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This is probably late. My thoughts, I don't have a good feeling about this kind of thing personally - especially the way you describe communicating with the person.
Meet at a place where plenty of other people are located, but not a loud place where you can't hear each other talk. You should also avoid places of entertainment (no movies or rodeos). Getting to know a new person in a place like that is time wasted. After a movie, for example, you would arrive home with little insight about the person...other than their preference on popcorn being buttered or not - something you could have asked in a text.
You should meet to talk. And definitely plan to keep the date short, and communicate that it will be a short date.. but don't guarantee a time frame. This leaves you an out in case it isn't flowing and you feel uncomfortable with him. And even if it is flowing, leaving early will add a little more intrigue about you.
Make sure you have reserve cash on the side in case he secretly slashes your car tires and you end up needing a way home (just kidding)... but... just be prepared to buy a taxi as backup!
If you have dinner and pray before eating.. let him lead it.. this will help indicate his maturity in Christ. If he punctuates the prayer with "allah akbar", then you need to go into missionary mode to witness to him with the Gospel.
Blessings sister. Will pray for you...even though it's late.
Meet at a place where plenty of other people are located, but not a loud place where you can't hear each other talk. You should also avoid places of entertainment (no movies or rodeos). Getting to know a new person in a place like that is time wasted. After a movie, for example, you would arrive home with little insight about the person...other than their preference on popcorn being buttered or not - something you could have asked in a text.
You should meet to talk. And definitely plan to keep the date short, and communicate that it will be a short date.. but don't guarantee a time frame. This leaves you an out in case it isn't flowing and you feel uncomfortable with him. And even if it is flowing, leaving early will add a little more intrigue about you.
Make sure you have reserve cash on the side in case he secretly slashes your car tires and you end up needing a way home (just kidding)... but... just be prepared to buy a taxi as backup!
If you have dinner and pray before eating.. let him lead it.. this will help indicate his maturity in Christ. If he punctuates the prayer with "allah akbar", then you need to go into missionary mode to witness to him with the Gospel.
Blessings sister. Will pray for you...even though it's late.
R
ok soo hmm where do i start lol now i feel nervous ha... well id say the date went ok i got to the restaurant, and he was at the entrance waiting for me, he took his hat off when he saw me, opened the door for me ( in my world thats rare, when i was in Bible College, i got so used to men doing that for me that it was a difficult adjustment when i left lol so that was a nice touch!) so where do i begin.... well idk how in depth i want to get on here lol.... we ordered, i wasnt sure if he was going to pray for our food or not i kinda waited, so finally i said i was going to pray lol and did. we ate and talked, he had told me before hand when he was a child he had meningitis, but didn't say really what the lasting effects were so i was def nervous about that tonight! umm so he told me some stuff, he has some disabilities, learning, has issues with the part of the brain that controls impulses... umm he seems very attached to me already... in the past i have always been that person, but i have really tried to work on that so its weird to be on the other side of the coin... i dont think thats healthy and i flat out told him so lol... he told me i am very forward... idk if thats a good thing or a bad thing.... we talked for almost 4 hours he asked me out again, i said that i would like to go out again. My thoughts... im hesitant about his disability, i was reading online and they deal with memory loss, forgetfulness, lack of control of impulse. i work at a place where its people with handicaps/ barriers to employment i know that i should not worry about what others think and that that is very shallow, but i dont want someone from work to think that i am taking advantage of him so to say... if that makes sense? he told me he has had anger issues in the past he was locked up in a juvenile center when he was a teen, hes not had a stable life for the most part it sounded like his mom passed him around. 
his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
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ok soo hmm where do i start lol now i feel nervous ha... well id say the date went ok i got to the restaurant, and he was at the entrance waiting for me, he took his hat off when he saw me, opened the door for me ( in my world thats rare, when i was in Bible College, i got so used to men doing that for me that it was a difficult adjustment when i left lol so that was a nice touch!) so where do i begin.... well idk how in depth i want to get on here lol.... we ordered, i wasnt sure if he was going to pray for our food or not i kinda waited, so finally i said i was going to pray lol and did. we ate and talked, he had told me before hand when he was a child he had meningitis, but didn't say really what the lasting effects were so i was def nervous about that tonight! umm so he told me some stuff, he has some disabilities, learning, has issues with the part of the brain that controls impulses... umm he seems very attached to me already... in the past i have always been that person, but i have really tried to work on that so its weird to be on the other side of the coin... i dont think thats healthy and i flat out told him so lol... he told me i am very forward... idk if thats a good thing or a bad thing.... we talked for almost 4 hours he asked me out again, i said that i would like to go out again. My thoughts... im hesitant about his disability, i was reading online and they deal with memory loss, forgetfulness, lack of control of impulse. i work at a place where its people with handicaps/ barriers to employment i know that i should not worry about what others think and that that is very shallow, but i dont want someone from work to think that i am taking advantage of him so to say... if that makes sense? he told me he has had anger issues in the past he was locked up in a juvenile center when he was a teen, hes not had a stable life for the most part it sounded like his mom passed him around. his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
Drive through ATM's have Braille because the face plates are all manufactured identically regardless of final application. It's cheaper for the manufacturer to install a Braille tag on all face plates than to have to grab from two different stacks of face plates during assembly for walk up and drive up applications
I would certainly hope so, they are required by ADA standards to be at a specific height and blind persons when they learn cane walking they are also trained to "look" for the Braille placard at that height. Older buildings may not have them if they haven't been remodeled since ADA was passed (1990).
I would certainly hope so, they are required by ADA standards to be at a specific height and blind persons when they learn cane walking they are also trained to "look" for the Braille placard at that height. Older buildings may not have them if they haven't been remodeled since ADA was passed (1990).
relient: Glad it went well. Gotta give the guy credit, he was open and honest. And the stuff you said he mentioned, it was probably better if he mentioned it up front. Better to know that stuff now than after you have wasted time going on five dates with the guy.
The impulse control stuff would be the only one I might balk at, but if he made it through the night without jumping on the table and yodeling I think you probably don't have to worry about him having impulse control problems. He was in a stressful situation, which would cause impulse control problems to manifest very clearly.
The impulse control stuff would be the only one I might balk at, but if he made it through the night without jumping on the table and yodeling I think you probably don't have to worry about him having impulse control problems. He was in a stressful situation, which would cause impulse control problems to manifest very clearly.
This is actually really interesting... I never knew any of this. I've grown up in smallish-town areas with old buildings and have frequented a lot of "mom & pop" type places, so when I first started noticing Braille signs at bigger stores, it really stood out to me.
Anyways... I went on a blind date in high school once. It was a double date with a friend and the guy she was seeing. This guy and I had literally nothing in common--it was more of a "Here, I'll find you someone to go out with so I can see my boyfriend because my parents require me to go on a double date thing." And we went to a haunted house, if I remember right.
Which pretty much sums up all my dates...
(I hope the rest of you out there who are venturing to go on blind dates in the future have a better go at it!)
Anyways... I went on a blind date in high school once. It was a double date with a friend and the guy she was seeing. This guy and I had literally nothing in common--it was more of a "Here, I'll find you someone to go out with so I can see my boyfriend because my parents require me to go on a double date thing." And we went to a haunted house, if I remember right.
Which pretty much sums up all my dates...
(I hope the rest of you out there who are venturing to go on blind dates in the future have a better go at it!
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ok soo hmm where do i start lol now i feel nervous ha... well id say the date went ok i got to the restaurant, and he was at the entrance waiting for me, he took his hat off when he saw me, opened the door for me ( in my world thats rare, when i was in Bible College, i got so used to men doing that for me that it was a difficult adjustment when i left lol so that was a nice touch!) so where do i begin.... well idk how in depth i want to get on here lol.... we ordered, i wasnt sure if he was going to pray for our food or not i kinda waited, so finally i said i was going to pray lol and did. we ate and talked, he had told me before hand when he was a child he had meningitis, but didn't say really what the lasting effects were so i was def nervous about that tonight! umm so he told me some stuff, he has some disabilities, learning, has issues with the part of the brain that controls impulses... umm he seems very attached to me already... in the past i have always been that person, but i have really tried to work on that so its weird to be on the other side of the coin... i dont think thats healthy and i flat out told him so lol... he told me i am very forward... idk if thats a good thing or a bad thing.... we talked for almost 4 hours he asked me out again, i said that i would like to go out again. My thoughts... im hesitant about his disability, i was reading online and they deal with memory loss, forgetfulness, lack of control of impulse. i work at a place where its people with handicaps/ barriers to employment i know that i should not worry about what others think and that that is very shallow, but i dont want someone from work to think that i am taking advantage of him so to say... if that makes sense? he told me he has had anger issues in the past he was locked up in a juvenile center when he was a teen, hes not had a stable life for the most part it sounded like his mom passed him around. his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
I'm aware of this, but it was still more fun to make a joke about braille on a drive through ATM.
The really interesting handicap accessible stuff is when you have an old building that has stairs and can't be renovated for a ramp. A building I passed about a week or so ago had some sort of crazy stair chair that is designed to sit outside in the weather. Roll your wheelchair up on it and push the button, rain or shine. I know they make outdoor stair chairs, but this one flipped up so snow wouldn't accumulate on it.
I'm not sure how it was supposed to work though as the buttons were push buttons that weren't weatherproof as far as I could tell (they weren't the kind with rubber over them to keep out moisture). I suppose they could still have been weatherproof, but I didn't pull over to find out. If they weren't weatherproof, then I'm betting there was no GFI on the circuit, which seems dangerous for a metal lift that a person sitting in a metal wheelchair is going to push buttons on in the rain. It's not like they marked it to say "composite wheelchairs only" or anything.
ok soo hmm where do i start lol now i feel nervous ha... well id say the date went ok i got to the restaurant, and he was at the entrance waiting for me, he took his hat off when he saw me, opened the door for me ( in my world thats rare, when i was in Bible College, i got so used to men doing that for me that it was a difficult adjustment when i left lol so that was a nice touch!) so where do i begin.... well idk how in depth i want to get on here lol.... we ordered, i wasnt sure if he was going to pray for our food or not i kinda waited, so finally i said i was going to pray lol and did. we ate and talked, he had told me before hand when he was a child he had meningitis, but didn't say really what the lasting effects were so i was def nervous about that tonight! umm so he told me some stuff, he has some disabilities, learning, has issues with the part of the brain that controls impulses... umm he seems very attached to me already... in the past i have always been that person, but i have really tried to work on that so its weird to be on the other side of the coin... i dont think thats healthy and i flat out told him so lol... he told me i am very forward... idk if thats a good thing or a bad thing.... we talked for almost 4 hours he asked me out again, i said that i would like to go out again. My thoughts... im hesitant about his disability, i was reading online and they deal with memory loss, forgetfulness, lack of control of impulse. i work at a place where its people with handicaps/ barriers to employment i know that i should not worry about what others think and that that is very shallow, but i dont want someone from work to think that i am taking advantage of him so to say... if that makes sense? he told me he has had anger issues in the past he was locked up in a juvenile center when he was a teen, hes not had a stable life for the most part it sounded like his mom passed him around. his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
his dad was killed when he was 6.... umm idk he was polite, sweet, friendly, courteous, kind, hes a christian (id say newer because of where his life was) he mentioned something about PTSD? because of his dads murder im not sure what that all is about... but anyways this is probably liek a million pages long... if you got this far in reading and can handle my rambling ohh and he also paid for dinner!
i'd vote for going out with him again. it's not a marriage proposal, just a date. i am sort of against using research and other people to fill in the answers that could/should come from his own mouth. or at least, hold that information pretty loosely in your mind.
it sounds like you were pleased with at least part of the date, and enjoyed yourself enough that i think there's value in finding out more.
don't make assumptions about what he shared. instead, give him a chance to explain his circumstances and himself better, by asking him the questions you want to know about. sometimes people can get a diagnosis for something that they don't fulfill typical expectations of.
also, a LOT OF PEOPLE seem to think they need to lead with every bit of "bad news" they have, as if they want to make sure you know every possible perceived negative he can think of about himself. unfortunately, that can sort of scare people, but it's pretty common. he might be doing the same thing. in that case, he is giving you all this up front--and i would say you ought to stick around long enough to learn about the positive qualities and goodness there too.
also, i have very, very seldom been attracted to someone on the first date. give yourself a little more time to get to know him better before you decide how you feel about all the things he shared. ask questions that were raised on the first date, and also, he might be very different because he is more relaxed. the second date is where you might feel some chemistry and a better sense of the rapport you might have.
stop overthinking it. just go, and decide to enjoy yourself. have fun. : )
finally, i agree with SS' comment about being slow and careful. actually, i think that's good advice for anyone embarking on a dating/romantic prospect.
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Gosh, such a bad idea, i don't know where to begin! Even on this site there are stories of disastrous marriages because of this kind of thinking.
But kissing on the first date is probably better avoided, but if the situation really feels rite, don't spoil it either. Personally i would prefer to get to know someone better, i would try to get to the point where i feel i am ready to commit to the idea to persue this relationship
But kissing on the first date is probably better avoided, but if the situation really feels rite, don't spoil it either. Personally i would prefer to get to know someone better, i would try to get to the point where i feel i am ready to commit to the idea to persue this relationship