Finding a Christian spouse

Here's my prefab answer: Get involved with volunteer work and keep busy. I know many matches were lit by men observing women dedicated to serving, and vice-versa. Also, I'd toss in Mk11;23-24, the whatsoever you desire verses that state when you pray---believe. God bless.

It seems a bit weird that all the Bible teachers with a passion for Jesus I knew were women and the ones that were men were pastors or teachers were already married straight out of high school.

?! Anyway I dont think anyone is being picky but you kind of have to be if you want to be bound to someone the rest of your life until you or they die. (or kill each other, as case may be) We dont want that and God doesnt want that for you.

If you dont really care and just want to have children, any man will do it seems. They will leave and you'll be left bringing them up on your own. then your children will leave when they grow up unless you make them stay (i.e. make life so good for them that they will never want to leave you! )

Maybe just wait a couple decades until those guys settle down?

I have observed that (in general) the older people get, the less they have the energy for getting up to no good. That might be why people wait so long to become Christians. They just can't handle all the drama and junk anymore with doing life the other way.

Does anyone else also feel like as a Christian, finding a spouse is a million times harder than those who are non-Christians? I've made peace with the fact that I can't just marry anyone and that God has to give me the go-ahead before I even entertain the idea of being with someone. The closer I get with God, the more things I add to my list of things that a man needs to have (e.g. a healthy prayer life, knowledge of/belief in the spiritual realm, filled with the Holy Spirit, a desire to worship God every day amongst other things) for me to even consider entering into a relationship and I feel like I might be putting myself in a box by having all these checkboxes. Can anyone relate? I definitely don't wanna settle or end up with the wrong person but I'm worried that I'm being too selective. But it just feels like most Christian men my age (27) that I encounter are lacking in these things/the passion for Jesus.

But it just feels like most Christian men my age (27) that I encounter are lacking in these things/the passion for Jesus.

Yes honestly I know what you mean. Even the head pastor of my church is a woman. In modern times, women have really taken that mantle of being spiritual leaders. Most of my Christian friends are women too. And all the males in ministry I know are already married.

Yeah I definitely don't want to bring children into the world without a solid family structure with Jesus as our foundation because I grew up in an environment where our family structure was very unstable. So I know firsthand how detrimental that can be to everyone involved.

Thank you, that is very good, practical advice. I'm not opposed to meeting on the internet, but you're right, it's much easier to guage what type of person someone is in person. You gave a lot of good points about the reality of "Christian marriage," plenty for me to chew over. Much appreciated!

I just quit looking and am focusing on self improvement and having fun. In America especially many women are completely obsessed with social media and worship their phones. Scary stuff

Sorry I can't add to anything that's been mentioned in this thread, as there's already been some really great suggestions, but I just wanted to say, you are so beautiful!!!

You have glowing skin (sorry, after having struggled with skin issues my whole life, it's something I notice -- and greatly admire -- in others) and, from your answers, a personality to match. Many of us are single and have been so for a long time -- we're all waiting together (or adjusting to singleness if that's what God has for us.)

We invite you to come with us as we enjoy life together and live out our Godly purposes.

Welcome to the site! Hope to get know you more in future posts and threads.

Does anyone else also feel like as a Christian, finding a spouse is a million times harder than those who are non-Christians? I've made peace with the fact that I can't just marry anyone and that God has to give me the go-ahead before I even entertain the idea of being with someone. The closer I get with God, the more things I add to my list of things that a man needs to have (e.g. a healthy prayer life, knowledge of/belief in the spiritual realm, filled with the Holy Spirit, a desire to worship God every day amongst other things) for me to even consider entering into a relationship and I feel like I might be putting myself in a box by having all these checkboxes. Can anyone relate? I definitely don't wanna settle or end up with the wrong person but I'm worried that I'm being too selective. But it just feels like most Christian men my age (27) that I encounter are lacking in these things/the passion for Jesus.

I just quit looking and am focusing on self improvement and having fun. In America especially many women are completely obsessed with social media and worship their phones. Scary stuff

Sorry I can't add to anything that's been mentioned in this thread, as there's already been some really great suggestions, but I just wanted to say, you are so beautiful!!!

You have glowing skin (sorry, after having struggled with skin issues my whole life, it's something I notice -- and greatly admire -- in others) and, from your answers, a personality to match. Many of us are single and have been so for a long time -- we're all waiting together (or adjusting to singleness if that's what God has for us.)

We invite you to come with us as we enjoy life together and live out our Godly purposes.

Welcome to the site! Hope to get know you more in future posts and threads.

I agree with Seoul. You look great.

I just quit looking and am focusing on self improvement and having fun. In America especially many women are completely obsessed with social media and worship their phones. Scary stuff

I can totally relate, I've been saying the exact same thing but I have accepted that I am not ready for a relationship, emotionally, financially, or spiritually, I'm still working on myself, and knowing that gives me peace that God knows it too, and Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 says there is a time for everything, this is the season for self-improvement when God knows you are ready, he will give you the partner he sees fit. The question we should be asking ourselves is, I'm asking God for this certain type of man but am I prepared to receive him?

I sure can relate to that. As for me, I rejected every (many!) supposed potential marriage mates strictly on spiritual grounds.
I knew (definitely knew) that none of them were for me.

I waited DECADES and decades before I found a believing wife. In fact after we first met, we both had to wait SEVEN YEARS after engagement before we were married. And of course only consummated the relationship AFTER we finalized the marriage legally.

So yes, it was quite a trial. With all too many temptations for much too long. And yet I never ate the bitter fruit that Satan was offering.

Our marriage is thereby now sanctified in the eyes of God. And we now enjoy a harmonious and loving marriage, where we both are able to bless many others, bearing fruit for the Lord and serving Him in our small ways.

So yes sister.....I suggest that you do not give in to the temptation to date or marry any person that your heart is warning you to decline. And stay chaste and holy in the eyes of your Lord.

God bless!