If it's not for sale .. don't advertise it. I had a conversation with a lost man in a store today about the very same thing. I was purchasing something to sleep in and he made a comment about how I shouldn't be afraid to flaunt what I have and how I should wear the piece of clothing out in public. I told him " I would never wear that in public.. it isn't modest" His response was but men don't like modesty.... " I said " well... that's just not me... I wouldn't ever do that. " He said something very true.. he said " I guess it just depends on who you want to attract."
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As easy as it is to quote a clichet one still has to take into allowance exceptions to every rule and a measure of subjectiveness. What in whose eyes is dressing like a whore. lol I will always remember with horror and pain two aspects of my childhood: 1. my father's chauvanistic and anti-youth mentality, and 2. the fact that he would tell my sister and I to our faces that we looked like whores if we wore high heeled shoes with anything more than a couple of inches to them. Again... spiritual abuse. Just what does a whore look like, and where? What constitutes a whore? Does a whore dress any differently than the average woman in a dress suit? I worked as an escort for years and noone knew outside of my client list. What I a whore? By definition, yes... but noone besides God would have known were it not for my testimony after the fact.
I think modesty, alongside purity, needs to be taught in our churches. It vitally needs to be. Yet, it is forsaken and left forgotten and we just assume that it's okay. I have heard pastors who have to keep their eyes averted due to the low-cut shirts women wear, some women without realizing it, but some women do so on purpose. Even Christian bands have said that instead of hanging out and meeting fans after a show, they've had to leave the stage when they finish performing and pray, due to the clothing worn by Christian girls. I think women need to learn their worth and value, need to know the difference between loving Jesus and being IN LOVE with Him, and then they need to learn modesty and purity and once they have fallen in love with Christ, realized their worth and value and true beauty, they will dress in a way that glorifies Him and is fashionable and lovely, yet modest. This is the whole premise of my Radical Purity, God's Way ministry.
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This is true in Brazil.
Before I visited, I read plenty of tourist guides and whatnot, and nearly all of them mentioned that what was considered provocative to Americans was considered day-to-day in Brazil. And it was certainly true; there was cleavage EVERYWHERE. Regardless of age, regardless of location, easily fifty percent of the female population where ever you were in Brazil were wearing low cut tops. And no one batted an eyelash. The Brazillian men didn't gawk or stare. It was just normal. Women dressed in business suits, looking professional...with cleavage. Woman cashing me out at the grocery store in her store uniform...with cleavage.
In the favelas, one of the most amazing things to see was a church about every two or three blocks (many of which labeled as Assembly of God, in Portuguese, of course), and seeing many people walking to church through the neighborhoods, Bibles in hand, on Friday night. The men in dress shirts (top two buttons undone, no undershirt...don't blame them IT WAS SWELTERING EVEN AT NIGHT OH MY GIRAFFE IT WAS UNBEARABLE) and slacks and sandals, and the women in dresses that went down to just past their knees...with cleavage.
It took some getting used to. But for them, it's the norm.
Before I visited, I read plenty of tourist guides and whatnot, and nearly all of them mentioned that what was considered provocative to Americans was considered day-to-day in Brazil. And it was certainly true; there was cleavage EVERYWHERE. Regardless of age, regardless of location, easily fifty percent of the female population where ever you were in Brazil were wearing low cut tops. And no one batted an eyelash. The Brazillian men didn't gawk or stare. It was just normal. Women dressed in business suits, looking professional...with cleavage. Woman cashing me out at the grocery store in her store uniform...with cleavage.
In the favelas, one of the most amazing things to see was a church about every two or three blocks (many of which labeled as Assembly of God, in Portuguese, of course), and seeing many people walking to church through the neighborhoods, Bibles in hand, on Friday night. The men in dress shirts (top two buttons undone, no undershirt...don't blame them IT WAS SWELTERING EVEN AT NIGHT OH MY GIRAFFE IT WAS UNBEARABLE) and slacks and sandals, and the women in dresses that went down to just past their knees...with cleavage.
It took some getting used to. But for them, it's the norm.
C
I think she does like to dress seductively. Shes definatly not a bad person. In the past I have fallen for girls mainly because of looks and have learned the hard way. My values are different now and while i still belive that looks do matter, I hold the inside on a migh higher level. I mean i would be lying if i said that physical attractivness did not matter one bit. It does and theres nothing wrong with that!
I think im just worried i dont want to get myself into another bad situation. Again im sure its crossed her mind that... hmm guys are definatly going to look lustfuly at this when i wear this. Its not a cultural thing. No one else wears that kind of thing around here. If anything her wearing that is more of a turn off than a turn on. Especially in a youth group setting
I think im just worried i dont want to get myself into another bad situation. Again im sure its crossed her mind that... hmm guys are definatly going to look lustfuly at this when i wear this. Its not a cultural thing. No one else wears that kind of thing around here. If anything her wearing that is more of a turn off than a turn on. Especially in a youth group setting
K
Okay, as a man, I need to interject. Believe it or not, males CAN control themselves. It is a choice. Just because something catches our eye, DOESN'T mean we have to look at it! We can just as easily quickly look away. If we don't dwell on it and nurture it, it DOESN'T have to grow into a sinful thought or action. It's nice if others feel compelled to help men not stumble, but the truth is, if a man WANTS to, there ain't a darn thing you can do about it. Wear a freaking suit of armor, it won't matter, if a man wants to think of you inappropriately, he will.
Ladies, just help the girls and young women to grow in their walks with God, provide nurturing so that they may gain a strong self esteem, and teach them to be the woman that a Godly man will want to marry. Let us men take care of the boys and young men. We've been there and know when a smack upside the head is needed (metaphorically) and when to guide and direct. Males are capable of restraint.
Ladies, just help the girls and young women to grow in their walks with God, provide nurturing so that they may gain a strong self esteem, and teach them to be the woman that a Godly man will want to marry. Let us men take care of the boys and young men. We've been there and know when a smack upside the head is needed (metaphorically) and when to guide and direct. Males are capable of restraint.
Look at her character, is she flirting with every second boy she meets.
She might be looking for a husband, so be careful with girls like that.
Does she dress like that to attract men, or because its just normal for her family to dress that way, thats the big question.
Just act normal around her,(if you can't resist lust then stay away) and see how she holds her own.
If you were to marry to her, would she still be like that after marriage? Its hard to know.
She might be looking for a husband, so be careful with girls like that.
Does she dress like that to attract men, or because its just normal for her family to dress that way, thats the big question.
Just act normal around her,(if you can't resist lust then stay away) and see how she holds her own.
If you were to marry to her, would she still be like that after marriage? Its hard to know.
C
Who knows her reason for dressing that way. Part of it could be that her life is not centered around church and she wears what she already owns.
I suspect that the ladies in church are paying more attention to her than the men are.
I do not dress immodestly, but I tend to avoid women's ministries and such because of the focus on so many things, that without caution, often seem to bleed over into judgement. Or feeling women's eyes on you accessing your outfit, jewelry etc.
I suspect that the ladies in church are paying more attention to her than the men are.
I do not dress immodestly, but I tend to avoid women's ministries and such because of the focus on so many things, that without caution, often seem to bleed over into judgement. Or feeling women's eyes on you accessing your outfit, jewelry etc.