Yes but I don't think one has to be here long to notice. For example if someone asks how to go about finding a mate, most of the answers would say to pray about it and wait. If someone asks how to know if that person is "the one", most answers would again be to pray about it, and a few will criticize the concept of "the one". If someone asks, what do you look for in a mate? You'll get "puts God first" as number one trait, followed by "tall" (from women), and "sense of humor".
What I look for first in a mate is a woman with a pretty smile and beautiful eyes.
How do you find a mate? Well, one way is that the next time you are in a 7/Eleven, at the counter paying for your Slurpee to a pretty cashier, strike up a one minute conversation, and if she is single and available give her your cell phone number. A good place to meet women is also in a laundry mat. Single women have been known to take pity on a man who obviously has no clue on how to separate the whites. You just never know who you are going to meet. Next time you are at your local Super Walmart in the produce section thumping the honey dews to see what one is ripe you might bump into her. If so, ask her for her take on the Kiwi.
Being overly cautious and tentative may work for the young people starting out but after a certain age you probably have a good idea what kind of future spouse you want. If an opportunity should arise you have to be ready to take decisive action and throw the dice and see what happens. If it doesn't work out you can always get a divorce. Perhaps not biblical but a pragmatic way of looking at the situation.
Of course, you should pray about it but God is not going to drop a prospective mate into your lap. Action is required and you must play your assigned role.
People talking about waiting for God's perfect timing, whatever that is, is code for fear of rejection or commitment.
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