Hey Everyone!
I found Susanna's (@Texasgal) thread to be a very interesting and insightful read:
https://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/your-man-looking-at-gorgeous-women.220141
I recently accompanied my mom to a little senior get-together that had a live singer.
The singer was a good-looking and very fit guy probably in his late 40's, maybe early 50's. He was lean and muscular, which was very obvious even though he was fully covered in dress pants and a long-sleeved, button-down shirt. But his clothes were so tight that you could tell he obviously works out regularly, because every arm muscle was rippling under the fabric of his shirt as he played his guitar.
Now, I don't fault the guy at all for showing off, but I joked with my Mom that maybe he wore that extremely tight clothing -- hoping to get a few extra tips, especially from the ladies.
This reminded me of a guy friend I have who works in landscaping -- he's young and strong from carrying heavy materials all day -- and he's told me how some of the senior ladies (where most of their business is from) often try to catch his attention, usually by answering the door in see-through clothing.
I have another guy friend who has been incredibly successful, but he got there (and maintains it) by working 7 days a week. I keep telling him I don't want to find out he's keeled over from a heart attack, but he's been through a lot, and he's always trying to prepare for the absolute worst. He works all his stress out at the gym, so he's developed the build of a football player, even in mid-age -- and often has Instagram model-type women half his age throwing themselves at him -- especially when they find out about his work.
In Texasgal's thread, we were discussing how women would feel if they knew their men were looking at beautiful women, or saw them looking at beautiful women.
So, how about the flip side of the coin?
Men, how would you feel about your women looking at beautiful men?
I realize in Susanna's thread, we were talking about passing glances -- such as out in public, where the men didn't know anything about the women, just that were very pleasing to the eye.
* In the examples I just gave above -- if you are a man and were out with your woman, and she didn't know anything about these men except that they looked good to her, how would you feel about her looking at them?
* And ladies, how do you feel about looking at other gorgeous men who are not your boyfriend or husband? Is it allowed, as long as you don't flirt, "make a move", or throw yourself at him?"
* For instance, what if a couple goes out for date night -- and their waiter is an extremely attractive man?
* How would you all feel about the woman giving him a passing glance, vs. a long stare?
I found Susanna's (@Texasgal) thread to be a very interesting and insightful read:
https://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/your-man-looking-at-gorgeous-women.220141
I recently accompanied my mom to a little senior get-together that had a live singer.
The singer was a good-looking and very fit guy probably in his late 40's, maybe early 50's. He was lean and muscular, which was very obvious even though he was fully covered in dress pants and a long-sleeved, button-down shirt. But his clothes were so tight that you could tell he obviously works out regularly, because every arm muscle was rippling under the fabric of his shirt as he played his guitar.
Now, I don't fault the guy at all for showing off, but I joked with my Mom that maybe he wore that extremely tight clothing -- hoping to get a few extra tips, especially from the ladies.
This reminded me of a guy friend I have who works in landscaping -- he's young and strong from carrying heavy materials all day -- and he's told me how some of the senior ladies (where most of their business is from) often try to catch his attention, usually by answering the door in see-through clothing.
I have another guy friend who has been incredibly successful, but he got there (and maintains it) by working 7 days a week. I keep telling him I don't want to find out he's keeled over from a heart attack, but he's been through a lot, and he's always trying to prepare for the absolute worst. He works all his stress out at the gym, so he's developed the build of a football player, even in mid-age -- and often has Instagram model-type women half his age throwing themselves at him -- especially when they find out about his work.
In Texasgal's thread, we were discussing how women would feel if they knew their men were looking at beautiful women, or saw them looking at beautiful women.
So, how about the flip side of the coin?
Men, how would you feel about your women looking at beautiful men?
I realize in Susanna's thread, we were talking about passing glances -- such as out in public, where the men didn't know anything about the women, just that were very pleasing to the eye.
* In the examples I just gave above -- if you are a man and were out with your woman, and she didn't know anything about these men except that they looked good to her, how would you feel about her looking at them?
* And ladies, how do you feel about looking at other gorgeous men who are not your boyfriend or husband? Is it allowed, as long as you don't flirt, "make a move", or throw yourself at him?"
* For instance, what if a couple goes out for date night -- and their waiter is an extremely attractive man?
* How would you all feel about the woman giving him a passing glance, vs. a long stare?
. The flipside of all of it is that there are those that look at a beautiful person and hate them, just for being beautiful. Why don't we hate beautiful flowers? or beautiful birds? Rather, we only comment on its beauty, directing the other to notice it, inviting either an agreement or an expression of their personal critique of the aesthetic. Why should it be different when it comes to people watching?
