Do you enjoy your singleness?

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ArtsieSteph

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I know it seems a little bit of an insensitive question, but be honest. I’m sure there are some of us whom God has given the single life for a purpose. It may not be forever, but maybe God has made you content where you are now. What about you?

Personally I can say I’m probably more neutral about it. Not that I “don’t care,” but I don’t think I’m desperate for a relationship, nor am I despairing. It would be wonderful to find a boyfriend/husband of course, but it’s not like my next life plan step to put my time into it you know? I want that evolution from friendship to be natural.
 
Mel85

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I am enjoying my singleness as you call it because seeing the relationships that my siblings have with their spouses makes me enjoy it and appreciate my independence as a single, however I am hopeful in God that He will and is preparing me for my God ordained husband.
 
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NO!
I would love to have someone true to share with!
Sharing the word over morning coffee,studying together,praying together......
I do not think I would be giving up my independence,for if that partner comes from God we will be re-enforcing one another!
 
ArtsieSteph

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I can appreciate that. I personally have the romantic ideals too of a lovely morning coffee together, enjoying movies, walks in a park.
 
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IFOLLOWHIM

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ArtsieSteph said:
I can appreciate that. I personally have the romantic ideals too of a lovely morning coffee together, enjoying movies, walks in a park.
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You my dear are 28,I am 62 these are not romantic ideas for me!
I want to build a solid spiritual faith based relationship with a spiritual partner!

Blessings
 
Going_Nowhere

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It would be nice to have someone, but I manage okay being single. IMO, there are worse things than being alone.
 
melita916

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for a long time, i wasn't happy being single. when i turned 30, i got really bummed out about being single. but God is faithful. He helped me learn to be content, and then after, i was a-ok! :)
 
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I go through phases where I am and then I am not. At present I am content to be single
I would much rather be wirh no one with the wrong one.
 
Lanolin

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I love being single. I dont think marriage is for me...yet.

Also if I want to go to movies or walk in park I can just call a friend. But i can also go on my own not a big deal. I even enjoy going to cafes on my own and treating myself. I just sit there and enjoy the food, thanking God I can have a break, and look at the magazines. Not al, the time but just now and again. Now if I was married I couldnt do thst and would probably feel guilty going anywhere on my own, plus having to ask or tell someone else all the time...what a hassle!
 
Lynx

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Being content is mostly appreciating what you have, more than ignoring what you don't have. The more you look at what you do have, the more you learn to appreciate it, and the less you brood about what you don't have.

Enjoyment does not depend on whether I am single or married. It's just not a determining factor in my happiness or contentment. I am generally enjoying life as a single guy. If I were married I expect I would enjoy life then too.
 
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There are times when I enjoy it greatly. I have been able to develop more friendships due to being single, go on spontaneous road trips and hiking trips, workout whenever I want, serve whenever I want, go to the church of my choosing, and many other things that I am able to do without having to consider a partner.

However, that doesn’t mean my desire to get married has gone away. I’ve come to a place with being ok with that desire being unfulfilled at this time.
 
Mikhal

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Once I Finally quit fighting GOD's calling for me, got quiet with him and listened. My life has become Joyful and more amazing than I ever could have imagined :)
 
tourist

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My take is that being single is mostly a choice and not necessarily caused by God. The choice to remain single can encompass many different things, some negative and some positive but still, in a lot of cases, regardless of the reasons or circumstances, it remains a choice.
 
tourist

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IFOLLOWHIM said:
NO!
I would love to have someone true to share with!
Sharing the word over morning coffee,studying together,praying together......
I do not think I would be giving up my independence,for if that partner comes from God we will be re-enforcing one another!
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That's exactly how married relationships should be. Sharing with the one that you love and who loves you, even ordinary everyday things, can be wonderful. I know that when I leave work for the day there is a woman there waiting for me and who loves me. It's not so bad if you think about it.
 
tourist

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melita916 said:
for a long time, i wasn't happy being single. when i turned 30, i got really bummed out about being single. but God is faithful. He helped me learn to be content, and then after, i was a-ok! :)
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It seems that in your case, once God helped to be content, He searched and found the one of your heart's desire to spend the rest of your life with.
 
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tourist said:
My take is that being single is mostly a choice and not necessarily caused by God. The choice to remain single can encompass many different things, some negative and some positive but still, in a lot of cases, regardless of the reasons or circumstances, it remains a choice.
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I agree. I have had opportunities to be married since becoming a believer, but have chosen not to proceed forward because I didn’t feel peace from God about it or didn’t feel it would be wise for whatever reason.

I could have chosen to marry, but I don’t think it would have been God’s best for me or the other person involved.
 
Dino246

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This thread has one of those titles that raises an eyebrow when truncated on a small screen.
 
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morefaithrequired

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Fortunately I am married to a suitable partner. To be honest when I was single I feared loneliness. I needed someone to share the pain of facing the big bad world. And so did she. I was lucky. By the grace of God we are a good match. Both nerdy loner types. My brothers are still single in their fiftees. But they are made of stronger stuff than me. More independant. If anything i should havr martied in my early twenties. so much time wasting over "will i ever find a soulmate?"
yet it was a necessary time in hindsight.
 
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