOW you spend it wisely imo.

1Tim 6:10 “For the love of money is the root of all evil...”

Notice it says “for the love of money”, so when you start to put money first before everything else, that picture is telling us that you are loving a materialistic thing of this world.

But I do also understand why some couples don’t share bank accounts, but I stand by my statement of sharing it with my future H.

I would maybe make 3 accounts but not so much because I dont trust him just so...but because I know his weaknesses. And before running head down into depts id rather keep accounts seperate or make another one

I happen to like Santa Cloud and rabbit who lays eggs.

So, women are incapable of love?

I think the bunnies might be confused after laying eggs.

How about don't marry someone like your dad? I don't think I'd ever marry someone I don't trust, and truthfully my dad is someone I have little trust with. So, I married someone the exact opposite of Dad.

"I would" implies you're not there yet. Are you engaged? If you are, I hope he understands this is the way you're going. If you're not, how do you yet know what his weaknesses are?

There are six men in my family. Two are tightwads. One figured out a career path where money is no object to him and never will be. Ones perpetually broke, so knows how to squeeze a nickel until the buffalo cries. (Which probably doesn't make any sense, unless you've seen enough buffalo nickels.) And two are have it/spend it. I married one of the last type, but was taught tighwadism growing up, so I can go either way.

I do suspect this has everything to do with who you marry, however if you don't trust the man, why marry him? I wouldn't trust a man who doesn't trust me. And, if I don't trust him, I won't marry him. Home is where we can let our guard down, but if I have to keep up my guard in my own house, it is never home.

Where does the bible say I need a pastor or judge to be married before God?
Gods law says if u commit yourself to. One another, become one flesh,... according to him ur married.
No need of paperwork, just commitment

You're not committed if you don't trust him to share what is yours with him.

And, I'm going with "Give to Caesar what is Caesar's" isn't in your Bible?

You're not committed if you don't trust him to share what is yours with him.

And, I'm going with "Give to Caesar what is Caesar's" isn't in your Bible?

Where does the bible say I need a pastor or judge to be married before God?
Gods law says if u commit yourself to. One another, become one flesh,... according to him ur married.
No need of paperwork, just commitment

Render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s is about paying taxes, it is not about sharing money in a marriage. Taxes were due, the disciples didn’t have the do-rei-mi (being fishermen, fishermen are generally poor). The disciples were like “We ain’t payin’ no taxes”. Jesus tells them “Go fishing and open the fish’s mouth.” They open the fish’s mouth and find a coin. Jesus asks them whose face is on the coin, and they tell him it is Caesar’s.

Jesus then says “Render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s and unto God what is God’s.” In other words, pay your taxes and live for God.

You're completely mixing up two different Bible stories there. For those interested:

Paying taxes to Caesar (a last trick question from the Pharisees): Matt 22:15-22

Catching fish to pay the temple tax Matt 17:24-27

But since a lot of church going people aren't aware the second story even exists, I'll give you bonus points for remembering it.

I always believed the Easter Bunny brought the baskets, not laid the eggs, but what do I know?

Emil will get no presents if he does not believe in Santa Cloud. Emil isn’t into fun and entertainment, so I suppose he doesn’t care.

Render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s is about paying taxes, it is not about sharing money in a marriage. Taxes were due, the disciples didn’t have the do-rei-mi (being fishermen, fishermen are generally poor). The disciples were like “We ain’t payin’ no taxes”. Jesus tells them “Go fishing and open the fish’s mouth.” They open the fish’s mouth and find a coin. Jesus asks them whose face is on the coin, and they tell him it is Caesar’s.

Jesus then says “Render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s and unto God what is God’s.” In other words, pay your taxes and live for God.

No, it's about living within the laws of the country. And what country doesn't have a law about marriage licences, witnesses, and someone presiding over the wedding?

I'm going to speak up when someone starts giving excuses why there is no marriage and yet she is married. Marriage is like pregnancy -- either you are or you aren't. There is no middle ground.

(Also, it was the Pharisees, not the apostles.)

I may be misunderstanding or misreading into what you are saying, so if I'm giving you advice that's irrelevant bear with me. I'm pretty convinced that this "married in the sight of God" nonsense is a compromise many younger Christians (and sometimes not so young) make mentally to avoid feeling guilty about disobedience. A way of saying that God approves of what would usually be wrong behavior in this case because we love each other so much and love is the greatest commandment. I'm pretty sure there's nothing in the Bible to support the idea that two people can somehow be married super privately in the sight of God and no one else need be informed or consulted. Commitment without accountability isn't worth much, and part of making it public is to have the community there to hold you accountable to that commitment because it isn't going to be easy. Throughout both history and the Bible marriage has been a public social recognition of people forming a domestic social unit (couple, family, man and his multiple wives in some cultures, household, etc). But I am convinced that it's primarily a social construct rather than a religious one and so God gives few specific commands as to how marriage ceremonies should be performed but plenty of commands against violating it.

The other thing I'll say is that the paperwork is there to help protect the commitment, when done right. My co-worker was talking about how he and his wife waited some ridiculous number of years (like seriously longer than some marriages last) to get married because they wanted to be sure that it would work out. I looked at him and told him that was why you got married, to put the legal and social framework in place that makes it so much harder to get out of it that you're motivated to make it work. If you're committed, you prove it by locking yourself in with no way out. And yes that makes it harder and more long and drawn out and painful if things fall apart, but that also just gives you that much more reason to work hard to keep things together.

And though it's not clear if this is part of your situation or not, I do want to state that God has absolutely no modern requirement or expectation for a man and woman to marry just because they've slept together. That's not marriage in the sight of God, that's fornication (ohhh there's an old fashioned word no one uses outside of church anymore because it makes it sound like people are doing something wrong).

And this is not meant to be an attack on Demi in any way shape or form. I don't know her situation or history well enough to speak intelligently about them. It's even possible that she means something else entirely by married in the sight of God than I understood when I heard it. This is just an attack on bad theology that could lead people into sin or foolish life choices because they think that God approves of those decisions.

No, it's about living within the laws of the country. And what country doesn't have a law about marriage licences, witnesses, and someone presiding over the wedding?

I'm going to speak up when someone starts giving excuses why there is no marriage and yet she is married. Marriage is like pregnancy -- either you are or you aren't. There is no middle ground.

(Also, it was the Pharisees, not the apostles.)