Bullying why?

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UnderGrace

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I'd happily give him the benefit of the doubt, but I've read dozens of his posts. Sadly, the mechanics of written English have thus far eluded him.
Well all I can say is that written expression skills vary significantly in the population and while I know you have have been taught well as you stated once, not everyone has had that benefit and for some written expression..... going from brain to the pen can be difficult.;)
 

Lanolin

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I had thought of something similar happening in cases of abortions. Firstly the prospective mother doesnt want to admit she did somethign wrong by doing something that would allow pregnancy, then she tries to cover it up by killing the baby inside of her. Or she might listen to the prospective father, who tells her to kill the baby cos hes afraid of the consequences of his actions, knowing it will displease someone else.

Of course God knows about this. Thing is these people dont know He a way to redeem us even when we make these mistakes. But the thing is we first need to swallow our pride and admit we did something wrong. Not kill our brothers or babies thinking that will solve it.

Like abel, those unborn babies blood is crying out from the ground.
 

Lanolin

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Some people dont think of mothers as bullies but they can be to their own flesh and blood, and even murderous. And because babies are small and weak, and innocent they cannot even defend themselves.
 
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I would not call Saul of Tarsus a bully. He sought to execute apostate Jews. He oversaw the martyrdom of those apostate Jews who turned toward the Messiah Christ and dedicated their lives to The Way teachings, later referred to as Christianity. Saul of Tarsus held the cloak of Saint Apostle Stephen while Stephen was stoned to death before him.
That's not a bully. That's a zealot murderer and 1st-century Hellenized Pharisee Jew seeking to destroy early converts to Christ.

We should pray for our enemies. However, in my view we should never stand docile while they think to assault us physically. I am a temple of the Holy Spirit. I would never tolerate someone painting graffiti on the church while I stood there. And I certainly do not believe I am to stand and allow a physical assault to proceed without exercising my God given right of self defense.
Sometimes prayer works for the bully to find God. After they're made to answer for their cowardly actions they may just seek God to help them through and change their heart. That prayer in concert with our own could help them to find their way out of the darkness they are currently in. While , in my view, permitting them to continue their behavior without being stopped in some way encourages the dysfunctional behavior that is a symptom of that bully's thought that their victim deserves to be harmed.



2011 I deserved being body-slammed by Casey Heynes, says schoolyard bully
 

Lanolin

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I had a boy confess to me he was bullying another boy in school who reacted violently to him and now he was afraid to go to class. He complained that others were bullying him, so he wanted to bully back.

I told him that wasnt a good idea. Im glad hes learning that its wrong and not to bully others. Ive seen him tease a girl and keep saying shes a boy, while shes cried. Ive also seen him start play fights not realising that for others smaller than him, they can get hurt. Ive prayed to put a stop to that. Just cos you are older doesnt give you the right to pick on someone younger.

Teasing is bullying. Basically its picking a fight with someone in hope they will fight back, because bullies ENJOY fighting. Perverse, but thats what they want a reaction.

The other thing about it is picking on someone weaker than you to demonstrate you are in control.
Saul was a bully

jesus would ask him why do you persecute me? He was picking on christians and harming them. So why if Jesus said he was persectuing him would anyone think Saul wasnt doing anything wrong. Jesus himself said so!

Unless you dont believe what Jesus says, if so, then I am sorry for you.
 

Lanolin

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Whats hapoenin right now is bullies in parliament. Two MPs have resigned over sexual harassment allegations. Also national sports organisations are pleading with parents to STOP BULLYING their children, cos they are dropping out of sport once they reach high school. The level of abuse is horrific.
 
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Coming back to this thread...

I recall a slang phrase that some people would call churches 'bully pulpits' now I wonder how they got that name. So churches are not immune either.

But apparently theodore roosevelts used theword 'bully' to mean great or superb. I have never heard the word bully to mean something good before. Or maybe its an american thing.
My Mom is definitely not American, and uses the word "bully" in this sense, but with sarcasm. She'll say, "Well, bully for you!" meaning, "That's nice for you, but I'm not complimenting you for it."

Culture plays a big role in how words are used. I suspect that the origin of this particular use has no connection to the abuse of power.
 
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Whats hapoenin right now is bullies in parliament. Two MPs have resigned over sexual harassment allegations. Also national sports organisations are pleading with parents to STOP BULLYING their children, cos they are dropping out of sport once they reach high school. The level of abuse is horrific.
I agree... though I have an opinion on the secondary causes of bullying (the primary cause being sin, of course). What are your thoughts on that, and what would you propose to diminish the incidence of bullying?
 

Lanolin

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The intersting thing was the boy was blind to his bullying behaviours until he saw what the cnsequences of them would be.

Often we could ask the same question that Jesus asked, if someone is bullying us.

I remember one time in high school, we had a really mean teacher. Going to english class we would all suffer as she made the whole experience miserable. One time, I spoke up and asked her WHY are you so mean?

It turned out she was divorced, she had two husbands, wasnt happy and was taking it out on us.