I wanted to bring this thread to the forefront again because many guys are reading my new post,
The Tiny Two-Letter Word That Will Help You Find the Woman of Your Dreams. You could be thinking, "I don't mind saying hi to women, it's the rejection afterward that really stinks."
Rejection is not very pretty
I get it. When I was entering my teens, I discovered very quickly how vicious young girls can be. Unfortunately, many adult women have never outgrown their need to disparage men. Don't believe me? Look no further than some of the replies to my posts. You even have feminist men
attempting to score points with the militant feminist women. What you see here is a microcosm of what you'll see in real life. There's no getting around it.
You can't simply "IGNORE" rejection
In my opinion, the most wonderful thing about this site is the "IGNORE" button above an attacker's name. You just click it, and they magically disappear from your life forever. I love it!
Unfortunately, you can't do that in real life. For example, if you muster the courage to say hi to a woman, and she responds with, "What the #%^*@ is the matter with you?" There's no "IGNORE" button. You simply have to endure her foul mouth.
The good news about rejection
I have good news. You have the freedom to choose how you respond to the situation. Yes, you can choose to blame yourself for the rejection, as most men do. They say to themselves, "Man, if only I were better looking she wouldn't have been so nasty to me." Or "I know if I had more money, women would be more likely to think of me in a more positive light."
Not true! Look at Donald Trump. He probably has more money than all of us on this site combined. Some women love him, and some women hate him. Looks and money are not the issue.
Nobody is 100 percent "on" every time
Some women are going to find you attractive while others are going to find you repulsive. Many times it's due to something completely irrational like having on the wrong color shirt that day. I've even heard some women describe Brad Pitt as being ugly. Go figure.
Choose to put the onus on her
Personally, I choose to put the rejection squarely on the shoulders of the woman rejecting me. For example, today I was at the car wash (I don't have a carwash fixation; I have a company car that the boss requires to be clean all the time).
When I got out to vacuum the seats, one of the pretty young ladies working there came by to unclog one of the other vacuum hoses (fun job, right?). I did what has come naturally to me over the years. I said hello to her. But unfortunately, she sneered at me and took off in the other direction.
"Huh," I said to myself. "She must be having a really bad day. I've seen her here before, many times over the past year. This job must be getting to her. They do seem to have a lot of turnover at this location, and I wonder if she may be at her breaking point. Poor thing. I hope she either finds a new job or she gets a vacation, a raise, or both. I will certainly be praying for her. "
Do you see what I did here? Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I chose to have empathy for her. After all, isn't this what Jesus instructs us to do?
But I say to you who are listening: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Luke 6:27-28.
Even so, you must move on quickly and forget about the encounter. The sooner you do that, the quicker you can recover. If possible, find someone else to say hi to. Once you get a positive response, it's easier to get over a bad one.
So, the next time a woman rejects your greeting, your kindness, your request for her phone number, or your first kiss, always remember:
It's one less "no" you will have to endure later on the way to the inevitable "yes!"
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