Court me, Court me Not..
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Between tourist and Sculpt, I get the impression somebody else has been bad-mouthing me behind the scenes... 
This is obviously not the totality of what you do, as sometimes your posts are funny, and even sometimes wise. But, you've done the above disproportionately and I for one am not remaining silent on it anymore. I approached you about this privately, to try to make peace, and you essentially told me to eff off.
Because I have zero desire to argue in these forums -- I certainly won't be going out of my way to do so, as you sometimes have -- I will at select times call you on your garbage.
Conversely, you say something helpful or make a legitimate point, I'll give credit where credit is due. But, your crappy attitude I will not be silent on anymore.
I was in the Ship It thread just before and TheNarrowPath (thanks sis lol) made me think about her comment with saying that there are so many singles here and why aren’t we doing anything about it? (Not in those exact words but just what I understood from it).
There’s some historic rules around that CC is not a dating site - yet we know many successful couples met on here.
It brings me to think and ask what is holding one back from getting to know each other?
Then I have another question, do some of the women here expect to be courted by a man? Are they waiting for them to make the move? Or for the men, are you too shy or timid to speak up and tell her? Are you scared of rejection?
Just wondering and thought I’d post it so I can read some of your replies lol.
Also, I do know a few of us singles who are just content in being single - and that’s perfectly fine
There’s some historic rules around that CC is not a dating site - yet we know many successful couples met on here.
It brings me to think and ask what is holding one back from getting to know each other?
Then I have another question, do some of the women here expect to be courted by a man? Are they waiting for them to make the move? Or for the men, are you too shy or timid to speak up and tell her? Are you scared of rejection?
Just wondering and thought I’d post it so I can read some of your replies lol.
Also, I do know a few of us singles who are just content in being single - and that’s perfectly fine
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And, of course, that was the proper first step to take on the road to possible/hopeful reconciliation.
Matthew chapter 18
[15] Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
[16] But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
[17] And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
The next proper step would be to take with you two or three witnesses, but that's probably going to be a longshot on a forum such as this. I mean, for one thing, there are some cliques here, so it might be difficult to find unbiased witnesses on either side of the dispute.
Anyhow, as you already know, you and I had our own disagreement in the past which we've since peacefully and respectfully resolved. Personally, I found you to be very fair and honest in your private dealings with me, and I believe that we both saw some fault in ourselves, and that we've genuinely admitted/confessed the same.
For whatever it's worth, I think that you're an okay guy. I don't know the inner workings of your dispute with Lynx, but I hope that the two of you can work it out together.
Maybe, just maybe, this will help:
Matthew chapter 5
[21] Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:
[22] But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
[23] Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;
[24] Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
[25] Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
[26] Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.
Others here may disagree, but I am TOTALLY of the mindset that all disputes are ultimately going to be resolved at the judgment seat of Christ...and that there LITERALLY may be "hell to pay" for those who refused to repent and be reconciled.
This isn't a game.
Anyhow, like I said, I hope that the two of you can work out your differences together, but that will require for all offending parties to own and repent of their own guilt.
May it be so.
Matthew chapter 18
[15] Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
[16] But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
[17] And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
The next proper step would be to take with you two or three witnesses, but that's probably going to be a longshot on a forum such as this. I mean, for one thing, there are some cliques here, so it might be difficult to find unbiased witnesses on either side of the dispute.
Anyhow, as you already know, you and I had our own disagreement in the past which we've since peacefully and respectfully resolved. Personally, I found you to be very fair and honest in your private dealings with me, and I believe that we both saw some fault in ourselves, and that we've genuinely admitted/confessed the same.
For whatever it's worth, I think that you're an okay guy. I don't know the inner workings of your dispute with Lynx, but I hope that the two of you can work it out together.
Maybe, just maybe, this will help:
Matthew chapter 5
[21] Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:
[22] But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
[23] Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;
[24] Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
[25] Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
[26] Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.
Others here may disagree, but I am TOTALLY of the mindset that all disputes are ultimately going to be resolved at the judgment seat of Christ...and that there LITERALLY may be "hell to pay" for those who refused to repent and be reconciled.
This isn't a game.
Anyhow, like I said, I hope that the two of you can work out your differences together, but that will require for all offending parties to own and repent of their own guilt.
May it be so.
I did no such thing.
Do you want me to paste our private conversation here to prove it? I guarantee I will not edit one letter.
Of course it would (further) derail this thread, but you've already derailed a lot of threads with your attitude. Why not one more?
What I DID say was that you get offended about everything, and then imagine up more things you can get offended about. Nobody can talk to you without offending you somehow, so I give up trying to talk to you.
You could just put me on ignore. Then you wouldn't have anything to be offended about... At least from me. You'd still get offended at everybody else.
Do you want me to paste our private conversation here to prove it? I guarantee I will not edit one letter.
Of course it would (further) derail this thread, but you've already derailed a lot of threads with your attitude. Why not one more?
What I DID say was that you get offended about everything, and then imagine up more things you can get offended about. Nobody can talk to you without offending you somehow, so I give up trying to talk to you.
You could just put me on ignore. Then you wouldn't have anything to be offended about... At least from me. You'd still get offended at everybody else.
Let me make this very clear. This is a lie.
I've never run crying to a moderator before about somebody hurting my feelings on the forum, but I don't put up with people lying about me. We can get a moderator to review all conversations we have had, in public threads and in private chats, and say whether I told you to eff off.
Do not lie about me again.
I've never run crying to a moderator before about somebody hurting my feelings on the forum, but I don't put up with people lying about me. We can get a moderator to review all conversations we have had, in public threads and in private chats, and say whether I told you to eff off.
Do not lie about me again.
Hey, Lynx.
In line with what Jesus taught in Matthew chapter 18, this would be step #3 (telling it to the church or the body of believers).
I'd suggest that you and Gojira don't skip step #2, which would be trying to find one or two unbiased witnesses who can help the two of you sort things out.
It is possible to add people to private chats.
Perhaps the two of you can come to an agreement as to involving one or two other members in your private discussions to hopefully help to sort things out.
Just a friendly suggestion that is based upon what Jesus taught here:
Matthew chapter 18
[15] Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
[16] But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
[17] And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
In line with what Jesus taught in Matthew chapter 18, this would be step #3 (telling it to the church or the body of believers).
I'd suggest that you and Gojira don't skip step #2, which would be trying to find one or two unbiased witnesses who can help the two of you sort things out.
It is possible to add people to private chats.
Perhaps the two of you can come to an agreement as to involving one or two other members in your private discussions to hopefully help to sort things out.
Just a friendly suggestion that is based upon what Jesus taught here:
Matthew chapter 18
[15] Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
[16] But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
[17] And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
It get what you're saying about the "lie" part, but are you saying that you're not interested in trying to settle whatever dispute there is between you two?
I'm asking because, as I trust you can see, that would be the opposite of what Jesus taught us to attempt to do.
Having said that, in all honesty, I've employed the use of the "ignore" button here a few times myself because I think that some people here are just plain old incorrigible or so blinded by their own unjustified hatred of me that any further attempts at reconciliation would be futile.
Anyhow, I'm just trying to help...
I'm asking because, as I trust you can see, that would be the opposite of what Jesus taught us to attempt to do.
Having said that, in all honesty, I've employed the use of the "ignore" button here a few times myself because I think that some people here are just plain old incorrigible or so blinded by their own unjustified hatred of me that any further attempts at reconciliation would be futile.
Anyhow, I'm just trying to help...
Aye, and I meant to mention that in my previous post, but Sunday school was starting.
While I honor your attempt and I'm glad that you are the kind of person who would make the attempt, I gotta tell you the attempt is futile.
Even after this blows over, he will find somebody else to be upset about. I don't think he can be happy unless he has somebody to be mad at.
No I'm not really putting any effort into resolving this, because I know it will not resolve. Even if it resolves with me, he'll find somebody else to be offended about.
Thank you for trying though.
While I honor your attempt and I'm glad that you are the kind of person who would make the attempt, I gotta tell you the attempt is futile.
Even after this blows over, he will find somebody else to be upset about. I don't think he can be happy unless he has somebody to be mad at.
No I'm not really putting any effort into resolving this, because I know it will not resolve. Even if it resolves with me, he'll find somebody else to be offended about.
Thank you for trying though.
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I do not trust you to do this properly or fairly. That you say you didn't reject my attempts is a lie. That you accuse me in hyperbolic fashion is also an indication of your warped thinking. "Everyone"... "everything"... "nobody"... This shows a limited ability to see a totality of truth. Or, perhaps it's just lazy thinking. It's easier to accuse your opponent in black & white fashion and make yourself feel more justified.
So, you are not to be trusted to be fair or honest. Period. You might prove me wrong, but I highly doubt it.
You can do what you wish. I have since deleted the entire chat, since I came to the conclusion that you are a troll in these forums. So, you can post what you want, derail the thread as you put it (to everyone's joy no doubt), and also favor the presentation towards yourself. There is little I can do to fight back except to present the truth as I best see it. And, so I shall.
You could simply put me on ignore, also. Then, you wouldn't have to listen to me get offended at everybody, over everything, all the time.
Either way, do what you want. I will respond as appropriately as is possible.
So, you are not to be trusted to be fair or honest. Period. You might prove me wrong, but I highly doubt it.
You can do what you wish. I have since deleted the entire chat, since I came to the conclusion that you are a troll in these forums. So, you can post what you want, derail the thread as you put it (to everyone's joy no doubt), and also favor the presentation towards yourself. There is little I can do to fight back except to present the truth as I best see it. And, so I shall.
You could simply put me on ignore, also. Then, you wouldn't have to listen to me get offended at everybody, over everything, all the time.
Either way, do what you want. I will respond as appropriately as is possible.
Correct. I said "essentially". That is how I see your response. I said such and such about you has been bugging me. A lot. I also added some things about you that were positive contributions here. You said that you have nothing to apologize for, and so would not. I see that as you telling me, essentially, to "eff off".
What here is an untruth?
What here is an untruth?
In a leap year apparently it is ok for woman to ask the man to marry them
I just tend to think with habitat destruction constantly looming over the snowflake generation, courting and marriage is not going to be on the forefront of everyones minds right now.
apparently it was all the baby boomers could think about back in the day going by their popular music which was all about getting together and having babies and singing about babies. Theyd just had a war and had to repopulate the earth, land and housing was cheap, and you could feasibly do it.
Now its not.
I just tend to think with habitat destruction constantly looming over the snowflake generation, courting and marriage is not going to be on the forefront of everyones minds right now.
apparently it was all the baby boomers could think about back in the day going by their popular music which was all about getting together and having babies and singing about babies. Theyd just had a war and had to repopulate the earth, land and housing was cheap, and you could feasibly do it.
Now its not.
I was in the Ship It thread just before and TheNarrowPath (thanks sis lol) made me think about her comment with saying that there are so many singles here and why aren’t we doing anything about it? (Not in those exact words but just what I understood from it).
There’s some historic rules around that CC is not a dating site - yet we know many successful couples met on here.
It brings me to think and ask what is holding one back from getting to know each other?
Then I have another question, do some of the women here expect to be courted by a man? Are they waiting for them to make the move? Or for the men, are you too shy or timid to speak up and tell her? Are you scared of rejection?
Just wondering and thought I’d post it so I can read some of your replies lol.
Also, I do know a few of us singles who are just content in being single - and that’s perfectly fine
There’s some historic rules around that CC is not a dating site - yet we know many successful couples met on here.
It brings me to think and ask what is holding one back from getting to know each other?
Then I have another question, do some of the women here expect to be courted by a man? Are they waiting for them to make the move? Or for the men, are you too shy or timid to speak up and tell her? Are you scared of rejection?
Just wondering and thought I’d post it so I can read some of your replies lol.
Also, I do know a few of us singles who are just content in being single - and that’s perfectly fine
However...
I'd want to be friends first. I don't just want the fluff, I want the buddy first, honest conversations that are enjoyable, where sharing and listening happen, and hopefully lots of laughter shared.
Again though, I am cool being single, almost all of the time. I have accepted this is my lott and am better than just ok with it. I enjoy it. Like I said, most of the time.
I don't enter into conversations with ppl here, hoping anything. I don't seek, nope, as that can leave me thinking something is wrong with how it is now. I prefer being content with where I am.
I just enjoy human interaction with my brothers and sisters here. I am a sappy and warm kind of chick, so that can come across flirty or annoying, lol, but not intended that way.
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