So....why are you not married?

[zeroturbulence]

I tell people I am not married because I am smart.

People tell me I'm smart for not getting married.

 

[See_KING_Truth]

I have never been asked "Why are you not married?" but simply "Are you married?" then sometimes, but rarely, the follow-up is "Why not?" Which is a question that I do not have an answer for, and I will tell the person that.

From now on:

If a single woman asks me if I am married I will respond, "Are you single?" and throw a little wink in there too!

If a married man or woman ask me "Why are you not married?" I will respond, "Why ARE YOU married?"

Nothing like answering questions with another question

 

[Liz01]

Depends on who is asking..

Sometimes something like this: I only believe in marriage once, so I take it too seriously to rush into anything, picky, etc. etc. Ask God.
I should probably consdense that to: Ask God. ha.

Otherwise it could just be something like: Well, I'm just living the single life. yadda yadda....

I also might say something such as "I'm fine with how things are" if the person asking is someone I think is going to try to hook me up with their 3rd cousin's best friend's sister or something like that. NO thank you......unless she really really loves God, music, cute and all that stuff...but I'd still be very very reluctant..

Most of the times I've heard it, it was intended as a compliment.

wow niceguy, did someone introduce to you their 3rd cousin`s best friend`s sister? what a coincidence, someone was trying to introduce to me their 3rd cousin`s best friend`s brothers haha

 

[niceguyJ]

wow niceguy, did someone introduce to you their 3rd cousin`s best friend`s sister? what a coincidence, someone was trying to introduce to me their 3rd cousin`s best friend`s brothers haha

LOL Liz.
Not yet, but stranger things have happened.

 

[GreenNnice]

I tell people I am not married because I am smart.

You're very smart, elizzy, I liked your 'mental anguish' example in 'misunderstanding hell' thread of bible discussion. deep and depthy stuff, milady

If we are speaking in the context of a potential relationship, I always tell them that God has not shown me the right one yet. I ask myself this from time to time and then remind myself that technically I could have been married four times by now ... but I want to be married ONCE - not FOUR times! LOL. When speaking to someone who is just curious, I tell them I am biding my time in God.

"A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man has to seek Him to find her."

TurtleShell, I am a staunch advocate of this not being a smart thing to do, I think it deception IF the guy asks you questons and you lie. Just saying, I am not trying to be mean here. The Lord leads. I just think that a good Chrstian guy will VERY quickly ask a girl he likes something of God, and, a thread I did a while back pretty much proved that fact with about 95% saying 'yes' to letting a girl know within the first minute, or, five minutes, or, for sure by end of the time they FIRST meet. This is NOT talking about going out on a date for the first time, just a chance encounter at a supermarket or library, or somewhere (unlike christian chat) that you could assume they were a christian, or, like church, too, but still I would ask and then it is the girls job to....

answer YES ! to their asking, in some way, cute, clever, or forthright, 'Do you believe in God?'

---That's all, nothing further, and, sorry, julieannie, I was starting to derail your thread a bit but I am unwound now and will pick up after myself, in this case, pick up myself and get the thread right back where it belongs, kind of like 38 Special sings, but different.

I don't think anyone has ever asked me that. How sad. lol

Me and you, sad together then, Catty
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Hey, Ritt, not said 'hi' in a long time, cuz not seen you in a long time on here, and, guess what, I am NOT saying 'hi' now either.

Greetings to you, Christ bro

Cheerio
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SeekingHisTruth, I haven't seen your veggie self in here in a while either, I hope in your away time you've been following the Lord, doing the work that's His for you to best better His Good News.

God bless you, too, Christ bro
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I think that phrase, as I wind myself back up, is said not in rudeness, like lizzytheone says. I think it is TOTAL compliment, it can be taken negatively but I don't think people mean disparaging comment by asking 'that' question. I think. Just my two cents. Green of course.

 

[TurtleShell]

That quote, to me, is basically saying that they both should be grounded and rooted in God. I didn't post it as part of the answer I give them, was just a quote I liked I am confused, though, where the deception or lie comes in; He hasn't shown me the one truly meant for me yet so I am biding my time until he does. Okay, not gonna derail, off I go! Lol

 

[azngirlshai]

i tend to avoid that question. knowing that im a single mom and i live in a quite conservative town, makes me just want to hide sometimes or walk away. but i know i can't always do that and i know i'll never be perfect like God. i was lost some time in my life and have this wonderful little kid now who makes me happy every single day and feel blessed about. i thought i could never go on but i never let go of God and still hanging now. i know im nothing without Him. So when someone asks me that question again, i'd answer "God saved me and my daughter from that man. I just want to grow my relationship with God before someone else." He's worth it. Besides, I got all my hands full with my daughter. She's more than enough for me. <3 God loves me and His love endures forever.

 

[azngirlshai]

if im meant to get married, i will. if im not, not a problem cuz i still have a lot of things to do before getting married. for now im just contented being single, im not even looking. i dont hate guys, in fact, im still hopeful of getting married to a man given to me by God. like some of u, i believe in one time marriage only. i'll know it when the time is right.

 

[erika83]

I get asked this question many times, and rather by women because it's usually them interested in digging in people's personal life lol. I just say I haven't met the man I want to marry yet. Then they go "ohhh are you picky???" Some people are just too nosy, some ask coz curious, others want to feel better themselves, showing off they have a husband.

 

[Jullianna]

erika, funny thing...I don't think there's ever been a time when I have seen a woman behave like those you've described above that within a few minutes didn't begin to complain about things her husband did/didn't do. Have you heard this too? This usually just makes me smile to myself and leave them wondering why.

Like I always say...better to want sumfin you don't have than have sumfin you don't want

 

[zander]

Does Church and society have a pre-determined idea that everyone needs to be married to be happy?
If your attractive, wonderful personality, people are going to wonder why your not married
and a simple answer of God hasn't called me to be married atm so i am content with the season i'm in and open to w.e God calls me to in the future

 

[christiancollegegirl]

I'm the only single girl my age at church and at that age where well meaning old ladies try setting me up with nephews, or grandsons of friends or whatever. So far, it's only happened once and I"m pretty sure it's going to happen again. Boy are they in for a BIG surprise next month!!

And when people ask why I"m single or not married, I just say that I haven't met the right one yet.

 

[Theygaveutheirworst]

On the bright side of marriage:

 

[BrittanyJones]

I was just asked that today. I don't care though cause all I need is Jesus.

 

[GreenNnice]

Originally Posted by TurtleShell
If we are speaking in the context of a potential relationship, I always tell them that God has not shown me the right one yet. I ask myself this from time to time and then remind myself that technically I could have been married four times by now ... but I want to be married ONCE - not FOUR times! LOL. When speaking to someone who is just curious, I tell them I am biding my time in God.

"A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man has to seek Him to find her."
A woman should hide her heart in Christ so it is so hard to find.

TurtleShell, I am a staunch advocate of this not being a smart thing to do, I think it deception IF the guy asks you questons and you lie. Just saying, I am not trying to be mean here. The Lord leads. I just think that a good Chrstian guy will VERY quickly ask a girl he likes something of God, and, a thread I did a while back pretty much proved that fact with about 95% saying 'yes' to letting a girl know within the first minute, or, five minutes, or, for sure by end of the time they FIRST meet. This is NOT talking about going out on a date for the first time, just a chance encounter at a supermarket or library, or somewhere (unlike christian chat) that you could assume they were a christian, or, like church, too, but still I would ask and then it is the girls job to....

answer YES ! to their asking, in some way, cute, clever, or forthright, 'Do you believe in God?'

---That's all, nothing further, and, sorry, julieannie, I was starting to derail your thread a bit but I am unwound now and will pick up after myself, in this case, pick up myself and get the thread right back where it belongs, kind of like 38 Special sings, but different.

That quote, to me, is basically saying that they both should be grounded and rooted in God. I didn't post it as part of the answer I give them, was just a quote I liked I am confused, though, where the deception or lie comes in; He hasn't shown me the one truly meant for me yet so I am biding my time until he does. Okay, not gonna derail, off I go! Lol

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The Lrod leads, I like the Christ hidden part, and, scriptuer, has this but there is deception

 

[erika83]

erika, funny thing...I don't think there's ever been a time when I have seen a woman behave like those you've described above that within a few minutes didn't begin to complain about things her husband did/didn't do. Have you heard this too? This usually just makes me smile to myself and leave them wondering why.

Like I always say...better to want sumfin you don't have than have sumfin you don't want

You are right, maybe they envy us singles

 

[FatnWeak]

I don't know what's God's plan is for me and marriage, in general, I've had plans and He changes them but for the best. I have not met someone and I hate to admit because I would love to meet someone, it's not the best time for me to get intimate with someone, according to me while I'm fulfilling my future plans the best time to meet someone for marriage will be in four years from now.

 

[CC_Bride]

I have to admit Ive said this before to a male friend of mine but I meant it as a compliment (as Ive also regularly told him he will be a fantastic Dad and husband when God chooses to put him down that path), but I would never mean it in an accusatory way, as if its their failing or something. And I would never say it to a stranger or acquaintance.

If someone who we think would make a great spouse, isn't a spouse we should not mock their current journey. My friend for example has just moved from a full time well paying job back into education getting more training and so even though we who love him know hes emotionally and spiritually ready for that role, we would never push it or try to set him up while hes down this unpredictable path. Singleness is a time to be lead by Jesus not by well meaning but interfering married friends.

 

[CC_Bride]

If a single woman asks me if I am married I will respond, "Are you single?" and throw a little wink in there too!

LOL very nice!

 

[Liz01]

Months ago, I had a reunion with my friends from school, and a "friend" woman asked me why i wasnt married and i told her that God hasnt showed me yet my husband, well, she started to blame me and asking me why i wasnt suscribed to one of those clubs of singles that have parties and she said that i was single because i never visited a bar. I was starting to feeling uncomfortable when she finally ended to talk and then i told her "so, are you married?" and she said "no, im.......divoced since 5 years ago" so......i asked "why are you not married?" and i started to asking her the same things that she told me before , but when i was starting to blame her for not going to bars to drink and "find her special one" as she told me i felt as if God was looking at me carefully lol, so i had to stop haha