My original point was not to somehow tell everyone to start dating married people who were separated... but rather, to hopefully show them some compassion, at the very least.
I'm not sure if everyone out there knows what it feels like to have a spouse who doesn't want you and then know/be told on top of it that not only does your spouse not want you, but you can NEVER AGAIN be with ANYONE ELSE for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. For myself, I feel I am allowed to remarry, as my ex 1. was an unbeliever 2. chose to leave 3. left for someone else 4. our divorce was legalized in 1999.
But my ex was from an abusive household and an expert at keeping secrets. He left without any explanation. PLEASE understand that I had no "outward" reasons for a Biblical divorce for well over a year, and so the things in this thread are what the good Christian people told me. I was 25. It wasn't until a friend of mine found out he'd had a girlfriend this entire time that I finally had a "legal" reason for my divorce (I had moved away from the area and the girl he had chosen was a friend of hers who finally confessed the truth to her.)
When I was in that situation, I wanted to to die, quite frankly.
But I know the good Christian thing for some is to uphold God's word and, depending on the situation, never marry or date or have any kind of romantic contact in your life ever again.
I am not saying we should go against or nullify God's Word.
What I am saying is, forgive me for being human. Because it's very hard to find any hope in that. I know the only answer is to let God change you into being content with being alone for the rest of your life. But it's a hard pill to swallow, and I feel sad for the people who are being given the full (sometimes over) dosage without any compassion, especially when the people refilling the IV have never been given the medicine themselves.
Again, just my opinion is all.