Well, that's basically it. She has a sexual past she doesn't regret, which I can't accept. I thought I'd be alright with it, but when you love someone, it becomes a true nightmare, that just ruins the relationship. I've discussed it with her, she knows how much it hurts me, but she just keeps saying it's something that is in the past. Yet she never apologizes, and she doesn't feel guilty, cause at the time, she was in love with that guy. I know she really has bigger problems with God than me, but I love her and I can't just let go of her.
I've read a dozens of articles on accepting your girlfriend's past, consulted with friends and random strangers on chats, some of which were Christian.
I want to know what you guys think about that. What should I do? Should I leave her? Should I pray she finds peace and realizes what a mistake she made? I know we all have sins, and I highly regret mine, why can't she?
You might want to show her some scripture that shows the need for her to ask God for forgiveness.
1 Corinthians 6:[SUP]15 [/SUP]Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.[SUP] 16 [/SUP]What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.[SUP] 17 [/SUP]But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.[SUP] 18 [/SUP]Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.[SUP] 19 [/SUP]What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?[SUP] 20 [/SUP]For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
1 Corinthians 7:1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.[SUP]2 [/SUP]Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.[SUP]3 [/SUP]Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The why for repentance is to avoid being left behind at the pre trib rapture event.
Galatians 5:[SUP]19 [/SUP]
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery,
fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,[SUP]20 [/SUP]Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,[SUP] 21 [/SUP]Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like:
of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
1 John 1:[SUP]3 [/SUP]That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.[SUP] 4 [/SUP]And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full.[SUP]5 [/SUP]This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.[SUP]
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If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:[SUP]7 [/SUP]But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.[SUP] 8 [/SUP]If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.[SUP] 9 [/SUP]If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.[SUP]10 [/SUP]If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
So it is about abiding in Him in maintaining that proper fellowship by walking in the light as He has done, otherwise, if any saved believer does not repent of the iniquity for which they have done, then they need to go before that throne of grace and ask Jesus for help to see why she should regret it and why she should ask for forgiveness as well as His help not to do that again until she is married.
Now... if she is not a saved believer in Christ... you are kind of putting the cart before the horse there. Preach the gospel. Only by having Jesus Christ in her does she have any hope of seeing fornication as a sin to ask Him for forgiveness for and to lean on Him to keep her from that sin and to see marriage as a way to avoid fornication.
Well first it is very unGodly for you to hold her past against her.. Second if God has room to forgive her transgression's then why can't you?.
But that's the problem. She has not asked God to forgive her for those sins. If she has no regret, then there is no repentance. Certainly does not sound like she had asked God to forgive her.
And Paulie is wanting to be equally yoked and not have a different mindset about how to raise their children in marriage. Paulie wants to be able to say abstain from sex until you are married to their teenage sons & daughters without her saying the opposite, bragging about some romantic sexual fling that she has no regret for having it.
Sounds to me like you need to try to judge her for who she is now not for who she was. What if it was you who had sex and she said I am sorry I love you but I just can't get over your past.. how would you feel? Would you not want to say to get that it was my past not my future. You need to put yourself in her shoes. If you still can not get over it then you need to let her go because you are being unfair.
He loves her as God does too, but her not asking God for forgiveness is one thing and not having regret is another. Fornicators can have regret for having that sexual relationship with somebody because of that person and yet still not ask God for forgiveness, but for a saved believer to not regret having done that at all, certainly shows she was not in need of asking God to forgive her then.
Although we are saved, we are called to repentance to abide in Him and have that fellowship as we ought. The past is the past but having no regret for what she has done is not showing a sign of repentance nor of ever having a need to ask God to forgive her for that sinful lifestyle.
As for your signature....
Let He Who lives without sin cast the first stone.
John 8:[SUP]10 [/SUP]When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?[SUP] 11 [/SUP]She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her,
Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.[SUP]12 [/SUP]Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
1 John 3:[SUP]3 [/SUP]And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.....[SUP]8 [/SUP]He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.
2 Timothy 4:[SUP]18 [/SUP]And the Lord shall deliver me from every evil work, and will preserve me unto his heavenly kingdom: to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.
