- Dec 11, 2019
God may indeed search and find the one of your heart's desire but you must be ready to take bold decisive action when an opportunity may arise. Finding a good spouse is not a passive endeavor. Whether you remain single or get married is a choice you will have to make as God will not make that choice for you. The only thing that you are meant to be is to have life and have it more abundantly and that is true whether single or married. That's a choice as well.
Literally same page in thinking! I find certain areas are so easy to fully trust Him and give up control, and I recognize that these areas may be very difficult and challenging for others; ie. finances, career, etc. Whereas, the area of relationship/marriage (where others may have complete faith), I almost have 0... more often than not, if I'm being honest! That's amazing! I truly believe it's a conscious choice to hand over the reins every single day to God in all areas (some areas easier than others), no matter how new or long your walk has been! ...and it can be tough! Encouragement from others, prayer, and being constant in the Word are all the only way to make it through! I find myself in few and far situations where I meet a potential man, as I'm not the type to go out looking for it, that combined with the mentality of 'intentional dating', it gets tricky. I've been finding myself feeling like I'm going around in the same loop -- meet someone, really connect, start getting really hopeful, (and tbh, recently have just started truly praying and asking if God is saying "yes", rather than automatically assuming). But in the next moment, it's gone - God's answer is a clear no, and I'm so dismayed; knowing God has His purpose, reason, and ultimately protection as He sees the full future, we don't, which does bring some peace, but I still feel, "Ok, but here I am at square 1 again, and I have 0 clue.... am I going to come across another potential man in a month? 6 months? Year? Couple years? ....to go through this all over again? Or will it really be different this time?" I really struggle with faith in that. And, of course, as you said in your OP, you begin looking to other relationships and comparing, unfortunately - sad reality. It's hard, it's really hard! I just went through this loop, and for the first time decided, "I need to join a community of people with the same faith and connect because I'm really struggling right now"... and I found this thread, and I couldn't be more grateful for it! Your posts have put into the exact words my thoughts/feelings right now!
It also feels so good to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with faith sometimes too. It helps me to see that there’s nothing wrong with me, I just need to build upon the foundation of whatever it is that my faith is struggling with. Of course easier said than done but we’re not alone in that endeavor.
I’m also right there with you about wanting to find a community of like minded individuals. For the first time in my life sense I joined my current church, I finally feel like I found a true family, instead of just feeling like “I have to go to church” like it was a chore, like I did when I was younger. But I know that there’s a great big world out there full of believers and awesome new friends and family to make!
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