You know, I can definitely relate to that; letting go of all control and handing it over to God and to just leave it in his hands. I know and understand that we all have our part to play as well, but I’m recently saved, will be one year this April, so I’ve always been used to having total control over my life, albeit things rarely ever went good when I was in control, but learning to give up all control to God is still such a new concept for me. Not that I don’t want to hand Him total control, just that learning to fully and truly 100 percent relinquish myself to Him, is something I’m struggling with. I know I’m new and as long as I keep working hard and keeping myself immersed in His Word daily that things like that get easier in time. I just got to understand Th at it’s not necessarily a bad thing that I’m still single, I got important things I want to achieve in the future and maybe I’m supposed to be single to succeed in that. And if I’m truly meant to be with someone and get married, He’ll put her in my life at the right time; His time not mine, as you were basically describing lol. Thank you so much for the response. I’m not trying to say that I’m happy that there are people going through what I am, but I will say that it makes me happy to learn that I’m definitely not alone!
Literally same page in thinking! I find certain areas are so easy to fully trust Him and give up control, and I recognize that these areas may be very difficult and challenging for others; ie. finances, career, etc. Whereas, the area of relationship/marriage (where others may have complete faith), I almost have 0... more often than not, if I'm being honest! That's amazing! I truly believe it's a conscious choice to hand over the reins every single day to God in all areas (some areas easier than others), no matter how new or long your walk has been! ...and it can be tough! Encouragement from others, prayer, and being constant in the Word are all the only way to make it through! I find myself in few and far situations where I meet a potential man, as I'm not the type to go out looking for it, that combined with the mentality of 'intentional dating', it gets tricky. I've been finding myself feeling like I'm going around in the same loop -- meet someone, really connect, start getting really hopeful, (and tbh, recently have just started truly praying and asking if God is saying "yes", rather than automatically assuming). But in the next moment, it's gone - God's answer is a clear no, and I'm so dismayed; knowing God has His purpose, reason, and ultimately protection as He sees the full future, we don't, which does bring some peace, but I still feel, "Ok, but here I am at square 1 again, and I have 0 clue.... am I going to come across another potential man in a month? 6 months? Year? Couple years? ....to go through this all over again? Or will it really be different this time?" I really struggle with faith in that. And, of course, as you said in your OP, you begin looking to other relationships and comparing, unfortunately - sad reality. It's hard, it's really hard! I just went through this loop, and for the first time decided, "I need to join a community of people with the same faith and connect because I'm really struggling right now"... and I found this thread, and I couldn't be more grateful for it! Your posts have put into the exact words my thoughts/feelings right now!