Why is your crush not attracted to you?

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You shouldn't feel disqualified. Just realize that person doesn't qualify as "the one." Stay hopeful, he will come as the Lord provides. Your crush isn't attracted to you? They aren't "the one." So who cares? Stay faithful, remain hopeful, and keep being you. Any person who feels distraught because their crush isn't into them should be comforted in knowing that the crush isn't for them. They aren't the one that will compliment you in every way. Make it up in your mind that its okay, because "the one" is coming as you're both being prepared for one another.
 
Tinkerbell725 said:
Because he has a different crush. Obviously.
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Well, this begs the question: was the problem with him, or was the problem with you? Assuming that your crush is an honest person (that may be a big "IF", depending on the person in question), perhaps he may tell you, in a kind, winsome, and loving manner, what it is that prevented him from taking the "next step" with you. Perhaps he will be unkind, and yell, at the top of his lungs, a laundry list of problems he has.

You may not like what he has to say. Perhaps it really is "him and not you". What I do know is that in proverbs 27:6 it says "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, and deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." So, if you really want the truth, the only way to find out is by asking him, and hope that he's an honest person. Just make sure you brace yourself for the possibility of hurtful words, and recognize the difference between proverbs 27:6 and verbal abuse.

I hope that helps.
 
As far as I know I am crushless. Don't have a crush on anybody and to my knowledge nobody has a crush on me.
 
TastyWallet said:
Well, this begs the question: was the problem with him, or was the problem with you? Assuming that your crush is an honest person (that may be a big "IF", depending on the person in question), perhaps he may tell you, in a kind, winsome, and loving manner, what it is that prevented him from taking the "next step" with you. Perhaps he will be unkind, and yell, at the top of his lungs, a laundry list of problems he has.

You may not like what he has to say. Perhaps it really is "him and not you". What I do know is that in proverbs 27:6 it says "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, and deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." So, if you really want the truth, the only way to find out is by asking him, and hope that he's an honest person. Just make sure you brace yourself for the possibility of hurtful words, and recognize the difference between proverbs 27:6 and verbal abuse.

I hope that helps.
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You say this but I don't think that making a decent guy say hurtful things to me is a very nice thing to do to him. And I would suspect that most people when put in the situation of "tell me why you don't like me back" either haven't thought about it enough to be able to give you helpful specifics ( Sorry, I just don't find you attractive doesn't really give a person much to work on) or has been conditioned to be too polite to start listing all your flaws. Only other thing I can say is if you (generic you) ever do have a crush on someone who doesn't reciprocate and has no problems telling you exactly what they think is wrong with you, be grateful because you're better off without someone who has no compunction about hurting you with their words and faultfinding.
 
Right now I'm still stalking, er, casually surveying a couple of candidates to possibly have a crush on.

As soon as I find him and find out who he likes instead of me, I'll be sure to let you know. :cool:
 
laura_charlotte said:

You'll be someone's princess some day soon, you can count on it.
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You are too good to me, Laura, thank you.

P.S. I saw the pictures of your classroom and it's amazing. LOVE the castle area especially. Your students are blessed to have you!

(Galatea, if you're out there, I loved how orderly your classroom is as well.)

Sorry for the derail but I just had to give these ladies a shout-out. :D
 
l haven't had a crush since my first. Years ago.

It was a simpler time. A time when classic rocks songs were the soundtrack to my life.
She lived down the street and would ride her bike past my house everyday.


Yup, I'll never forget Winnie Cooper.
As for why she never crushed on me?



...she was into some guy named Kevin. :(
 
Tinkerbell725 said:
Because he has a different crush. Obviously.
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Actually, no. Lol.

There can be a thousand reasons as to why your crush is not pursuing you. There is not always just one answer.

1) They're not ready for a relationship.
2) They just don't see you in that way.
3) Yes, they might have another crush
4) They might have feelings but not knowing that you do and just not doing anything on it.

THere are a thousand of reasons and it doesn't stem just from one answer.
 
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