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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
 

Demi777

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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
Tell him to back off. If he cared he would let u grow. Stand ur ground
 
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Thanks for your reply. I have told him I wasn't discussing it with him, many times. Then he goes searching for things to back his opinions up and emails them to me because I won't listen. He preaches the tao to me and I'm the one who introduced him, hoping it would make him less controlling.
 

Demi777

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Thanks for your reply. I have told him I wasn't discussing it with him, many times. Then he goes searching for things to back his opinions up and emails them to me because I won't listen. He preaches the tao to me and I'm the one who introduced him, hoping it would make him less controlling.
Keep ur ground. even if u have to push him away a litte so he sees what he is doing. Pray for him. When u rebuke him do it in love.
 
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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.

His understanding of the bible is flawed if he belives it contradicts itself.....

God sees you trying to learn of Him and is calling you to seek Him further...

Ignore your husband on these issues, he will only function as a wolf in regards to spiritual things if he is in unbelief....

When God has revealed more and more to you through His word, and prayer, and sermons (i suggest getting some cordless bluetooth headphones to learn while you clean or cook or work if possible via audio bibles or sermons) then you can function as a much brighter light to shine on the truth... instead of function as a punching bag for your husbands false claims....


(i have many in my life who treat me in a similar way if i speak of God or His word...im really sorry youre dealing with this and you will be in my prayers)

may God bless you with patience and wisdom and assurance and comfort and also touch your husbands heart to soften him



(also i suggest praying in your mind before and during and after these conflicts for the Holy spirit to help you and your husband in what way is best)
 
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When God has revealed more and more to you through His word, and prayer, and sermons (i suggest getting some cordless bluetooth headphones to learn while you clean or cook or work if possible via audio bibles or sermons)
I do this! :)
 

Dino246

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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
This is spiritual warfare. Pray against it and ask God to be your protector and to give you wisdom.

You might also consider placing and enforcing some boundaries. Clearly tell your husband that his harassment is unacceptable. Don't be afraid to ignore him and say nothing in response... he will likely find something more entertaining to do.
 

p_rehbein

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These can do wonders when applied properly........... :)

 

Nehemiah6

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What can I say to end the badgering?
Say absolutely nothing more. Just do what you know is right and keep your thoughts to yourself.

...if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation [manner of life] of the wives...(1 Pet 3:1).
 
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This is spiritual warfare. Pray against it and ask God to be your protector and to give you wisdom.

You might also consider placing and enforcing some boundaries. Clearly tell your husband that his harassment is unacceptable. Don't be afraid to ignore him and say nothing in response... he will likely find something more entertaining to do.
Nope. He will naw on a bone or three or five for months, using every opportunity to badger me into submission. He doesn't get bored. He thrives off this and he gets mean. I wish he got bored with making me nuts but....
 
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Say absolutely nothing more. Just do what you know is right and keep your thoughts to yourself.

...if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation [manner of life] of the wives...(1 Pet 3:1).
I will keep trying this.... He always gets me though. I'm always defending myself. Ty
 

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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
Ask him to join us here. I'll be happy to talk to him. :)
 

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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
I would most certainly continue to study the bible and apply what the Holy Spirit has taught in being a quiet example for your husband to hopefully one day emulate. You are in a difficult spot to be sure as your husband is insensitive to your desire to learn the Word of God and to try to live your life by being a humble servant to the Lord. The bible talks about such marital situations and states that it is possible for a spouse to change in a positive spiritual sense based on observing how their spouse conducts their life and sets their priorities according to how the Holy Spirit has led them. Pray also for God to soften your husband's heart towards you in this matter and other matters as well. I have said prayer for there to be peace in your home and joy in your heart and for your husband to know joy in his heart too in loving and serving the Lord. God Bless You.
 

PennEd

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I will keep trying this.... He always gets me though. I'm always defending myself. Ty
Tell him you cannot have Spiritual conversations with him at this time because of 1 Corinthians 2:14

That might stop the harassment and get him more open to accepting the Gospel:

1 Corinthians 2:14 Amplified Bible (AMP)
14 But the natural [unbelieving] man does not accept the things [the teachings and revelations] of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness [absurd and illogical] to him; and he is incapable of understanding them, because they are spiritually discerned and appreciated, [and he is unqualified to judge spiritual matters].
 
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Ask him to join us here. I'll be happy to talk to him. :)
He wouldn't but thank you. Besides, it's beyond knowing how to respond or not respond now. Last night was vicious. I'm just trying to avoid him now. He's meaner than rabid dog.
 

Deror

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Hi Marie, so sorry you’re going through this :( I hope you’re alright.

First off, can you create a folder in your email to have his emails directed to that folder so you don’t have to see them when you get your regular emails?

Interesting the Tao is called The Way yet Jesus is The Way, The Truth and The Life

How to respond?

Just some suggestions:

—> In Faith. Faith in God, what He did for you, His ability to lead you into all truth and strengthen you, build you up.
—> Believing The Word of God, The Bible, what Jesus has done for you, His Promises. Jesus is right. Don’t believe lies, threats or false ways... not now you’ve found the truth and the truth is guaranteed to set you free. Keep hold of your Faith and belief, hear/read Truth on a regular basis, via The Word.
—> Prayer. Someone once said, pray so you don’t faint.. Spending time with God, esp in Prayer, even in quiet in His Presence is incredibly helpful.

Agree with other responses - it is a spiritual warfare, sometimes people close to us are used to discourage us from getting freedom in Christ.
Don’t be rattled by someone else’s bad behaviour.
Please Don’t let no one discourage you from learning about Jesus, The Father or The Holy Spirit. Or His promises to you!

Jesus loves you very much. Let Him show you personally just how much!

Have you heard of June Hunt or Patrick Doyle. They might help you. Jill Southern Jones also has a good video on ungodly control, worth checking out.

If someone gets violent (rabid) please don't hesitate to reach out for help, support, assistance.

Hope you’re ok. It’s late here I have to log off, but I’ll be thinking about you. Pray you are helped and protected and strengthened in the Lord, God Bless you
 

Oncefallen

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Since I've been trying to learn the bible, my husband has challenging me on it, using every argument ever conceived of. He challenges the bible saying it's written by man only and that it contradicts itself. He goes after me like a rabid dog and I can't say anything because I don't know anything.

I'm tired of being harassed. What can I say to end the badgering? And I am not rebuking a demon out of him. He is a narcissist. He'll have me institutionalized.
You might consider reading Lee Strobel's book Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage. If you're not familiar with him he is a former atheist who's wife came to Christ long before he did and he put her through the same sort of thing that your husband is putting you through. He has since authored numerous books defending core doctrines of the Church with extra biblical evidences of the veracity of the Truth we believe.

As far as your concern about your husband having you committed, it is a near impossibility unless he could prove to a judge that you were A) an immediate threat to yourself (suicidal) B) an immediate threat to others (homicidal) C) completely incapable of caring for yourself.
 

Journeyman

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He wouldn't but thank you. Besides, it's beyond knowing how to respond or not respond now. Last night was vicious. I'm just trying to avoid him now. He's meaner than rabid dog.
That's ok sis. Jesus endured a lot of verbal abuse also for us. It's situations like these that form us into Christs image. We get a glimpse of his suffering at the hands of those who should have loved him.

The counsel Nehemiah6 and tourist shared from 1Pet.3 is stellar. Also,

For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife....For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? 1Cor.714,16

It becomes clearer through suffering how much Jesus loved and loves us and God is making you like our great King.