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Each relationship I've been in resulted from the women trying to convince themselves in some way. As a way to not hurt my feelings. Or they think I'm a sweet guy. Because of that, I'm hesitant on asking any more women out in the future. Even though I would like to be in a relationship one day. They say once is an accident, two is a trend. There's some trend here, and it probably has something to do with me. I'm starting to work on me on a deeper level and hopefully find out the core of it all, so I can potentially have better relationships in the future.
what im bleak because I won't just jump in with a woman who pretty much pimped herself out to any tom dick and harry when she was younger, popping out how many kids by how many daddies? NOPE sorry want no part of it. And I am to just over look someone telling me how I wan't good enough or was too ugly 16 years ago. NOPE not going to happen.
Maybe people should watch what they say, cause it will have a way of sneaking back up on you. and me I never forget when people do me wrong. do i forgive? yes. will I have anything to do with them? nope.
Maybe people should watch what they say, cause it will have a way of sneaking back up on you. and me I never forget when people do me wrong. do i forgive? yes. will I have anything to do with them? nope.
While I am really sorry that you were treated poorly, wisebeardman, and I know what it's like to carry that with you for years past the actual poor treatment itself, it's ultimately up to you whether or not you define yourself by it. While you certainly were treated wrongly when you were 16, you giving up on finding someone to marry is your choice alone. You were no doubt victimized when you were 16, but now at 32 you are allowing yourself to continue to be perpetually victimized by a memory, and that seems like a really awful way to live. Don't you want better for yourself than that?
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whenever you talk about women, it always seems as though you're referencing the same one or two women, which i find fascinating.
could it be you might be vilifying an entire gender for a few women's misdeeds?
really there are lots of women who "don't have three kids by three guys, pimped herself out" or any of the like. you talk as though women are just waiting to devour you and take advantage of you... etc.
i dunno. i am kind of amazed by this. there are plenty of women who aren't interested in your money, interested in insulting you, or taking advantage of you in some fashion. trust me on this. : )
would you believe me if i told you that all guys are exactly the same?
Not only would I be impressed by his manners, but I would also be mesmerized by his accent. The thicker, the better. Certain accents are like music to me and I could listen all day long.
Wow. I'm not sure I could even handle the thought--a guy who offers to pay AND a good accent? At the same time??? Danger, Will Robinson. Definite overload.
All this talk about dating is making me want to start asking guys out for coffee... or tea... or milkshakes...
P.S. I know this is from another thread but thanks for the advice on stand-alone vs. rental McD's. The regular one is a bit further away but closer to where I work so the next time I get a craving, I'll try it there. Thanks for the heads up!
Wow. I'm not sure I could even handle the thought--a guy who offers to pay AND a good accent? At the same time??? Danger, Will Robinson. Definite overload.
All this talk about dating is making me want to start asking guys out for coffee... or tea... or milkshakes...
P.S. I know this is from another thread but thanks for the advice on stand-alone vs. rental McD's. The regular one is a bit further away but closer to where I work so the next time I get a craving, I'll try it there. Thanks for the heads up!
thats just cause they have not met me.. truth is at my age its pretty much over. I ain't interested in being a play daddy or a pre-made family and quite frank no point in bothering with a relationship unless I can have my own family which is doubtful. Plus being alone all this time I have got to a point I just don't like people in general. That is why I am here its a lot easier to deal with all of you online (and nothing is wrong with you peeps I like most of ya) but when I get tired of ya, I click the "x" and its gone until I decide to deal with ya again. hard to do that in person.
As with my other comment, im just fine honestly. I accepted it long ago. quite frank I just don't care I haven't cared in a long long time. and I am only talking about it cause a question was asked and I am giving my thoughts. Don't take it as some pity party cause I don't do that. Just discussing how I feel about things.
As with my other comment, im just fine honestly. I accepted it long ago. quite frank I just don't care I haven't cared in a long long time. and I am only talking about it cause a question was asked and I am giving my thoughts. Don't take it as some pity party cause I don't do that. Just discussing how I feel about things.
Look as society in general. as for me talking about what has gone on with me, it was a lot more then one or two.
As for the women with 3 kids with 3 guys, well mostly it is true. do ALL women do it? no some have some sense but seems these days most of the under 30 crowd has lost that. and yes guys have lost it as well.
As for guys being bad, Im just as critical of them as well. Quite frank I rather dislike society period. do not like what it has become and where it is heading.
as for a woman interested in me, honestly ill believe it when I see it, but I am not holding my breath.
Do I seem cold or mean? im sure I do, cause i put thing blunt and to the point I don't walk on eggshells I just say what I think. and hopefully someone learns something from it. maybe some young girl will read my rants and say "wow I will make sure I never end up like the women he is talking about" or a young guy will read my rants and say to himself "yeah using women just for bed fun isn't cool I won't be that kind of guy" but IDK time will tell.
As for the women with 3 kids with 3 guys, well mostly it is true. do ALL women do it? no some have some sense but seems these days most of the under 30 crowd has lost that. and yes guys have lost it as well.
As for guys being bad, Im just as critical of them as well. Quite frank I rather dislike society period. do not like what it has become and where it is heading.
as for a woman interested in me, honestly ill believe it when I see it, but I am not holding my breath.
Do I seem cold or mean? im sure I do, cause i put thing blunt and to the point I don't walk on eggshells I just say what I think. and hopefully someone learns something from it. maybe some young girl will read my rants and say "wow I will make sure I never end up like the women he is talking about" or a young guy will read my rants and say to himself "yeah using women just for bed fun isn't cool I won't be that kind of guy" but IDK time will tell.
Yeah, this is a good place for people who don't tolerate others in real life well. And I agree that you are probably happier alone at this point. I guess my main concern for you would be that your aversion toward people will continue to get worse as you age, and at 32, you have a lot of years left. You've mentioned before that it's gotten worse in the last 15 years or so. In 15 more years you may be miserable just leaving the house for groceries. Better to stretch yourself and learn coping skills now before it gets to that point. And that starts with learning to see people differently, forgive past hurts, and find joy in people. It's a state of mind that has to be honed through practice. You don't have to marry anyone. Just go sit in a library for an hour, look at the people there, and find something good about each one.
im already at that point with going out for groceries... if I do it in the day hours I won't be hungry for a week... plus standing on line for 30 minutes cause they have 25 registers and only 1 open really gets me mouthing off. so I go out about 330am. nice and quiet outside of the drunks.
as for forgive past hurts, oh I have. I just never forget. if you do me wrong once you are done, ill never have anything to do with you again. that is how I am always have been that way. and needless to say only a handful have made it this long around me. but they say in life you will only have a handful of true friends.
as for forgive past hurts, oh I have. I just never forget. if you do me wrong once you are done, ill never have anything to do with you again. that is how I am always have been that way. and needless to say only a handful have made it this long around me. but they say in life you will only have a handful of true friends.