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I think shy guys are pretty awesome, I don't like obnoxious men who are conceited and full of themselves who are dissatisfied with everything in life. As long as the shy guy can still at least talk to you, everything is fine. It's not the shyness that characterizes the man, there is much more. The things that are really good thing to look for in a man and for the men a really good thing to look for in a woman are the fruit of the spirit. The fruit of the spirit can be found in galations 5:22-23 love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness and self-control. Those are what makes a wonderful person and imitators of the Lord Jesus Christ 
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Well it depends on the woman too, there are some girls out there that like that kind of crap, but if the woman is a genuine Christian she won't be looking for a bad boy to tug her to hell with him, she will look for a good Christian man that can help her and pray for her in this life and be able to see him again in eternity.
Hate I don't think you will get, not in this forum.
I predict you will get some disagreement though, from girls who have either tried bad boys and got burned, observed the mistakes of others and learned to avoid bad boys or just have the common sense to avoid a bad thing when they see it.
Then there are girls who will agree with you because they are just shortsighted enough to actually prefer bad boys.
Then there are girls who will claim to prefer bad boys because they have somehow gotten the idea that it is "cool" to like bad boys. As with most aspects of human sociology, this topic gets complicated fast.
I predict you will get some disagreement though, from girls who have either tried bad boys and got burned, observed the mistakes of others and learned to avoid bad boys or just have the common sense to avoid a bad thing when they see it.
Then there are girls who will agree with you because they are just shortsighted enough to actually prefer bad boys.
Then there are girls who will claim to prefer bad boys because they have somehow gotten the idea that it is "cool" to like bad boys. As with most aspects of human sociology, this topic gets complicated fast.
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I just know that some of my friends married a bad boy and he ended up being abusive, of mentally abusive and a alcoholic or got into drugs, so it's a dumb decision to get involved with a bad boy but a Christian man that's got the fruit of the spirit is a awesome man that will treat you good. Shy or not it would be good. It also says in the bible that a woman should not be unequally yoked with a unbeliever. If it was a genuine Christian he wouldn't be a bad boy which is another good reason for a genuine Christian woman to rather be interested in a sincere Christian man.
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My guy is super shy when it comes to talking about his feelings, yet he can be very aggressive and has ordered me to do a few things (it's not what you think lol). When he reached out to hold my hand for the first time he was so nervous his hand was shaking and it calmed down when our fingers intertwined.
I find this kind of shyness very attractive
I find this kind of shyness very attractive
Some might mistake wanting to act decent in goodness as shyness,for that type of person will not have a whole lot to say,but what is positive and good,and might not find too many people to converse with including a lot that claim Christ that get caught up in bad conversations they should not.
The world has a lot to talk about for they do not run on goodness alone,but their talk is more wide and diverse,for they will talk of positive things,negative things,cry and whine about things,cut people down and gossip about people,murmur and complain,basically what ever they think is blatting out of their mouth like a volcano under pressure,which is wide and diverse.
The person that represents goodness might have a hard time of really knowing what to say,and may feel awkward dealing with people who basically do not care about talking of goodness all the time,and might not like that they do not want to be looked at as a goody goody two shoes,which one of traits of the last days is they will be despisers of those who are good.
I do not consider myself shy,although I kind of did before I came to Christ,but then I came to realize it is because I really do not have much to say to people in a world that likes to talk negative,swearing,and all the silly talk they do,and to fit in you basically have to talk like them,which I notice that a lot,and I mean a lot of young kids in their teens,when they hang out together it appears all they do is badger and belittle each other,and as well as even adults when they get together and drink,but they play it off like I was only kidding.
It appears that is the point of having friends,so your nature can come out and dog out someone,for oh how we like to do that,but get away with it,by saying I am only kidding.
That is the purpose of friends,so you can belittle them,and get away with it,and say,I was only kidding,but I joke,but they do dog each other out these young kids today,because they is our nature to want to cut someone to the bone with words,for the tongue is the most unruliest member of our body,and we do not care if it is dad,or mom,grandpa,or grandma,that tongue is going to fly,as husband and wives dog out each other.
What was I posting about,oh,maybe someone is not actually shy,but is limited in how they want to speak for they are selective in how they speak,or they are very worried about saying the right thing,where a lot of people let it fly,and forget their reputation they say,for if you do not like the way I talk,too bad,and that is one of the reasons I do not like to converse with too many people,because I do not like the way they talk,and spout off at the mouth,and they may say I am shy,but all I want to do is talk of good things,while they spout off at the mouth,bragging and boasting,about themselves,and trying to match wits with each other,and you got to hear them talking negative,and crying and whining,and murmuring and complaining,and dogging and belittling,and this and that not proper talk.
Jesus would be a man of very little words except to say what is right,good,and positive,and profitable,and that is how I want to be,not someone saying this and that only for the sake of talking,and they will say he is shy.
Is someone really shy,or is it that we want to talk a certain way,and find it awkward to talk to someone,which really could not be shyness,but the people we want to converse with not knowing what to say,because of the way they talk,so it is a matter of not being shy,but not being able to relate to people in the talking arena,not knowing what to say,because our talk is different.
Because some that would consider themselves shy,why do they not have that shyness around people who are easy to talk to like mom or dad,and it is because they do not feel awkward that they will be shot down for what they say,or someone think you said something silly,for mom and dad would be more tolerant,and that is why some people we cannot act silly around,and others we can,according to how comfortable we are around them that they would not dog us out for how we talk.
It is only a matter of us worrying about saying the right thing,but you can do nothing about it,but be who you,and do not worry if they like you or not,for you are no different than anyone else,so why should you feel inferior,and if you like to talk decent there should be no shame,and why change your talk to be like the world for approval,for a person that talks in goodness,could talk like the world so they will be accepted,but if it goes against you,why dog yourself out for someone else,and not be happy.
The world has a lot to talk about for they do not run on goodness alone,but their talk is more wide and diverse,for they will talk of positive things,negative things,cry and whine about things,cut people down and gossip about people,murmur and complain,basically what ever they think is blatting out of their mouth like a volcano under pressure,which is wide and diverse.
The person that represents goodness might have a hard time of really knowing what to say,and may feel awkward dealing with people who basically do not care about talking of goodness all the time,and might not like that they do not want to be looked at as a goody goody two shoes,which one of traits of the last days is they will be despisers of those who are good.
I do not consider myself shy,although I kind of did before I came to Christ,but then I came to realize it is because I really do not have much to say to people in a world that likes to talk negative,swearing,and all the silly talk they do,and to fit in you basically have to talk like them,which I notice that a lot,and I mean a lot of young kids in their teens,when they hang out together it appears all they do is badger and belittle each other,and as well as even adults when they get together and drink,but they play it off like I was only kidding.
It appears that is the point of having friends,so your nature can come out and dog out someone,for oh how we like to do that,but get away with it,by saying I am only kidding.
That is the purpose of friends,so you can belittle them,and get away with it,and say,I was only kidding,but I joke,but they do dog each other out these young kids today,because they is our nature to want to cut someone to the bone with words,for the tongue is the most unruliest member of our body,and we do not care if it is dad,or mom,grandpa,or grandma,that tongue is going to fly,as husband and wives dog out each other.
What was I posting about,oh,maybe someone is not actually shy,but is limited in how they want to speak for they are selective in how they speak,or they are very worried about saying the right thing,where a lot of people let it fly,and forget their reputation they say,for if you do not like the way I talk,too bad,and that is one of the reasons I do not like to converse with too many people,because I do not like the way they talk,and spout off at the mouth,and they may say I am shy,but all I want to do is talk of good things,while they spout off at the mouth,bragging and boasting,about themselves,and trying to match wits with each other,and you got to hear them talking negative,and crying and whining,and murmuring and complaining,and dogging and belittling,and this and that not proper talk.
Jesus would be a man of very little words except to say what is right,good,and positive,and profitable,and that is how I want to be,not someone saying this and that only for the sake of talking,and they will say he is shy.
Is someone really shy,or is it that we want to talk a certain way,and find it awkward to talk to someone,which really could not be shyness,but the people we want to converse with not knowing what to say,because of the way they talk,so it is a matter of not being shy,but not being able to relate to people in the talking arena,not knowing what to say,because our talk is different.
Because some that would consider themselves shy,why do they not have that shyness around people who are easy to talk to like mom or dad,and it is because they do not feel awkward that they will be shot down for what they say,or someone think you said something silly,for mom and dad would be more tolerant,and that is why some people we cannot act silly around,and others we can,according to how comfortable we are around them that they would not dog us out for how we talk.
It is only a matter of us worrying about saying the right thing,but you can do nothing about it,but be who you,and do not worry if they like you or not,for you are no different than anyone else,so why should you feel inferior,and if you like to talk decent there should be no shame,and why change your talk to be like the world for approval,for a person that talks in goodness,could talk like the world so they will be accepted,but if it goes against you,why dog yourself out for someone else,and not be happy.
I am extremely shy have been since I was a kid. I'm shy until I get to know you and then I don't stop talking hahaha. Next week I'm going to be a greeter at church and someone I know is going to be with me because I don't talk to people that I don't know that much so I have a helper lol. I really hate being shy I'm trying to not be so shy but its hard.
