How to trust?

It only becomes an issue if you NEED to trust.

Do you feel you still NEED a relationship or are you fine being single? Some people are perfectly okay with never having a spouse. If you are one of those, it doesn't really matter if you can't bring yourself to trust somebody.

Now if you feel like you just have to find a man, but you can't bring yourself to trust any guys... then you might have a problem.

First off all, Hello and thanks for posting your statement😀. I see you have been a member for longer than I, but show still as a new member, so welcome back then sounds like might be in order, so if that's the case, welcome back😀!

Ok. Without context known, I will say this, hopefully it will help. If it is God you don't trust, go to him and be honest, as you didn't by what you wrote here. He would already know, so would not surprise him. Ask him to open your heart to trust him. To Bless you to truly see the things he does daily for you. If it is to trust others, well you can tall to him about that too. Ask him to help you heal. Ask for his Peace and Love to come down about you and that he would hold you close. To bring trust worthy people into your life, that you may learn and see what it looks like. And to not push away those same worthy people through the hurt you have indured.
We all have choices daily. Sometimes we tend to hold onto those things, to try and protect ourselves. But, we need to rely on God and to see there is both kind of people.
I truly hope God Blesses you to rely on his Love most of all and that this helps you to steer your boat back to him in this. There is much less wind resistance when your ship is pointed in the direction of the most High and Loving Father ABBA that loves you (and us all) more then you could possibly know.
Feel free to reach out to chat anytime, get back to you as soon as I can😀.

I think trying to deal with a broken heart and getting ready to give up on relationships forever.

Thanks. Please don't regret starting the thread; it's a really good topic for discussion, even if we're not discussing your particular situation.

Most of us have been hurt in relationships. Trust is a complicated issue and despite the wishes of others at times, we don't simply "trust completely" or "not trust at all". Rather, it's a continuum. Our expectations of others should consider this.

How long ago did you break up?

If it was less than a month ago, wait for yourself to stabilize for a few months and then get back to the topic.

If it was years ago and you're still upset... yeah, maybe relationships are something to give up on.

Four months ago... I need move on but the sadness is so deeply... But I know I will be ok.

Four months is neither long enough to give up on relationships nor is it long enough to say you don't know how to trust. Your nerves are still raw.

After you have settled down and it no longer hurts to think about the relationship you lost (or better yet, when you realize how lucky you are to be rid of that person) THEN you can decide whether you can still trust.

It's perfect... thanks. God bless you. 🙏🏾

Thank you so much... God bless you 🙏🏾🌻

I think trying to deal with a broken heart and getting ready to give up on relationships forever.

Four months ago... I need move on but the sadness is so deeply... But I know I will be ok.

Four months is neither long enough to give up on relationships nor is it long enough to say you don't know how to trust. Your nerves are still raw.

After you have settled down and it no longer hurts to think about the relationship you lost (or better yet, when you realize how lucky you are to be rid of that person) THEN you can decide whether you can still trust.

You are very welcome, I do pray it helps.
If you need to talk, just leave the @BlessedByGod sign in the Chat Thread. Like I said, I do my best to get back to people in a timely fashion. Deeper questions usually take me longer, as I do want to make sure to have adequate time to answer well. With God all things are possible and with trusting people it is not always happiness and joy, sometimes we also find pain. But Time can heal all wounds, or time can wound all heals. But I truly believe it is worth it and we can only truly serve God if we trust in God first share his love with others.
May God Bless you and keep you close. 🙂

You are very welcome, I do pray it helps.
If you need to talk, just leave the @BlessedByGod sign in the Chat Thread. Like I said, I do my best to get back to people in a timely fashion. Deeper questions usually take me longer, as I do want to make sure to have adequate time to answer well. With God all things are possible and with trusting people it is not always happiness and joy, sometimes we also find pain. But Time can heal all wounds, or time can wound all heals. But I truly believe it is worth it and we can only truly serve God if we trust in God first share his love with others.
May God Bless you and keep you close. 🙂

You are very welcome, I do pray it helps.
If you need to talk, just leave the @BlessedByGod sign in the Chat Thread. Like I said, I do my best to get back to people in a timely fashion. Deeper questions usually take me longer, as I do want to make sure to have adequate time to answer well. With God all things are possible and with trusting people it is not always happiness and joy, sometimes we also find pain. But Time can heal all wounds, or time can wound all heals. But I truly believe it is worth it and we can only truly serve God if we trust in God first share his love with others.
May God Bless you and keep you close. 🙂

Four months is a blip if you were married for twenty years. On the other hand, if your relationship only lasted three weeks, your response to the breakup is out of proportion.

Regardless of the length of the relationship, the solution is to take your hurt to Jesus, invite Him into it, and ask His healing. Don't make any decisions regarding the future; it's just the wrong time to do that and any decision made in the midst of pain will be rash.

As Jesus brings you nearer to full healing, ask Him for two things: that He would give you wisdom and discernment so that you can trust appropriately, and that He would use your experience for His glory.

Future? With forty years old? I see my cousins' children getting married, new generations appearing and others after these ... so I don't want to appear pessimistic or a victim, but I prefer to give up on that.

Please remember that we don't know much at all about you, so it's unreasonable to expect completely relevant comments in response.

It may be prudent to consider surrendering the desire for having your own kids, but that is not the only "future" there is. My marriage ended when I was 43. Seven years later, I still have not re-married, and though I hope to, there are no prospects. However, I haven't given up, and probably wouldn't for another couple of decades.

Blacklilly that is a pretty name. Trusting people comes easy to some and hard for others, I am too trusting and have to be wary and learn discernment and it tends to make it where people take advantage of me.
Some people cannot seem to trust others at all but while that can be a good way to not get hurt by others it also secludes you from really knowing and forming a relationship.

They say love is a risk but a risk worth taking and I tend to agree. If you want to learn to trust people first focus on your trust in God, seeking him first in everything we do eventually makes everything else follow. He will form your heart in the way that no advice from others ever could, the issue you are dealing with is a matter of the heart and the only one who can change and mold a heart is God.

bl, you are such a Blessing to us all more than you could ever know and i thank Jesus for your precious preacance on here and in earth, very rare🌎