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I just do not see what one mature adult can teach another mature adult by hitting, that they cannot teach with verbal communication. Hitting only seems necessary (ie. spanking) when verbal communication does not work. And if you don't have successful communication and godly respect in your marriage, you have bigger problems than a spanking will solve.
If both husband and wife get given a spanking paddle for their wedding present , wouldn't they then just call it even? If there is domestic discipline it should work both ways. Discipline for the husband could be a bucket of water tied to a rope hanging over the TV set that the wife simply has to pull. For the wife the husband could make his wife wear a GPS tracking device.
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In my opinion "physical correction" is stupid. Why would you smack around your wife when you could just talk to her instead? It makes no sense whatsoever to hit, smack, or whatever you want to call it. I'm not married, but I have been told many times that communication is essential in marriage. So, talk it out, don't punch it out.
A
from my experience and knowing that no one really likes pain, I agree that it is not the best choice to fix a realistic problem
but just like when you some people smack a child's butt to discipline them.
Some adults need to be disciplines also, and they don't always listen to words or cries, and I have felt that sometimes a stubborness needs to be obilterated with a fist
but just like when you some people smack a child's butt to discipline them.
Some adults need to be disciplines also, and they don't always listen to words or cries, and I have felt that sometimes a stubborness needs to be obilterated with a fist
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I have to say it really surprised me to see that the two people that seemd to be okay with the concept of "domestic discipline" *cough cough* violence *cough cough* we both women... I've never been in a relationship, but I'm pretty sure the only reason I'd want a boyfriend or husband to ever lay a hand on me would be in a loving way...
I'll admit to being one of those over emotional girls that 1still_waters was talking about, and I agree with him 100% honestly, if a guys has the guts to pull aside his girl and just say, "Sweetie, you need to calm down a little bit," let me at him! I would love a guy that did that for me! Mainly because if we were in a public place I'd probably end up embarassing myself in someway...
So... ummmm, yeah! GOD BLESS!
I'll admit to being one of those over emotional girls that 1still_waters was talking about, and I agree with him 100% honestly, if a guys has the guts to pull aside his girl and just say, "Sweetie, you need to calm down a little bit," let me at him! I would love a guy that did that for me! Mainly because if we were in a public place I'd probably end up embarassing myself in someway...
So... ummmm, yeah! GOD BLESS!
Yeah... Physically "correcting" me... That wouldn't work...
I have hypersensitvity to a lot of the senses (touch/texture, smell, noise etc) anxiety and ADHD along with bipolar disorder w/ rapid cycling.
I am very particular with the people I let touch me and certain touches bother me real bad, for example one time my fiancé and I were at Wallyworld and I was walking and talking with him, got distracted and started making a bee line to whatever it was that caught my attention and I didn't see that there were people coming and I would have run into them, but he grabbed my wrist, and since I'm a skinny lil thing his hand closed around my wrist. And it threw me into a panic 'cause it made me feel stuck (that probably sounds weird, but I feel trapped sometimes, to the point where I have to take off the "restrictive" item of clothing, usually sneakers or a shirt with too tight of neck)
And anyway it's not a husbands place to "correct" the wife.
I have hypersensitvity to a lot of the senses (touch/texture, smell, noise etc) anxiety and ADHD along with bipolar disorder w/ rapid cycling.
I am very particular with the people I let touch me and certain touches bother me real bad, for example one time my fiancé and I were at Wallyworld and I was walking and talking with him, got distracted and started making a bee line to whatever it was that caught my attention and I didn't see that there were people coming and I would have run into them, but he grabbed my wrist, and since I'm a skinny lil thing his hand closed around my wrist. And it threw me into a panic 'cause it made me feel stuck (that probably sounds weird, but I feel trapped sometimes, to the point where I have to take off the "restrictive" item of clothing, usually sneakers or a shirt with too tight of neck)
And anyway it's not a husbands place to "correct" the wife.
R
I know that it was a personal choice for my husband and I. I work outside the home. He views me as an equal in every way, except he values me more highly than himself. It is our way to end every disagreement. I feel like a cherished princess and he feels highly respected. We love it. It is very private and personal in our home. In otherwords, it is not something that we talk about with our children. We went from constant contension to love story romance and tremendous sex life. I love everything about being submissive and being disciplined by a man who absolutely adores me. I am never rejected or treated harshly. I realize this is not for everyone - but our testimony is that this has been a tool that has transformed our home into a place of love, peace and order! LOVE IT
I used to have a BD fetish. I had kidnapping and spanking fantasies. I have little to no experience with love, romance and sex, and I've never been married. I wrote some naughty erotic stories and drew pictures of women and men tied up. I fantasized about finding a husband to share my fantasies and role-play with. I also struggled with a lot of guilt and fear. Fear of actual rape, that men would hurt me and destroy me instead of love me the way a Christian husband loves his Christian wife, fears of men breaking my heart, of giving into pre-marital sex, thus sinning, fear of being hurt, abused, by men and love. How terrible it is in this sinful fallen world that love is used to as a weapon to hurt people!
I also struggled majorly with guilt.....I had nightmares about hell, Satan, demons, witches practicing witchcraft and voodoo to torture me. I felt dirty, like a virgin with the mind of a hooker. It was like I was in bondage to bondage. I prayed and asked God to set me free. Finally, Jesus Christ set me free. It was hard and I struggled, but Christ taught me the beauty of freedom.
Jesus set me free from my struggles and guilt. A marriage is a partnership, two people a man and woman united by love, when two souls become one. When Adam first set eyes on Eve, he recognized her as a part of himself:
"This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh." For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
When they said the man shall rule over the woman, it did indeed become true. There is a long history of male tyranny over women. It is only in the past few hundred years that women have gained rights.
Husbands and wives should love and respect each other. Mature adults don't go around hitting each other. If you assault someone, you could go to jail. A wife is not a child to require corporal punishment. I have been thinking about the spanking of children. Perhaps it is wrong to spank children too, because it hurts the children and teaches them violence, that hitting is ok, that it is ok for a big person to hit someone smaller than them.
I also struggled majorly with guilt.....I had nightmares about hell, Satan, demons, witches practicing witchcraft and voodoo to torture me. I felt dirty, like a virgin with the mind of a hooker. It was like I was in bondage to bondage. I prayed and asked God to set me free. Finally, Jesus Christ set me free. It was hard and I struggled, but Christ taught me the beauty of freedom.
Jesus set me free from my struggles and guilt. A marriage is a partnership, two people a man and woman united by love, when two souls become one. When Adam first set eyes on Eve, he recognized her as a part of himself:
"This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh." For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
When they said the man shall rule over the woman, it did indeed become true. There is a long history of male tyranny over women. It is only in the past few hundred years that women have gained rights.
Husbands and wives should love and respect each other. Mature adults don't go around hitting each other. If you assault someone, you could go to jail. A wife is not a child to require corporal punishment. I have been thinking about the spanking of children. Perhaps it is wrong to spank children too, because it hurts the children and teaches them violence, that hitting is ok, that it is ok for a big person to hit someone smaller than them.
K
As a woman I completely agree with this statement, but I wouldn't call it discipline more like a gentle rebuke which the bible tells us to do to our brothers and sisters in Christ as well as our spouses.
My issue is that I have a tendency to talk very loud or raise my voice without even realising it, and I rely on my husband to signal me non verbally or verbally if Im not paying attention but he always dos this privately so as not to embarrass me in front of others.
Secondly I would only allow my husband to control me physically if I was insane or something and trying to hurt him with a knife out of reckless and sinful anger or chucking plates at him but thats just self defense. Him, 'disciplining me' in a physical way like he would to a child, that is abuse plain and simple and is definitely not endorsed by scripture and not only would I alert church elders to use "church discipline" I would also call the police.
My issue is that I have a tendency to talk very loud or raise my voice without even realising it, and I rely on my husband to signal me non verbally or verbally if Im not paying attention but he always dos this privately so as not to embarrass me in front of others.
Secondly I would only allow my husband to control me physically if I was insane or something and trying to hurt him with a knife out of reckless and sinful anger or chucking plates at him but thats just self defense. Him, 'disciplining me' in a physical way like he would to a child, that is abuse plain and simple and is definitely not endorsed by scripture and not only would I alert church elders to use "church discipline" I would also call the police.
S
Believing in God does not give rights to anyone to abuse one another. If this happens its probably more of a case of some mental illness or history of past abuse . My mother had severe fear and anxiety ( and was brought up in old generation China) and was so strict she even deprived us of proper food because she did not know english and did not know what was right or wrong. Probably why my brother developed Bipolar. My husband also has a passive aggressive and overprotective mother so carried some of her traits in his character. (lucky me)
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In a word, NO! When Paul made his well-known pronouncement(s) about wives submitting to husbands, he always including the caveat, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..." (Ephesians 5:25) That doesn't sound much like physical discipline to me.
I believe that in Christ's view, physical discipline is never acceptable.
I believe that in Christ's view, physical discipline is never acceptable.
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I find it disturbing that people would even consider assault/spouse abuse a viable option.
In the state of Hawaii and the state of Washington, this is illegal. A person arrested for and found guilty of spouse abuse is a criminal.
As Christians we are to be in compliance with the law. Titus chapter 3 verses 1 through 7.
In the state of Hawaii and the state of Washington, this is illegal. A person arrested for and found guilty of spouse abuse is a criminal.
As Christians we are to be in compliance with the law. Titus chapter 3 verses 1 through 7.