Okay, so based on everything I've read, and assuming everything you is truthful (which I'm trusting it is), let's see how this can help:
1. Pray. Remember, we're on God's time and His schedule. Every good thing you want to happen will not happen right away. Patience is needed for an answer (and a miracle) from Him.
2. Be pro-active. I don't know what kind of disability you have, but you're still alive, which means God has something planned for you. Become more active, and this will help ease your mind, like doing the things you enjoy (unless if it's drugs or serious alcohol consumption, or whatever).
3. If it's not a physical disability, like not being able to walk, start exercising and burn fat and build muscle. If it is, you can still find a way to become more fit. Just do something that's not related to that disability. And if you are on something to help keep you alive, the physical work will help ease it. Now, if it is a mental disability, start meeting more people outside of where you live. If online is the only place, it's, at least, a better start than your current circumstance. Talking to a pastor or a Bible teacher will help as well.
4. When it comes to women, a couple of things you could do;
-lose some weight (if need be)
-buy trendier/better looking clothes
-find a fun hobby you wanted to do but couldn't get (you may enjoy it, too)
-have confidence in yourself (it's sounds hard, but that's what prayer is for)
-buy good hygiene products (sounds weird, but, trust me, this can help)
To me, it almost sounds like it's more problems getting a lady rather than these other issues because those can be handled. I know this too well. Shoot me a private message when you get a chance and let me know if this is accurate because I can probably help point ya in the right direction, based on my experiences. And, no, I won't be like the other people on here that can come off as a little inconsiderate and condescending. I'm still waiting to see if one guy is even going to respond to me on another thread because I'm beginning to question if he really gave his life to Christ or if he's a troll, acting like he's better everyone else. He's one of the guys that commented on here and he may read this, recognize my username, then may make a derogatory comment either on this thread or the other. Anyway, shoot me that message.