As An "Older" Single, What Advice Would You Give to Younger Singles?

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Tommy379

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And lets recap: Tommy finds women over the age of 27, very attractive.
 

Lynx

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Yes, and Tommy is also very shy, very modest, very humble and very subtle...
 

tourist

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And lets recap: Tommy finds women over the age of 27, very attractive.
That's been my experience as well, particularly my wife. I didn't marry her because of fertility either as I have been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. She's baking me cookies right now 'cause she loves me so.
 

Tommy379

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That's been my experience as well, particularly my wife. I didn't marry her because of fertility either as I have been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. She's baking me cookies right now 'cause she loves me so.
I'm not concerned with fertility anymore. I'll take whatever babies God gives. 0 to whatever.
 
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Hi, seoulsearch :)

First, I miss you.
Second, I love you.
Thirdly, give me cookies.
Kgreatthanks.

Even though I have a boyfriend, I have learned to be content in being single. I realized I needed to be truly happy with myself. Being in a relationship does not mean your worth is much more. Your worth should already be set. I sound like a broken record, because I feel many Christians talk about finding your worth. But, do they truly feel worthy and valued? Most of the time, no. It's just easier to say, "Find your worth!" then actually putting it into practice.

When I was single, I started enjoying my perks. I started changing my mindset. Instead of me saying, "Man, I wish I had a boyfriend," I would say, "Look at all the cool things I can do." And, I did it. I traveled, I visited restaurants that I never ate at, I went out with my friends, I hiked, I kayaked, even went cliff jumping with my close friends - I did everything that I wanted to do.

When I got sad about not sharing my life with someone special, I would remind myself, "It is okay to be sad. Be sad, but let it pass." I allowed myself to go through the feeling of sadness, but decided not to dwell on the sadness. I recognized it, I accepted it, but I didn't let it linger. And I would end that thought, "I'm a pretty cool individual and if I'm single, then it just means it's not my time and I still have a lot to learn and that's okay. I'm going to enjoy this journey."
 
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I would also have to say to the younger generations. Relearn manners and respect.

My grandmother invited me to a couple to local FB groups. ( am I a dinosaur???) What has happened? The vulgur and filthy mouths of these younger folks. I keep my stuff controlled and wisely select my friends. Maybe I am to isolated from the world. But scrolling down this one County FB group, I was shocked by what I read and seen. When did this behavior become ok? I guess that's why I don't do TV.

You know that's why I retired early. I remember when there was team work. You're reputation was how you got promotions, your work ethic. But today, heck no, all they want to do is be on their phone or companies computer, and trash talking each other. Even leads. No wonder I enjoy being in nature.

Point being young folks, don't go with the flow. Develope an honorable character. Learn to speak and treat people respectful. A flawed character is not easily repaired.
 

Jewel5712

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I would also have to say to the younger generations. Relearn manners and respect.

My grandmother invited me to a couple to local FB groups. ( am I a dinosaur???) What has happened? The vulgur and filthy mouths of these younger folks. I keep my stuff controlled and wisely select my friends. Maybe I am to isolated from the world. But scrolling down this one County FB group, I was shocked by what I read and seen. When did this behavior become ok? I guess that's why I don't do TV.

You know that's why I retired early. I remember when there was team work. You're reputation was how you got promotions, your work ethic. But today, heck no, all they want to do is be on their phone or companies computer, and trash talking each other. Even leads. No wonder I enjoy being in nature.

Point being young folks, don't go with the flow. Develope an honorable character. Learn to speak and treat people respectful. A flawed character is not easily repaired.
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AMEN!!
 

MichaelOwen

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I consider myself a younger single (seeing as how i'm knocking on 30's door), so my advice to my peers, might not be received very well, but Faith-n-Christ is right, 100 percent absolutely. Good character and manners go much further than you ever thought about going, they not only carry you in a relationship, but they carry you in life, to develop friendships and bonds with people. As for me.....i've made a ton of mistakes, and I can say most of them happened when I was in a relationship. Relationships require work and compromise, you can't just enter into it, thinking you're set and just lay down and expect blessings to come your way....you have to put forth the effort to make the relationship work.....my advice would be to stay off social media, stay away from the popular crowds, and above all observe the people you interact with, and I don't just mean here and there, really watch them and study their character, it doesn't take long for a person's true colors to shine through...believe me, don't be naive, let God send you the right person for your life....What God brings together, NO MAN can asunder.
 

Jewel5712

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I consider myself a younger single (seeing as how i'm knocking on 30's door), so my advice to my peers, might not be received very well, but Faith-n-Christ is right, 100 percent absolutely. Good character and manners go much further than you ever thought about going, they not only carry you in a relationship, but they carry you in life, to develop friendships and bonds with people. As for me.....i've made a ton of mistakes, and I can say most of them happened when I was in a relationship. Relationships require work and compromise, you can't just enter into it, thinking you're set and just lay down and expect blessings to come your way....you have to put forth the effort to make the relationship work.....my advice would be to stay off social media, stay away from the popular crowds, and above all observe the people you interact with, and I don't just mean here and there, really watch them and study their character, it doesn't take long for a person's true colors to shine through...believe me, don't be naive, let God send you the right person for your life....What God brings together, NO MAN can asunder.
(Jewel going to google meaning of ASUNDER) lol
 
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Me, pinnochio? I said that because all they are going to get out of a forum like this is people telling them to be patient and focus on God... and/or that God is preparing a special someone for them. That type of advice will just keep them alone, single and frustrated.
 

seoulsearch

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Me, pinnochio? I said that because all they are going to get out of a forum like this is people telling them to be patient and focus on God... and/or that God is preparing a special someone for them. That type of advice will just keep them alone, single and frustrated.
The quote she used was in reference to Tommy...

I could be wrong (and ask for Jewel's correction if that's the case), but I'm pretty sure her "Pinocchio" joke was directed towards Tommy, and not you, Zero, so no reason to take offense at all. :)
 

Tommy379

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What Pinocchio joke?
 
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Me, pinnochio? I said that because all they are going to get out of a forum like this is people telling them to be patient and focus on God... and/or that God is preparing a special someone for them. That type of advice will just keep them alone, single and frustrated.
or turned them into me, where they just end up hating people in general and want nothing to do with people