Brainwash vs. Cultural Expectations
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Two things: Entertainment. Holy cow, 50 bucks for a night at the movies! And cable/satellite! Have mercy!
Children. Yes, they are your little darlings, but do they really deserve that third iPhone after losing the first two? Common sense. Moderation. (What are things that have been lost in modern culture, Alix?)
Children. Yes, they are your little darlings, but do they really deserve that third iPhone after losing the first two? Common sense. Moderation. (What are things that have been lost in modern culture, Alix?)
A couple of weeks ago I was on this page I frequent of Facebook. It's a page for people looking for adopted out family members. A young 19 year old woman had put up a link to a page she had made for donations to her wedding. Someone mentioned to her, you can't do that here. She said, well I'm adopted and my adoptive parents won't help me pay for this wedding, they don't think I should get married. So I piped in and said, I'm sorry you and your parents are having issues, but asking others for donations so you can get married seems a bit tacky when there are so many others on that page you posted who have issues like sick children, homelessness, etc, etc. If you really want to get married, go to a church and talk to the pastor/priest and see if you can have a small ceremony that wont cost a lot.
Well she was very angry at me for posting that. This girl was getting married for the wedding, very sad.
Well she was very angry at me for posting that. This girl was getting married for the wedding, very sad.
Me either, seeing as she was so young and said she was in college, I can imagine that might why her parents object to her marrying right now. She also said some not so nice words about them when she was talking about them not helping her with expenses for her wedding. I told her that I paid for my own. I really feel people go to far with expecting parents to pay for weddings. We don't come with dowries anymore. I was 29 when I was married and wouldn't have asked anyone for money for that.
But to expect it is wrong. If your parents or family friends willingly give you money then it's a nice gift, but if this is all she wants then she has no idea what marriage is all about.
I think my entire wedding in 2000 was $5k, that was including:
some overpriced videography (still haven't watched that DVD),
the reception,
the rehearsal (his family boycotted the wedding. should have been as sign)
dresses for my 3 sisters, and
flying a bridesmaid in from college.
I watch shows like "Say Yes to the Dress" (no one judges me for that more than I do), and I'm just amazed. Those dresses cost more than my entire wedding did! I can't imagine buying a dress that costs as much as a car. Ridiculous.
some overpriced videography (still haven't watched that DVD),
the reception,
the rehearsal (his family boycotted the wedding. should have been as sign)
dresses for my 3 sisters, and
flying a bridesmaid in from college.
I watch shows like "Say Yes to the Dress" (no one judges me for that more than I do), and I'm just amazed. Those dresses cost more than my entire wedding did! I can't imagine buying a dress that costs as much as a car. Ridiculous.
The chart stops at 6'4 for men
It is customary for the bride's parents to bite the bullet, but I really think that in this era with people getting married later in life when they are financially capable of paying that custom is diminishing. My sister was in her 30's when she got married and my folks paid for a big chunk of the wedding, but then my sister wasn't doing anything big and extravagant either.
My folks have offered to help with my wedding since my fiance's folks aren't in a position to help, but I'm gonna do my darndest to not go there. We plan on doing a verrrrrrry simple ceremony and reception. It just doesn't make sense to me to go broke to pay for one day.
It is customary for the bride's parents to bite the bullet, but I really think that in this era with people getting married later in life when they are financially capable of paying that custom is diminishing. My sister was in her 30's when she got married and my folks paid for a big chunk of the wedding, but then my sister wasn't doing anything big and extravagant either.
My folks have offered to help with my wedding since my fiance's folks aren't in a position to help, but I'm gonna do my darndest to not go there. We plan on doing a verrrrrrry simple ceremony and reception. It just doesn't make sense to me to go broke to pay for one day.
I've always been a rebel, never worn brand names. My husband is the same, but his forté is fixing cheap broken cars and keeping them running for years with parts from the cheapest wrecker around. Saved us a fortune. We finally bought our first "new" car, a hail damaged vehicle at cut rate prices.
I've grown my own veggies, made my own clothes, and don't go to movies. I confess a weakness for books. And Kindle is great, because you can download a book in the middle of the mountains, while it is snowing and slippery, and not miss a beat.
I confess weight is an issue, because I was always so thin, and got heavy on medications for asthma and Rheumatoid Arthritis. And when I was 125 lbs at 5' 7' I looked anorexic looking back at those pics. Except I ate pretty much what I wanted.
As far as organic, I was raised with a garden, and became a vegetarian in 1972. I've been into organic foods ever since, although find organic citrus fruits in Canada was always a challenge until recently. Since I found out about GMO's I have been a fanatic about organic non-GMO's. I knew something was wrong when I stopped being able to digest corn, and found out that almost 99% of all corn grown today is GMO. So back to the radically alternative lifestyle.
I think as Christians, we need to be a witness to the world, and not spend money on frivolous stuff, but rather give where we can to the poor. There are so many so much worse off than we could ever be in North America. Or maybe Canada? Christ did not live an ostentatious lifestyle, and neither should we.
I've grown my own veggies, made my own clothes, and don't go to movies. I confess a weakness for books. And Kindle is great, because you can download a book in the middle of the mountains, while it is snowing and slippery, and not miss a beat.
I confess weight is an issue, because I was always so thin, and got heavy on medications for asthma and Rheumatoid Arthritis. And when I was 125 lbs at 5' 7' I looked anorexic looking back at those pics. Except I ate pretty much what I wanted.
As far as organic, I was raised with a garden, and became a vegetarian in 1972. I've been into organic foods ever since, although find organic citrus fruits in Canada was always a challenge until recently. Since I found out about GMO's I have been a fanatic about organic non-GMO's. I knew something was wrong when I stopped being able to digest corn, and found out that almost 99% of all corn grown today is GMO. So back to the radically alternative lifestyle.
I think as Christians, we need to be a witness to the world, and not spend money on frivolous stuff, but rather give where we can to the poor. There are so many so much worse off than we could ever be in North America. Or maybe Canada? Christ did not live an ostentatious lifestyle, and neither should we.
hahaha!
My last Gf wanted to marry and, before that, she asked the ring before the wedding... At the beginng she wanted it made of silver, later, when I gave her some credits in "reasons" she asked me one made of gold... Ja! Ja!
I´m glad that bargaining is over. I would never spend in diamonds, not even is I were rich, particularly when other things are more important and, as expectations are, she was "unhappy" for everything I wrote (clothing + shoes). So, now i know few things better: If a person is not liked me (or you people) why is she / he is loosing time trying to change what another is?
That sooner that is seen, the better. That sound like I´m better than you, allow me to remove this and these:
Mat 7:3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Mat 7:4 Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye?
Mat 7:5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
Mat 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.
My last Gf wanted to marry and, before that, she asked the ring before the wedding... At the beginng she wanted it made of silver, later, when I gave her some credits in "reasons" she asked me one made of gold... Ja! Ja!
I´m glad that bargaining is over. I would never spend in diamonds, not even is I were rich, particularly when other things are more important and, as expectations are, she was "unhappy" for everything I wrote (clothing + shoes). So, now i know few things better: If a person is not liked me (or you people) why is she / he is loosing time trying to change what another is?
That sooner that is seen, the better. That sound like I´m better than you, allow me to remove this and these:
Mat 7:3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Mat 7:4 Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye?
Mat 7:5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
Mat 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.