Well my sister rushed into marriage, she felt her husband was the one. He was a youth leader in his church and on the board.What's not to love? But he has been abusive to her. Never hit her,that I know of, but beat holes in the walls, emotionally abused her, called her all kinds of horrible names. Serious anger issues. Finally had to go on meds to cope and keep the marriage together. So I took my time, and we talked a lot about expectations. I dont see being in a rush to marry. Too many sob stories of people that are divorced because they didn't take time to get to know their future spouse. I wanted to make sure we knew what we wanted. We had both been single and set in our ways for a long time. I wouldn't change a thing if I could go back in time. Waiting made me appreciate marriage all the more.