Pregnancy and Worried
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Welcome to CC. I'm sorry you are in this situation. I pray the Lord will protect you and your baby.
You have asked for advice. People who are outside the emotions of the situation, who are your brothers and sisters in the Lord, only have your best interests at heart. I GUARANTEE your parents have your best interests at heart.
There is NO legitimate reason to wait til August to marry. I understand he may be afraid, but things will NOT get easier after the baby is born.
I know you don't think so, but you are VERY young. Listen to your Dad. HE for sure loves you. So your fiance can do the right thing and be a man, or you should rely on the support of your family and cut him loose, except for financial obligations he has for the next 18 yrs.
It's hard. Pray on it and LISTEN to the Lord's answer.
You have asked for advice. People who are outside the emotions of the situation, who are your brothers and sisters in the Lord, only have your best interests at heart. I GUARANTEE your parents have your best interests at heart.
There is NO legitimate reason to wait til August to marry. I understand he may be afraid, but things will NOT get easier after the baby is born.
I know you don't think so, but you are VERY young. Listen to your Dad. HE for sure loves you. So your fiance can do the right thing and be a man, or you should rely on the support of your family and cut him loose, except for financial obligations he has for the next 18 yrs.
It's hard. Pray on it and LISTEN to the Lord's answer.
This young man is going to need to demonstrate a much greater commitment to the Lord if there is to be any hope for this marriage no matter when it takes place. The Lord must be the center of the relationship between the husband the wife and the child. Otherwise this will be just another statistical proof of why marriages fail in the USA.
Marriage is a covenant relationship. To have an enduring covenant with another person one must first have a real covenant with the Lord and true knowledge of submission to His will.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Marriage is a covenant relationship. To have an enduring covenant with another person one must first have a real covenant with the Lord and true knowledge of submission to His will.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
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A shotgun wedding isn't going to discount the sin of premarital relations or pregnancy, only in your father's warped reality of public image.
I hope your father's threat to separate yourself from the father of your child if he won't produce a courthouse document is just an empty threat, because if he is serious that is idiotic. "All or nothing" does not apply to this situation whatsoever.
You and your fiancee are right to wait until you are financially secure for the marriage. Your father seems more concerned about "image" than he does about financial and the personal stability of your relationship. He's a real piece of work and you need to confront or ignore his immature and severely misguided demands.
Or just go to the courthouse and get the document and don't have the ceremony at all and make this issue go away, unless you REALLY want to have an expensive ceremony.
I hope your father's threat to separate yourself from the father of your child if he won't produce a courthouse document is just an empty threat, because if he is serious that is idiotic. "All or nothing" does not apply to this situation whatsoever.
You and your fiancee are right to wait until you are financially secure for the marriage. Your father seems more concerned about "image" than he does about financial and the personal stability of your relationship. He's a real piece of work and you need to confront or ignore his immature and severely misguided demands.
Or just go to the courthouse and get the document and don't have the ceremony at all and make this issue go away, unless you REALLY want to have an expensive ceremony.
What more could he do to demonstrate a much greater commitment to the Lord? Money is being put aside, baby comes in March, marriage takes place in August. I see nothing that has been posted by the OP that cast doubt about commitment or that the Lord is not already in the center of their relationship. What's done is done and that can't be changed or undone. Seems to me that the young couple are taking the necessary steps in regards to their future married life together.
