With So Many "Fish in the Sea", How Many Should Someone be Baiting at Once?
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Funny, I don't remember "The Parable of the Clam and the Oyster" being taught in Sunday School. 
Must have been playing hookie that day.
Must have been playing hookie that day.
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I'm thinking more of online dating sites than IRL situations. In either case though, it can take time to determine whether you want to pursue a relationship with someone. However, it shouldn't take going out on 20 "dates" to know enough to decide; two or three should suffice, unless you aren't specifically considering the possibility of a relationship.
In my (limited) experience, such an attitude is extremely rare.
In my (limited) experience, such an attitude is extremely rare.
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Hey Everyone,
It's a given that many of us hope to find a special someone. But, we're also all pressed for time, as well as getting a little (cough, cough) older. Everyone tells us to "wait on the Lord", but then we are also told that God won't drop someone into our lap, so we actually have to get up (gasp!) and start looking!
However... How aggressively are we allowed to be looking?
* Is it ok to write a generic "Hey, I'd like to get to know you" message, and send it out to a hundred possible candidates at one time?
* Is it ok to instant message 10 different people you might be interested in--all at one time? And if you don't have any luck that day, is it ok to instant message another 10 the next day, just waiting for someone to tug on the line?
* If a person IS talking to several possible candidates at once, how do they juggle them all fairly, and how do you start deciding who gets eliminated? How do you narrow it down to one lucky candidate, or is it ok to keep several people "on the line" "just in case" one doesn't work out?
I have to be honest in saying that if I get a feeling or proof that I'm just a number on a hook, my choice will be to bail out immediately. I understand that most people probably feel they don't have the time to approach people one at a time, take the time to get to know them, and then risk having that time "wasted" when things don't work out and they could be getting to know 10 other "maybe's" at the same time, but that seems to be the way it works now days.
Granted, I'm probably the last person anyone would want to look to as an example of how to find someone. I've always stuck to the "old-fashioned" ways of meeting people on forums (strike up a friendship and see where it goes over some time), and that's probably why I'm still single after many long years--but I've made great friends along the way, and I have no regrets.
However, I understand that most people want to find someone as soon as possible (and maybe even get married on their birthday of this year), but what is the difference between "actively looking"... and simply throwing out line after line or casting a net as wide as possible--or is this the way to go?
Where is the line between doing all we can do, and making people feel as if they're being put on hold--while the other person makes sure there isn't someone better on another line?
I'd really like to hear everyone's thoughts about this, because it's happening all the time.
It's a given that many of us hope to find a special someone. But, we're also all pressed for time, as well as getting a little (cough, cough) older. Everyone tells us to "wait on the Lord", but then we are also told that God won't drop someone into our lap, so we actually have to get up (gasp!) and start looking!
However... How aggressively are we allowed to be looking?
* Is it ok to write a generic "Hey, I'd like to get to know you" message, and send it out to a hundred possible candidates at one time?
* Is it ok to instant message 10 different people you might be interested in--all at one time? And if you don't have any luck that day, is it ok to instant message another 10 the next day, just waiting for someone to tug on the line?
* If a person IS talking to several possible candidates at once, how do they juggle them all fairly, and how do you start deciding who gets eliminated? How do you narrow it down to one lucky candidate, or is it ok to keep several people "on the line" "just in case" one doesn't work out?
I have to be honest in saying that if I get a feeling or proof that I'm just a number on a hook, my choice will be to bail out immediately. I understand that most people probably feel they don't have the time to approach people one at a time, take the time to get to know them, and then risk having that time "wasted" when things don't work out and they could be getting to know 10 other "maybe's" at the same time, but that seems to be the way it works now days.
Granted, I'm probably the last person anyone would want to look to as an example of how to find someone. I've always stuck to the "old-fashioned" ways of meeting people on forums (strike up a friendship and see where it goes over some time), and that's probably why I'm still single after many long years--but I've made great friends along the way, and I have no regrets.
However, I understand that most people want to find someone as soon as possible (and maybe even get married on their birthday of this year
), but what is the difference between "actively looking"... and simply throwing out line after line or casting a net as wide as possible--or is this the way to go?Where is the line between doing all we can do, and making people feel as if they're being put on hold--while the other person makes sure there isn't someone better on another line?
I'd really like to hear everyone's thoughts about this, because it's happening all the time.
Seems like this theme comes up all the time. By the way, it's official.....Seoulsearch is officially back. (Imagine: CC Parade with free popcorn)
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank.
This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain. To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
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Seems like this theme comes up all the time. By the way, it's official.....Seoulsearch is officially back. (Imagine: CC Parade with free popcorn)
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank. This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain.
To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank.
This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain. To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
Thanks, Kinda. 🤪
You might have noticed, many of these threads are actually old and being bumped by people who are interested in the topic.
So I can't say I'm officially back, but... I might just be lurking in the corners. 😎😇😬🤫
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Seems like this theme comes up all the time. By the way, it's official.....Seoulsearch is officially back. (Imagine: CC Parade with free popcorn)
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank. This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain.
To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank.
This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain. To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
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Seems like this theme comes up all the time. By the way, it's official.....Seoulsearch is officially back. (Imagine: CC Parade with free popcorn)
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank. This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain.
To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
View attachment 208659
So, after intensive research and millions of hours spent conducting official tests (Tests and research were not official and hours spent on test may or may not have happened). A CONCLUSION WAS FORMED.......
If a Christian single who wants to get married only has to post a true profile description. This particular true description will be effective 99% of the time. You may question my sincerity, but rest assured you can put this in the bank.
This almost sure fire way to get married soon is a closely guarded secret. People with this knowledge have the potential of causing great destruction in the world as a whole, but since I feel I can trust the posters on CC, it will be o.k. to give this highly coveted information out in a public domain.To get straight to the point, here is the true description that one needs to post online to get married as soon as possible.
*Christian single, hard working, have a millions dollars, want to share all my wealth, and want to get married as soon as possible.*
That's all there is to it folks! I hear wedding bells already.
View attachment 208660
The views expressed in this post was not sponsored or directed in anyway from Christianchat.com or any of it's affiliates. The posters comments were purely for entertainment purposes and not to be followed in any direct or indirect way. Those that decide to take the post seriously will not hold kinda responsible in any way, since this post was for entertainment purposes. No animals were hurt during the making of this post. Kinda supports kindness to animals and all warm and happy thought that are for the benefit of Christ and HIS glorious kingdom. Small print was used for the disclaimer, if you haven't already noticed. Happy Sabbath!
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I think it depends on your intent. Sending a wave or a smile to 10 people with the possibility of like maybe 3 even returning any message? That’s understandable.
But say you have a date with one guy Tuesday and another guy Thursday? Ehhhh....not sure I quite agree. Though I may be a bit old fashioned... I think if you’re noticing you have preference with one contact more than the other, then you should be straight with the less favorite about if. You never know, they may not be comfortable with sharing you with another.
But say you have a date with one guy Tuesday and another guy Thursday? Ehhhh....not sure I quite agree. Though I may be a bit old fashioned... I think if you’re noticing you have preference with one contact more than the other, then you should be straight with the less favorite about if. You never know, they may not be comfortable with sharing you with another.
