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Hi! Ye this is quite a broad question as it's a matter of perception. Depends what you like or are attracted to as an individual.
Some girls are attracted to shy guys. Some not.
Me, personally, I prefer guys that are not shy. But that's just me.
I don't think you'll have a problem in finding the one. Remember we get what we give off.
Good luck and take care!
Some girls are attracted to shy guys. Some not.
Me, personally, I prefer guys that are not shy. But that's just me.
I don't think you'll have a problem in finding the one. Remember we get what we give off.
Good luck and take care!
Its kinda sad, most of the negative answers on this thread come from males : (
I would think it would be kinda clear that it depends on the individual, like a girl on the shy side would click better with a boy on the shy side. Or maybe even the other way around, as in like, someone who is talkative would fit well with someone who is generally a better listener. I know someone who is quiet, and they say that theyd want to be with someone talkative, so that they wont have to do all the work, haha.
Not everyone in a group is exactly the same, some people are generally more comfortable with someone who is shy and quiet. I think I feel that way, and Im sure there are females who feel the same way, too.
I would think it would be kinda clear that it depends on the individual, like a girl on the shy side would click better with a boy on the shy side. Or maybe even the other way around, as in like, someone who is talkative would fit well with someone who is generally a better listener. I know someone who is quiet, and they say that theyd want to be with someone talkative, so that they wont have to do all the work, haha.
Not everyone in a group is exactly the same, some people are generally more comfortable with someone who is shy and quiet. I think I feel that way, and Im sure there are females who feel the same way, too.
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In my experience, generally speaking, the answer is yes.
I am introverted and shy, but most people are shocked to discover it ... when I let them find out, that is.
Early on in life, I observed the people around me. I saw how the shy ones usually got picked last when choosing sides for games. I saw how the shy ones were (sometimes) mistaken for weak and got bullied more than others. I saw the shy ones rarely spoke up first, so typically had to settle for less or sometimes nothing. I saw the shy ones unable to witness for Christ!
I learned that courage wasn't bravery, but taking action in spite of our fear. This helped me take courage and "fake it till I almost felt it". Once I became adept at appearing to be extrovert, most all situations in my life have always proven successful. People find me funny and a leader. They ask my advice. They listen to my testimony!!!
While truly inside, I am still a shy submissive little girl even though out in the world I'm 60 and a successful businesswoman! I am not fake, just fitting in with society and helping to spread His light more. People who I let get close to me know the real me. ... and now all of you do, too, come to think of it! LOL. Guess I let the cat out of the bag. But, I felt it would help the OP.
I am introverted and shy, but most people are shocked to discover it ... when I let them find out, that is.
Early on in life, I observed the people around me. I saw how the shy ones usually got picked last when choosing sides for games. I saw how the shy ones were (sometimes) mistaken for weak and got bullied more than others. I saw the shy ones rarely spoke up first, so typically had to settle for less or sometimes nothing. I saw the shy ones unable to witness for Christ!
I learned that courage wasn't bravery, but taking action in spite of our fear. This helped me take courage and "fake it till I almost felt it". Once I became adept at appearing to be extrovert, most all situations in my life have always proven successful. People find me funny and a leader. They ask my advice. They listen to my testimony!!!
While truly inside, I am still a shy submissive little girl even though out in the world I'm 60 and a successful businesswoman! I am not fake, just fitting in with society and helping to spread His light more. People who I let get close to me know the real me. ... and now all of you do, too, come to think of it! LOL.
Guess I let the cat out of the bag. But, I felt it would help the OP.
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I'm very shy around people in general. It's different for me online because there is a separation and I don't have to concern myself with things like body language and eye contact. In person though, I avoid eye contact and I am never one to initiate a conversation with anyone. I've never been able to introduce myself to anybody, women especially. The scant few relationships I had in my life were only possible because I somehow crossed paths with women that were willing to make the effort to introduce themselves and break the ice. Most likely, I encountered one or two really phenomenal women who would have been wonderful matches for me, but I was/am too big a coward to strike up a conversation.
Funny to me to reflect on something like that. Now that I am so bitter and jaded it's all moot, but it's funny to me to see the progression (catastrophic decline) of my attitude and personality towards women.
Funny to me to reflect on something like that. Now that I am so bitter and jaded it's all moot, but it's funny to me to see the progression (catastrophic decline) of my attitude and personality towards women.
I don't know the answer, but antoniomitchell, If people can't accept you the way you are, then they are not worth your time, Don't waste your time trying to conform to their image of the perfect man, just be yourself. It is a lonely place to be, because of hollywoods interpretation of the perfect man/woman, and what the world thinks is the perfect man or woman. Just be yourself, and do whats right, The only 2 things you need to worry about in life is what doe God think of you, and what do you think of yourself? If you can go to sleep at night, and respect yourself, that's all that matters.
See Jesus did accept people the way they are, but it's their sin he hated, so if you want something to do while you wait for the right woman, work on improving yourself, If you think your social life needs improving, work on it, if you think your confidence needs work, improve it, if your not happy being shy, try working on being a little more out going.
Your self improvement should make you happy. It should make you a better person. If it doesn't go against God's word you can do anything you want too. if you don't think God would approve, then don't do it.
I know one thing, I hate being alone, but I know what kind of Guy I am, Jesus made me the man I am and Im proud of it,
I still have flaws and areas that need improving and so does everyone else. im Gods gift to the world, and I know this in all my years of dealing with people, there is not a woman alive who will find a guy greater than I.
See Jesus did accept people the way they are, but it's their sin he hated, so if you want something to do while you wait for the right woman, work on improving yourself, If you think your social life needs improving, work on it, if you think your confidence needs work, improve it, if your not happy being shy, try working on being a little more out going.
Your self improvement should make you happy. It should make you a better person. If it doesn't go against God's word you can do anything you want too. if you don't think God would approve, then don't do it.
I know one thing, I hate being alone, but I know what kind of Guy I am, Jesus made me the man I am and Im proud of it,
I still have flaws and areas that need improving and so does everyone else. im Gods gift to the world, and I know this in all my years of dealing with people, there is not a woman alive who will find a guy greater than I.
I like shy men as much, if not more that confident men for several reasons.
1: They are assuredly soft spoken.
2: Getting to know them takes time and if you can break the ice with them, chances are you'll have their full attention.
3: Shy guys are happy to please when they open up...and since I can be the quiet and shy type too at first...I'm a people please too.
1: They are assuredly soft spoken.
2: Getting to know them takes time and if you can break the ice with them, chances are you'll have their full attention.
3: Shy guys are happy to please when they open up...and since I can be the quiet and shy type too at first...I'm a people please too.
Guess that's why I'm single. I was married to the bad boy, outgoing, life of the party type that broke my heart repeatedly over many,many years. I'm not interested in bad men anymore...I want a Godly, loving, attentive man in my life...I don't care if he's shy or self proclaimed nerd! And, if he doesn't love himself, I've got enough love for both of us...
And, if he doesn't love himself, I've got enough love for both of us...
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Guess that's why I'm single. I was married to the bad boy, outgoing, life of the party type that broke my heart repeatedly over many,many years. I'm not interested in bad men anymore...I want a Godly, loving, attentive man in my life...I don't care if he's shy or self proclaimed nerd! And, if he doesn't love himself, I've got enough love for both of us...
And, if he doesn't love himself, I've got enough love for both of us...