Who wants to get married????

Seems like there are a lot of singles on here who are longing to be married. If you're one of the singles here who would like to meet your 'helpmeet' someday, what is stopping you and how long to you plan on waiting.
For those who want to remain single, unless your too young, what do you enjoy about being single?
It's just a thought I've had since I joined on and see so many singles that seem like they're lonesome for a partner(spouse). I'm expecting a lot of 'I'm waiting for the Lord to send the right one'.
So if this is too personal just skip it. My son just said 'be the voice for the many', I hope he's right, lol.

One of my biggest dreams in life is to be a dad. So yes, I hope to be married some day
I don't mind being single, but one of the things I wish I could do is just shut out the ideas/building up of potential happenings. I'm asking God to help me keep my focus on Him because I can get distracted/sidetracked when thinking about the things that may never happen.

I was recently meeting with a mentor from my church and he put it to me like this (someone else gave him this):

"So, you like a girl, then you start to imagine dating, holding her hand, all that good stuff, then you imagine getting married and eventually having children and your hopes get so high for what you're thinking because it's something you really want. Then you decide to go after the girl, and then she shuts you down and it crushes you. Why? She just killed your child(ren)."

^ I'm not saying it always happens this way, and you get shut down, but for the daydreamer this can be real. I was wowed at it. So, I've been just trying to take it easy and just seek God. If He sees it fit, He'll bring her around. I can pray about my inklings and who I perceive as potential partners and trust that God will do the sorting out.

Things that are stopping me, I don't think I'm quite yet confident enough. I still have a lot of days where I'm missing it.

I don't believe that thinking about one day being married and becoming a dad means that your focus is not on God. Would you say that when you are at work to provide for your essential needs your focus is not on God, or when you are shopping for groceries your focus is not on God? God is present during the seemingly trivial or mundane tasks or events and for the major tasks and events as well. This is called living your life.

What your mentor told you about this girl killing your child was totally ludicrous.

Yes, by all means seek God but this seeking process does not mean you must shut out totally the matters and concerns of living your life. God will indeed do the sorting out in finding your heart's desire if that is His will and desire for your life. You are right to pray about such matters.

You might want to consider getting a different mentor, or better yet, become a mentor yourself for a young man that's just starting out

Being a husband and dad myself I can say that it is one of the great things that can happen, a lot of responsibility yes, but being a husband and raising a child is probably the most rewarding thing you will ever experience.

I'd love to married one day, God Willing it happens. I'm 27 years old and have struggled with self esteem, anxiety and many other issues during my adolescent years.
Long story short, I've never been in actual relationship but would love to meet some Godly woman one day. 🙏

You are such a nice lookin young man, you need to see yourself as God sees you. There are many gals on here, hang around and get to know them. Then start a casual conversation and follow the Spirit. Winners never quit and quitters never win. How you present yourself is a message. You should not say negative things about yourself, I'm sure you have many strong points to focus on. Remember, the more comfortable you are w/yourself, the more others will be comfortable around you. Ask God for your partner from Him, then thank him everyday she's on the way.
The comedian Nazareth has a funny story about waiting then finding his wife.
God bless!

You are such a nice lookin young man, you need to see yourself as God sees you. There are many gals on here, hang around and get to know them. Then start a casual conversation and follow the Spirit. Winners never quit and quitters never win. How you present yourself is a message. You should not say negative things about yourself, I'm sure you have many strong points to focus on. Remember, the more comfortable you are w/yourself, the more others will be comfortable around you. Ask God for your partner from Him, then thank him everyday she's on the way.
The comedian Nazareth has a funny story about waiting then finding his wife.
God bless!

Who wants to get married? This is so sudden. We haven't even met!

Who wants to get married? This is so sudden. We haven't even met!

Ya beside you're not the right gender, lol.

It's not an easy question to answer personally.

I am at a point where my desire to get married is diminishing.

Okay, start over.

I guess you could say I was never into getting married because I am supposed to or because everyone else is getting married.
No interest whatsoever because of pressure from family or society - i could careless.
It is one of single most important events in your life - you become one with someone with different background, value, gender, and even sometimes culture - therefore, at least I want to marry someone I'm madly in love with, that's right, you heard me, MADLY in love with. Even with all the downplay on romanticism or what proper Christians ought to do - I want to marry someone I am madly in love with, and I tell my heavenly Dad that's how I would like it to happen (*wink at Him - "Son, did you just wink at me?")

Now, that being said, I am not sure what's stopping me:

1. God: "Son, you ain't ready yet" Me: "Nooo! Objection!"
2. Me: Maybe I'm just not really interested in getting married - I mean, look at me, do I look like someone who is preparing and actively living his life in a manner so he can get married? Not really - it's more like you are waiting for things to happen and may end up in my 80's in deathbed, looking at the ceiling and mutter "So, I am not ready yet Dad?" Perhaps, I've waited little too long based on my own standard or maybe God has something soon and she's right around the corner.

But one thing honestly I can tell you is that I don't think I can ever say that I was 100% content with being single all my life.
My good friend, Lynx, (I hope he considers me as a good friend) is telling you the truth - every word he said.
For me, I don't think I was 100% content being single - perhaps I was mostly content being single but it is that one night when I'm listening to something, some old songs that take me back in time, I feel the need and want to be with the person whom I can be one so I can share the feeling and emotion I feel at the moment - which is precious and very personal to the point where even my own self cannot explain what it is - and want her to feel at least that I'm sharing something that is very important to me and not appreciate but feel and experience that we are 'one' at that moment because she just knows that this guy is revealing to her his innermost part of his being that he is capable of opening up. Not sure if I can get up after we get married for ten years or coming back from work after having a long day and look at her and feel 'Me is one with this gal' instantaneously. However, at least, I want to have moments in our lives where we can and we know we are one (not because we are husband and wife) because of something we experienced together that superseded our human understanding - SO, when I wake up in the morning after being married for 10 years or coming home from having a long day, AND SEE HER, something changes instantaneously - for good and for better - because she is that person that I married and become one 10 years ago. That face, her voice, and just.. her - I feel better already. That is what I want.

That Is What I Want.



PS: Haha.. got little carried away - that's my honest thought on the subject (and sorry if I didn't answer/respond to the topic at hand - and my final answer? I trust Him enough and choose to trust His direction because He loves me, even with all these craziness!)

Darn it. I'll have to call mom and tell her to cancel the dress fitting appointment. LOL.

@alfa19 Sometimes I think it would be helpful if the female made the first move in a way. Like, I've walked on eggshells so many times and then come on a bit too strong. Been told that the way I did it was just "wrong" but not in an ungodly way just that's not how it works...also that image standards and all this surface level stuff. Tis annoying.


the female making the first move sort of happened with Rebekah in some fashion. It was a predetermined first move in order to know the will of the Lord but it is still an interesting example to note.