Should I be married to two women?

[Dino246]

Paul did write to Timothy and Titus, saying that a potential elder must be the husband of one wife. Some folks say that means he must be married, others that he must not be a polygamist.

 

[Tommy379]

let's see two to 3 whole threads...(though they were obviously in joking)

Who was joking?

 

[joefizz]

I was just thinking...

do we see anything in the NT about this subject? Those who are pro-polygamy always go to OT.

Well Jesus talks about that if a man gets divorced even though he gets a bill of divorce it is not true,for "what got has brought together none can unjoin"

 

[melita916]

Paul did write to Timothy and Titus, saying that a potential elder must be the husband of one wife. Some folks say that means he must be married, others that he must not be a polygamist.

Ah thanks! I forgot about that passage.

 

[Ezekiel8]

I was just thinking...

do we see anything in the NT about this subject? Those who are pro-polygamy always go to OT.

Well I am not pro-polygamy, but in the NT you have the verses where Paul says a priest and deacons should have one wife. So it is true, having one wife is the most preferential way of things. Nevertheless though as Jesus speaks very ill about divorce and absolutely condemns remarriage as adultery and fornication that is also something that should be considered in a hard moral case like this. This is not a case where it's just oh Chad the playboy wants to have a harem lol, it's a case where by circumstances out of the fellow's control he has ended up with two wives.

 

[joefizz]

Who was joking?

careful now you just wanted someone to cite you flirting,if you weren't joking then you were flirting lol!

 

[AuntieAnt]

I was just thinking...

do we see anything in the NT about this subject? Those who are pro-polygamy always go to OT.

How about the Samaritan woman at the well? She had five husbands and one live-in lover.

 

[joefizz]

careful now you just wanted someone to cite you flirting,if you weren't joking then you were flirting lol!

Take your time Tommy!

 

[Tommy379]

Take your time Tommy!

You would first have to define flirting.

 

[toinena]

Are we back to the topic of flirting......

 

[AuntieAnt]

Sorry if this isn't the right place to post this. I signed up for this forum hoping to get some unbiased, biblical Christian advice on a really odd situation that I'm faced with.

When I was 22 I got married to a wonderful Christian woman. We were married for 5 years, and she and her friends took a trip to a country in central Asia (this was in 2011). A few days into her trip I stopped hearing from her, and no one had heard from her friends either. Long story short, they just kind of disappeared, the foreign country's government couldn't find her, and she was legally declared dead (I was shown her US-issued death certificate).

5 years later (2015) I got married to another great Christian woman. We've been married almost 3 years now and are getting along well.

So now the difficult situation; my first wife has come back. Apparently she and her friends were being held by the government of that central Asian country, suspected of being spies. They recently released her, she made it back home, and I was amazed and so happy to see her again.

Right now we (me, my wife, and...my wife?) are talking about having a three-person marriage. We just sort of mentioned it, at this point we haven't really settled on anything.

So my question is this; would it be biblically acceptable for me to be married to both of them? And if not, which one takes precedence? I truly do love them both, but I need to be right with God first and foremost.
I'm feeling very conflicted, as I made a lifelong vow to both of them. Advice/insight would be very much appreciated.

Tl;Dr My first wife disappeared and was declared dead, years later I remarried, now my first wife has come back.

If you're a true follower of Christ and He is first and foremost in your life, I'm sure you prayed and asked the LORD about this, right? So... what has the LORD revealed to you?

 

[7seasrekeyed]

Well i have to disagree with some people in here marrige is a spiritual matter so just be cause the goverment cannot decide who you are married to. But as you can see im the bible many holy men were married to multiple women so it is perfectly fine.

well, Craig, when you get married, that is just not gonna fly

but remember, since sex is a spiritual matter, no touchy feely for you



and of course this is why God created one man and twelve-teen women

this is what happens when folks just cannot accept what is plainly written and need to embroider around the edges

 

[7seasrekeyed]

1. If this was real, then it would be so unbearably life-shaking you'd be getting advice from your pastor... probably several pastors along with a therapist.

2. If this was real, your post would be overwhelmed with anguish and emotion.

3. If this was real, we'd have heard something about it on the news... the return of kidnap victims is a rather big deal.

4. So, why are you here, talking to us instead of getting serious counseling; why has no one ever heard about this; and why is your post so logical, organized, and dispassionate... as if you're simply asking a well-constructed hypothetical?

4. Simple answer: this is nonsense.





If you're going to ask hypotheticals, please state them as hypotheticals instead of telling our community a bunch of nonsense.

I'm not amused.

hear hear

 

[MissCris]

I’m also of the opinion that if this were a real thing happening, the OP would be taking his question to a pastor or attorney and would seem more...distraught, and less...troll-y.

However, giving the benefit of the doubt-
The first wife was declared dead; there was no divorce, but death certainly ends a marriage (in a biblical manner, too). That marriage is over. The second wife should not be set aside just because someone isn’t actually dead. To divorce the 2nd wife would force her to commit adultery (Matthew 5:32), along with any future husband she may have.

Having two wives is unacceptable- Genesis 2:24 shows us God’s intention for marriage is that a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife (not wives), and the Two shall become one flesh.

Or, on the other hand, maybe just apply the directions below to wives.

 

[Desdichado]

Send spy woman back to Kazakhstan. Number one exporter of potassium. Very nice.

Be strong like Stalin!

 

[7seasrekeyed]

question to the op

why are you posting questions about your two brides are better than one, in the singles forum?

y'all are just having your version of fun, right?

maybe tow the line instead of being offtheline

 

[ChandlerFan]

I was just thinking...

do we see anything in the NT about this subject? Those who are pro-polygamy always go to OT.

But even in that case there is a difference between things in the OT being descriptive and prescriptive. Solomon having many wives was a statement of fact rather than an imperative. In fact, I have heard that Hebrew scholars have noted how, in instances where polygamy is mentioned as a practice in the OT, things seem to go wrong consistently in almost a comical way. Take Abraham, Hagar, and Sarah for instance. So both explicitly and implicitly the Bible is pretty clear in terms of its support for heterosexual, monogamous marriage.

 

[tourist]

I do not find this account of yours to be credible.

 

[tourist]

Well i have to disagree with some people in here marrige is a spiritual matter so just be cause the goverment cannot decide who you are married to. But as you can see im the bible many holy men were married to multiple women so it is perfectly fine.

Yeah, that works if you're a Mormon living in Utah. I don't believe that either wife would put up with that crap of sharing their husband.

 

[Dino246]

Hmmm... two posts by the OP 3 hours ago, nothing since.

What is that smell? It's coming from under that bridge...