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....I love my husband and children. I feel like I'm about to lose it.. it's like my husband works everyday, I mean everyday 12-13 hours a day..... or more... I work also 3 days a week... but I feel like I'm about to cry right now... I'm trying to do taxes.... be here for my sons therapy appointments .. cook.. clean.. wash clothes ... read the Word of God... but I feel myself getting so frustrated with them because I feel I can't get enough done. I get so frustrated I feel the Lord will take my salvation... or that I'm loosing my faith... with being so overwhelmed... I do know that's what I'm suppose to do as a wife.. and be submissive as the Bible says. Can you all relate? If so how did you get through it?
You have a beautiful head says trusting God 4 life. Use that word as your protection. There's something that you must have on you 24/7 Read Ephesians 6:10-18. Never give up.
 
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You have a beautiful head says trusting God 4 life. Use that word as your protection. There's something that you must have on you 24/7 Read Ephesians 6:10-18. Never give up.
Thank you very much! God a Bless you! I will do
 

Ariel82

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lol I forget to put the toilet paper on the roll after he ask me to refill it, and I leave it on top. He goes crazy!
When we were first married my husband told me I folded his underwear wrong.....really?!?

We lived in an apartment and I had to haul the laundry to the car to the laundry mat and back while 7 months pregnant.

I was kind of mad and didn't do his laundry for a month..
Eventually he asked me if I planned on doing laundry soon.

I told him I did, but didn't do his because I didn't want to fold it wrong.

He apologized and he has been real good about saying thanks. Sometimes he even does his own laundry.., but we have a washer and dryer in the house so it's easier too.

Not suggesting you be passive aggressive but yeah sometimes we all have things we have to work out in our marriages. We just have to communicate what we are thinking and feeling..,guys are NOT mIndreaders
 
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When we were first married my husband told me I folded his underwear wrong.....really?!?

We lived in an apartment and I had to haul the laundry to the car to the laundry mat and back while 7 months pregnant.

I was kind of mad and didn't do his laundry for a month..
Eventually he asked me if I planned on doing laundry soon.

I told him I did, but didn't do his because I didn't want to fold it wrong.

He apologized and he has been real good about saying thanks. Sometimes he even does his own laundry.., but we have a washer and dryer in the house so it's easier too.

Not suggesting you be passive aggressive but yeah sometimes we all have things we have to work out in our marriages. We just have to communicate what we are thinking and feeling..,guys are NOT mIndreaders
I can relate, my Husband gets so mad that I fold his underwear, and he gets annoyed how I put his socks together and fold them all th way in.

He doesn't say thanks when I was his clothes, I guess I look at it that's what I'm suppose to be doing.

I
 

Ariel82

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I guess it makes a difference when we feel obligated to do something and chose to do it out or love.

Sometimes I think I am a spoiled princess. I only do things that I feel like doing. Cuz of love I do quite alot, but some days I do nothing at all.

By the way you are a princess to because you are a daughter of the King of kings.

Anyway, the whole Sabbath thing of doing nothing at all because God loves us so much, He didn't ask us to do more work for Him. He told us to test and enjoy the blessings He has already give us.he tells us we don't need to earn His love because He already loves us so much. So if we do nothing at all....he still loves us.


I wish we could love others and ourselves like God does.

Then we won't feel obligated to do things but work because it's a way of showing our love for them.

Does that make any sense?
 

Ariel82

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I have to admit though I am a brat sometimes and have to stop myself from intentionally doing things to make people mad if I am mad at them.

It's not very loving but it's a bad habit I picked up from having brothers and "getting back" at them.

God is teaching me to be more loving....but I still play a prank or two to get a laugh now instead of because I am mad.

I try and pray and forgive before acting out of anger. Sometimes I have to confront and that is never pleasant,
 
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I guess it makes a difference when we feel obligated to do something and chose to do it out or love.

Sometimes I think I am a spoiled princess. I only do things that I feel like doing. Cuz of love I do quite alot, but some days I do nothing at all.

By the way you are a princess to because you are a daughter of the King of kings.

Anyway, the whole Sabbath thing of doing nothing at all because God loves us so much, He didn't ask us to do more work for Him. He told us to test and enjoy the blessings He has already give us.he tells us we don't need to earn His love because He already loves us so much. So if we do nothing at all....he still loves us.


I wish we could love others and ourselves like God does.

Then we won't feel obligated to do things but work because it's a way of showing our love for them.

Does that make any sense?

It makes sense for sure! Thank you!
 

Ariel82

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Wow I have so many typos....should really find my reading glasses earlier
 

mcubed

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I didn’t see anyone say anything about needing “me time”. Well, I mentioned finding five minutes to have a shower, but bathing is just as much a service to those around us as it is a small break for ourselves ;)
Try Mitchum deodorant you can go several days without a shower... grose .... but it works... life on life's terms...
 

DiscipleDave

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No it's not that many bills, his job just makes him work that way. I work 3 days to cover my bills, so he won't have to cover mine. Also, I don't like to burden him with my car payment and everything.
His burdens are your burdens, your burdens are his burdens. The Husband and Wife are no longer twain but ONE FLESH, it seems to me, in your marriage their His and Yours. This is not Godly.

I agree with you reading the Word is so important! When I don't read it I can tell.
There is nothing more important.

Yes I have been trying to take a vacation but my husbands work schedule, keeps us from that. I believe here soon he will have a chance at vacation. I hope we can go then. The date night? He hasn't had a day off.
He needs another Job. Yes i see. So he loves his job. Continue to be a Godly wife to him, and pray that God intervenes.

I will take that advice to find something that helps me when I'm feelings frustrated, the daily bread is a good idea!
The Daily Bread is good.

Thanks. Yes I will admit I did think you could loose it that way. All I have is the Lord that I cling to.
He that finds his life will lose it, but he that loses his life for Jesus, will find it. This measly 90 years of life, living on a planet where satan is the god of, stinks bad. But in comparison to this life to Eternity, it is but a vapor of smoke. Give this life to Jesus so you can have a perfect life forever in Eternity.

No I don't have a problem being a submissive wife at all if the Lord says we should then that's what I'm going to do. Just sometimes with all that goes on, I feel like I'm not doing it correctly, or doing so and forget about myself.
Start another thread concerning this topic. CC is awesome place to get Godly advice from people who have been in your situation. And from what i have seen, people on CC are more than willing to try to help you.

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††† In His Holy and Precious Name, Jesus Christ †††

DiscipleDave
 

MarcR

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....I love my husband and children. I feel like I'm about to lose it.. it's like my husband works everyday, I mean everyday 12-13 hours a day..... or more... I work also 3 days a week... but I feel like I'm about to cry right now... I'm trying to do taxes.... be here for my sons therapy appointments .. cook.. clean.. wash clothes ... read the Word of God... but I feel myself getting so frustrated with them because I feel I can't get enough done. I get so frustrated I feel the Lord will take my salvation... or that I'm loosing my faith... with being so overwhelmed... I do know that's what I'm suppose to do as a wife.. and be submissive as the Bible says. Can you all relate? If so how did you get through it?
When you have made an honest effort to do what you feel is your task; you MUST accept that as enough because that is all there is, and tormenting yourself will NOT get more done
 
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His burdens are your burdens, your burdens are his burdens. The Husband and Wife are no longer twain but ONE FLESH, it seems to me, in your marriage their His and Yours. This is not Godly.



There is nothing more important.



He needs another Job. Yes i see. So he loves his job. Continue to be a Godly wife to him, and pray that God intervenes.



The Daily Bread is good.



He that finds his life will lose it, but he that loses his life for Jesus, will find it. This measly 90 years of life, living on a planet where satan is the god of, stinks bad. But in comparison to this life to Eternity, it is but a vapor of smoke. Give this life to Jesus so you can have a perfect life forever in Eternity.



Start another thread concerning this topic. CC is awesome place to get Godly advice from people who have been in your situation. And from what i have seen, people on CC are more than willing to try to help you.

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††† In His Holy and Precious Name, Jesus Christ †††

DiscipleDave

Hey Dave,I do understand his burden or mine I just feel bad asking him to pay is all. Even when I was younger. I wouldn’t ask my parents to do anything for me or help me out, my sister lol different story.

Just the other day when they made him work a crazy shift,he was so upset and stated something has to change.

Your 90 years old! Praise God! Yes, I always pray that God takes control of my life, my plans can’t wven compare to what he will have for me.

Thanks for advice! God Bless you
 
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When you have made an honest effort to do what you feel is your task; you MUST accept that as enough because that is all there is, and tormenting yourself will NOT get more done
Your right ! Very right. I drive myself up a walk when I don’t come close
 

oldethennew

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tormenting yourself will certainly never get something 'positive done', but living God's Honesty
always will bring positive results, 'if the heart is right and totally sincere'...
 

DiscipleDave

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Your 90 years old! Praise God!
lol. i never said i was 90, i said
This measly 90 years of life,
Which i totally get could be misinterpreted to mean that i am 90, but i am 50. i was referring to a general life of a person. Seriously that made me laugh. i will try to be more careful in the future. lol.

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††† In His Holy and Precious Name, Jesus Christ †††

DiscipleDave