God hating you before you're born?

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trofimus

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Who is interested, Augustine wrote a book about this, called "On Grace and Free Will"

CHURCH FATHERS: On Grace and Free Will (St. Augustine)

"There are some persons who suppose that the freedom of the will is denied whenever God's grace is maintained, and who on their side defend their liberty of will so peremptorily as to deny the grace of God..."
 
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Its about the nations of Esau and Jacob, edomites and israelites. Esau never served Jacob personally, its all about the nations.
Even the jewish rabbis realize this.
If we look at the Hebrew picture there are two things to consider:

1) Esau sold his first born rights for now value to his brother Jacob and as a result God said that Esau did not esteem his right as firstborn very high.

2) Just like with Cain and Abel it was a decision from Esau. The Hebrew explain to us that Cain did not prefer God but Abel did. That is why God did not accept the burnt offering from Cain and also did not bless Esau but Jacob.

If there is a problem with our relationship with God we are always at fault because He is God :)
 
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Yes this makes sense... I think I am starting to understand. The fact is God is all the time in control of what happens in our lives and nothing is outside God, and everybody is indeed an embodiment of God, and if we feel like praying is because He feels like praying through us, is that right? And everything that happens in the world is because God wants to experience these things... for whatever purpose that is in His mind. This is a view of perfection of the world that calms me, God being in full control. Am I right in this?

So there is not even a question from the start, if you are not chosen by God you don't even think about it right? You mind other businesses.

I hope I am understanding. Thank you very much your answers really helped me, and thank you so much for your prayers I truly appreciate it, many Blessings and Love
Is a sparrow the embodiment of God? Is a pebble the embodiment of God? If not, please don't think we are God embodied. We're not. He created us. We are not God. To think everything is a part of God is to believe in a pantheistic god. No such God.
 

BenFTW

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Its about the nations of Esau and Jacob, edomites and israelites. Esau never served Jacob personally, its all about the nations.
Even the jewish rabbis realize this.
Precisely, this is the context but people are trying to extrapolate the verse out of its context which then leads to what the OP is experiencing. Fear and condemnation.
 

ForthAngel

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I almost agree.

What would you think when I use your definition and edit it:

God doesn't force us to sin and rebel. We aren't puppets. We sin by our own will (not "free will", but still our own).
He does choose to not save some, but he is not active in our rebellion.
But He can actively make some people blind and closed to the words of the Gospel so that they are not saved and stay in their wickedness.
He actively restrains the evil of men through his common grace, thus preventing us from being more evil than we otherwise would be.
He chooses a special group of people, calls them, gives them mercy to come to Christ and gives them faith, faith that endures to the end and bears fruit and deeds.
I think it's the same definition with the addition of God hardening people. We see it with Pharaoh, with those who reject the truth in 2 Thes. 2, and even Jesus in Mark 4 refusing to bring his message to certain people.

It would seem God always has a purpose for hardening someone. Pharaoh is a good example. I think Pharaoh would have let God's people go to stop the plagues, but God wanted to display his power according to Rom. 9, so he hardened Pharaoh so that he wouldn't concede in order to save himself. Those in 2 Thes. 2 had already suppressed and rejected the truth so God deludes them making it impossible for them to come to a knowledge of the truth. Romans 1 also shows this and the purpose was to make way for the gentiles. Etc, etc.
 

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... for universalism.
Hey Depleted. :)

No, Jesus being the propitiation for the sins of the world is not Universalism. It is the Gospel, the good news that salvation is available to all that would believe. If you don't believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection, then you haven't met God's requirement for salvation which is faith. Our righteousness and justification is of faith, not works and so if you don't believe unfortunately you aren't saved. Unfortunate in that God desires that all be saved, but such is not the case.
 
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Thank you! :) Just got scared lol. The Bible, Truth, is no fairy tale. I need to harden up when I read the Scriptures, when one thinks of it they are quite tough and crucial stuff.
You know what helps? Read Romans. All of Romans without worrying about chapters and verses. Originally it had no chapter and verses. It's one letter explaining the treatise that is Christianity. It builds, point upon point, but not chapter by chapter, because the chapters and verses were arbitrary decisions made somewhere along the line. (Probably so we can refer to a verse and everyone else can get to it without wading through a long letter. lol)

But read it in full. Even Romans 8 and 9 by themselves is taken out of context. And, because it's hard to keep all those points in mind at once, if you read it all the way through for a month, by the end of the month you get it in its fullness. You'll get more than your original question.
 

ForthAngel

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I think it's the same definition with the addition of God hardening people. We see it with Pharaoh, with those who reject the truth in 2 Thes. 2, and even Jesus in Mark 4 refusing to bring his message to certain people.

It would seem God always has a purpose for hardening someone. Pharaoh is a good example. I think Pharaoh would have let God's people go to stop the plagues, but God wanted to display his power according to Rom. 9, so he hardened Pharaoh so that he wouldn't concede in order to save himself. Those in 2 Thes. 2 had already suppressed and rejected the truth so God deludes them making it impossible for them to come to a knowledge of the truth. Romans 1 also shows this and the purpose was to make way for the gentiles. Etc, etc.
Romans11**

But 1 works too.
 

trofimus

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I think it's the same definition with the addition of God hardening people. We see it with Pharaoh, with those who reject the truth in 2 Thes. 2, and even Jesus in Mark 4 refusing to bring his message to certain people.

It would seem God always has a purpose for hardening someone. Pharaoh is a good example. I think Pharaoh would have let God's people go to stop the plagues, but God wanted to display his power according to Rom. 9, so he hardened Pharaoh so that he wouldn't concede in order to save himself. Those in 2 Thes. 2 had already suppressed and rejected the truth so God deludes them making it impossible for them to come to a knowledge of the truth. Romans 1 also shows this and the purpose was to make way for the gentiles. Etc, etc.
Of course, God has always some purpose. For every move of any atom in the Universe... we will understand it much more in the end of all things, His grand architecture will be much more visible to us.
 
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Iam, and now you are beginning to hear from the "I've got a better plan than God does" crew.

This is why I'm suggesting reading Romans as a treatise. Is Romans the full word of God? Of course not, or it would be the only book in the Bible. BUT it sure explains "why Christ."


Just a point not meant to argue with you. Pauls letters shouldnt be taken more than anything else in the Word. as peter says its easy to misconstrue His writings, paul needs to be taken in with everything else to have a better understanding. think of the 4 gospels why does Jesus Himself constantly equate what we do, say, believe, choose to the rest of What He is teaching? if were all just pre chosen some are hated others loved only based on What God wills........why even Give the word? why teach that we MUST accept Jesus, we MUST be born again, we Must keep His word?

" Pre destination" doesnt mean we can choose whatever we want to do and no matter what some will be saved and others cast into hell lol that Kind of makes God seem like a dictator and kind of says God favors one person over another without reason. Look at cain and abel God says this

Genesis 4:3-7 "And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD. 4And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering: 5But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell. 6And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? 7If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him."


Why if cain was not "chosen or predestined" would God instruct Him on what He needed to do to be accepted? to disregard Our role as those who follow Jesus, tosses out so much of the word its crazy Look what Jesus says constantly to His disciples about whether they do the word, or just hear it. and also why if predestiantion eliminates every aspect of all of this did God Gove the first commandment in the garden to adam? was adam simply pre ordained and God was Just making a show and warning Him for no reason?

and what about the work of satan in this whole mosaic? the work that "Jesus cameto destroy" being the deception that lead to sin and death? you dont need to answer these questions but you should maybe consider if what a person does, matters to God or determine if you have the ability to choose at an intersection to turn right or left. Our old lives full of sin are there because Our hearts are evil its simple. the only solution to that imparted evil is the Gospel, the truth eliminates deception.


God isnt a puppetmaster and He doesnt save those who would rather follow thier own will, that is again, corrupted. He doesnt drag us kicking and screaming to salvation. Jesus is simply Gods arm extended to man who had cast away His Life because of sin, His hand is open for all to climb into.

Ithink what your seeing is more that God foresees everything, it doesnt mean we have no choice in our actions, it simply means He already Knows what we will choose to do with His offer. any person ever born can be saved, many will not accept salvation, but consider the rest of the things paul says about our actions and the result look how many times He says " if you follow the flesh you will die, if you put the flesh to death, you will live" or galatians 5, ephesians 5 when He is explaining that " those who live like this will not inherit eternal Life. " those who do these things ect.

its always a problem when we try to understand one chapter and that understanding eliminates the rest. I can probably give you 10 examples of paul likening a believers behavior to thier destiny. yes indeed we de[pend on Gods Mercy, But He gave his Son to great suffering, shame and death to purchase our lives.......we owe it to Jesus to give ours to Him. God Knows what well do. because He knows us at our core.

Think of all he says like "
 

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[h=1]Matthew 11:28-30King James Version (KJV)[/h][FONT=&quot]28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.[/FONT]
 

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Revelations 22:17
And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

 

trofimus

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Hey Depleted. :)

No, Jesus being the propitiation for the sins of the world is not Universalism. It is the Gospel, the good news that salvation is available to all that would believe.
Do you accept that the true believing is a gift from God?

If so, than you are only saying that the gospel is available to all that God has chosen :) Available in the effective sense. It is, of course, available to all beings, but they will not choose it, if God will not give them faith.
 
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Just a point not meant to argue with you. Pauls letters shouldnt be taken more than anything else in the Word. as peter says its easy to misconstrue His writings, paul needs to be taken in with everything else to have a better understanding. think of the 4 gospels why does Jesus Himself constantly equate what we do, say, believe, choose to the rest of What He is teaching? if were all just pre chosen some are hated others loved only based on What God wills........why even Give the word? why teach that we MUST accept Jesus, we MUST be born again, we Must keep His word?

" Pre destination" doesnt mean we can choose whatever we want to do and no matter what some will be saved and others cast into hell lol that Kind of makes God seem like a dictator and kind of says God favors one person over another without reason. Look at cain and abel God says this

Genesis 4:3-7 "And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD. 4And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering: 5But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell. 6And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? 7If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him."


Why if cain was not "chosen or predestined" would God instruct Him on what He needed to do to be accepted? to disregard Our role as those who follow Jesus, tosses out so much of the word its crazy Look what Jesus says constantly to His disciples about whether they do the word, or just hear it. and also why if predestiantion eliminates every aspect of all of this did God Gove the first commandment in the garden to adam? was adam simply pre ordained and God was Just making a show and warning Him for no reason?

and what about the work of satan in this whole mosaic? the work that "Jesus cameto destroy" being the deception that lead to sin and death? you dont need to answer these questions but you should maybe consider if what a person does, matters to God or determine if you have the ability to choose at an intersection to turn right or left. Our old lives full of sin are there because Our hearts are evil its simple. the only solution to that imparted evil is the Gospel, the truth eliminates deception.


God isnt a puppetmaster and He doesnt save those who would rather follow thier own will, that is again, corrupted. He doesnt drag us kicking and screaming to salvation. Jesus is simply Gods arm extended to man who had cast away His Life because of sin, His hand is open for all to climb into.

Ithink what your seeing is more that God foresees everything, it doesnt mean we have no choice in our actions, it simply means He already Knows what we will choose to do with His offer. any person ever born can be saved, many will not accept salvation, but consider the rest of the things paul says about our actions and the result look how many times He says " if you follow the flesh you will die, if you put the flesh to death, you will live" or galatians 5, ephesians 5 when He is explaining that " those who live like this will not inherit eternal Life. " those who do these things ect.

its always a problem when we try to understand one chapter and that understanding eliminates the rest. I can probably give you 10 examples of paul likening a believers behavior to thier destiny. yes indeed we de[pend on Gods Mercy, But He gave his Son to great suffering, shame and death to purchase our lives.......we owe it to Jesus to give ours to Him. God Knows what well do. because He knows us at our core.

Think of all he says like "
Hi thank you for this answer, what I understood the most is that Paul in other writings advocates pursuing good behavior, being meek and obedient, therefore we are saved by grace but this grace marks our actions thereof. Thank you a lot this was a long text to explain this to me I truly appreciate it, many Blessings and Love.
 

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Do you accept that the true believing is a gift from God?

If so, than you are only saying that the gospel is available to all that God has chosen :) Available in the effective sense. It is, of course, available to all beings, but they will not choose it, if God will not give them faith.
Jesus died for the whole world. So when you're preaching to a crowd, its an invitation to all present. Can a person reject God's drawing? I suppose that opens up a debate.
 
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So have you assumed you're one of the lucky chosen as God creates people to damnation? You preach the Gospel only to reach the few but have no heart for the destined to Hell? Are you mad? Does not God's word state that His desire is that all be saved? How is it that such a desire exists in our God, if He has destined some to Hell? Hmmmm? It is contradictory by nature.

This doesn't even require study but common sense. Jesus is the propitiation for the sins of the world. That means all. God has destined that salvation be available to all, it is, but not all believe in the Lord Jesus. If you for one moment think that the Lord has destined your sister, your brother, your mother or your father (whomever you love) to Hell you truly need to spend not only time studying but getting to know God's heart.
God is. God is sovereign. Therefore luck does not exist.

You pick and choose a patchwork of verses to avoid that. And as proof of that charge, I see you accept John 3:16 just fine, but cannot swallow John 3:18-21 along with it. That's not luck either. That is willfully proving John 3:19-20, and denying 21.
 

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Reformed Theology/ Calvanism clashes with the Apostolic Doctrines passed down to the Early Church Fathers*****Irenaus (130-202) "Man is endowed with the faculty of distinguishing good and evil; so that without compulsion he has the power by his own will and choice, to perform God's commandments by doing which he avoids the evils prepared for the rebellious" ***** Justin Martyr (2nd Century). "Man acts by his own free will and not by fate"
 
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You know what helps? Read Romans. All of Romans without worrying about chapters and verses. Originally it had no chapter and verses. It's one letter explaining the treatise that is Christianity. It builds, point upon point, but not chapter by chapter, because the chapters and verses were arbitrary decisions made somewhere along the line. (Probably so we can refer to a verse and everyone else can get to it without wading through a long letter. lol)

But read it in full. Even Romans 8 and 9 by themselves is taken out of context. And, because it's hard to keep all those points in mind at once, if you read it all the way through for a month, by the end of the month you get it in its fullness. You'll get more than your original question.
I'll listen to your advice and get started today. Thank you many blessings and Love.
 

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God is. God is sovereign. Therefore luck does not exist.

You pick and choose a patchwork of verses to avoid that. And as proof of that charge, I see you accept John 3:16 just fine, but cannot swallow John 3:18-21 along with it. That's not luck either. That is willfully proving John 3:19-20, and denying 21.
The point isn't the luck, but that he is rather fortunate compared to the others. He got destined to Heaven but those poor souls God destined to eternal damnation. Yeah... really paints a loving Father who desires that all be saved. Yup.