Stop apologizing

[Depleted]

There are so many people in this world who's spirits have been shattered by a significant person in their life....I being one of them. And because my spirit was broken at an early age, I attracted or was attracted to people who did the very same thing to me. From my perspective, those relationships were an attempt to gain the love and acceptance I craved from the person who I needed it from the most when I was young. I learned to be sorry for my failures and I attached my failures to my value as a human being. This post was not meant for everyone...it was meant for those who needed it.

This is not a counterpoint.

Many have tried to crush my spirit over the years. Many are still trying to do that. One of the things I've learned from the Bible is our spirit was dead. Dead -- not passed out, a bit weak, maybe comatosed, Dead! Born again is of spirit. It is the Holy Spirit.

Leaving me to question if my old dead spirit is still dead just to be replaced by God's Spirit. (If so, cool deal! Sold!) OR did he give me my own spirit in him?

My old spirit was dead. Was it ever alive before it was dead? Does it matter, since it was dead? (Kind of like finding out a much loved pet didn't die when you thought he did, but died later.)

Ultimately, this leads me to wonder if my spirit matters? Not saying I don't matter, because obviously I do or God wouldn't have come down to die on that cross for me, but does that used-to-be-dead-and-now-it's-something-else spirit matter?

Like I said. This isn't a counterpoint. I got no answers. I'm not sure if anyone does. Just something I wonder as I brace myself for another day that can lead to more frustrations for my spirit.

 

[Depleted]

Once I posted funny pics in a lighthearted nonsense thread and a guy got furious. It made absolutely no sense. Nothing to apologize about, but God told me I had to. Turned out he had brain damage. Later he apologized. It was really good.
When someone is controlling and does that, well you can't please everybody. If people don't like who you are or how you talk and demand you act as they find pleasing so be it. Bye!

Orrrr find out why and make a friend.

 

[coby]

Orrrr find out why and make a friend.

Yeah I had one on a Dutch forum. She was mad because we had a funny pic thread and were joking around and she was so serious and religious. No wonder she was raised in a Dutch reformed church where you have to wear a hat, the preaching is about feeling totally rotten and do nothing on Sunday. I said she was sour, but later when I removed a religious joke pic for her which offended her we became best friends and she started to post the most funny stuff there.

 

[AuntieAnt]

I used to apologize waaay too much. Through counseling I learned that it was becuz of guilt/shame of childhood abuse. I'm now more aware not to take responsibility for everyone and everything.

 

[coby]

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[Sirk]

There was a time that I wasn't afraid of confrontation. Then I went thru my second divorce, moved me and my son 3 times, lost some friends, felt misunderstood and isolated. But I pressed on in spite of my fear of rejection and my confidence is returning.....in a better way too. In a more user friendly way I suppose.

 

[AuntieAnt]

How about all the folks on this site who feel like they have to crawl to God in dread all the time repenting in sackcloth & ashes for every thought word or deed they feel has alienated them from the Father? Actually, that was once me.

 

[Sirk]

How about all the folks on this site who feel like they have to crawl to God in dread all the time repenting in sackcloth & ashes for every thought word or deed they feel has alienated them from the Father? Actually, that was once me.

That kind of attitude doesnt provide much of a light in the world does it?

 

[coby]

How about all the folks on this site who feel like they have to crawl to God in dread all the time repenting in sackcloth & ashes for every thought word or deed they feel has alienated them from the Father? Actually, that was once me.

Lol when I was just saved I said the sinner's prayer every week. Lol in the end the pastor didn't even react anymore when I raised my hand.

 

[nu2see]

There was a time that I wasn't afraid of confrontation. Then I went thru my second divorce, moved me and my son 3 times, lost some friends, felt misunderstood and isolated. But I pressed on in spite of my fear of rejection and my confidence is returning.....in a better way too. In a more user friendly way I suppose.

Oh...I know that one.
I'll be friendly, and they get to use me!

 

[Sirk]

I've only said sorry once in the last few days. Very liberating. I hear people saying it all the time now.

 

[Addison]

 

[psychomom]

from Merriam Webster: (and since #2 is the context in which i most use the word, i probably won't stop )

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. (Rom. 12:15)

ps-- it's wonderful to see you, Kris ♥

[h=2]Full Definition of sorry[/h] sor·ri·er sor·ri·est

• 1 : feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence
  
• 2 : mournful, sad
  
• 3 : inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule : pitiful <their affairs were in a sorry state>
  
  
  

 

[Miri]

Sorry just had to say this, you have spelt "that" word wrong.
Should be apologising.

Just saying.
Sorry

 

[Sirk]

Sorry just had to say this, you have spelt "that" word wrong.
Should be apologising.

Just saying.
Sorry

See, that right there is no reason to apologize. Was God dishonored, did you sin against me? No. Could I be offended that you pointed that out? Sure I could, I could feel disrespected or a whole host things. But all of that is on me and none of it is your job to fix.

 

[Sirk]

from Merriam Webster: (and since #2 is the context in which i most use the word, i probably won't stop )

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. (Rom. 12:15)

ps-- it's wonderful to see you, Kris ♥

[h=2]Full Definition of sorry[/h] sor·ri·er sor·ri·est

• 1 : feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence
  
• 2 : mournful, sad
  
• 3 : inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule : pitiful <their affairs were in a sorry state>
  
  
  

Good to see you too.

 

[coby]

Sorry just had to say this, you have spelt "that" word wrong.
Should be apologising.

Just saying.
Sorry

http://grammarist.com/spelling/apologise-apologize/

http://tonsofcats.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/I-regret-nothing-560x292.jpg

 

[Sirk]

I endeavor to only say I'm sorry when it actually means something. That it isn't coming from a place of insecurity.

 

[coby]

I endeavor to only say I'm sorry when it actually means something. That it isn't coming from a place of insecurity.

I think it's also just politeness. Sorry but meaning: excuse me, pardon me, do you know where the .. are? Instead of: hey you where's that?

 

[Sirk]

I think it's also just politeness. Sorry but meaning: excuse me, pardon me, do you know where the .. are? Instead of: hey you where's that?

I get it. We need each other. No one should be sorry about that. Being polite is biblical. Being sorry when there is no need to be is putting yourself beneath someone when it comes from insecurity. It is fear of man not fear of God. We are no better and no worse than anyone else.