How important are looks?

[MY95]

Hi, I am planning on trying out online dating and I wanted to hear from maybe some of you who have tried it. How important are looks to you when you are searching? Also, can the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile? Thank you!

 

[jsr1221]

Hi, I am planning on trying out online dating and I wanted to hear from maybe some of you who have tried it. How important are looks to you when you are searching? Also, can the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile? Thank you!

The thing with looks is (unfortunately) that's the first thing people notice. So "tall, dark, and handsome" has a greater chance of successfully approaching a woman, or vice versa, vs. a guy who might not be the best in health look wise. The same for a woman thats round, vs. a woman that might be very small. Is it right? Of course not.

To answer your question, looks don't really matter to. God created all of us. To tell someone he/she isn't attractive is essentially saying God created something that was beautiful. A lot of people (including Christians) feel differently. It's up to the individual. For me, though, looks don't matter at all.

 

[HisHolly]

This can't be serious..

This is you're first and only post after joining..

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Looks don't really matter if you have other things you can offer to capture someone's attention. It's hard on-line because a winning personality, generosity, integrity and all those other really important things don't come across as well in a profile. But you can still be witty, show a sense of humor, be respectful, and snag attention by listing your interests, hobbies, or fascinating career choice.

I would definitely expect 100% honesty when reading a profile. I expect you to look like you do in your photos, have the job you said you had, live the way you stated that you lived. You don't want to attract just anyone's attention. You want to attract the RIGHT person's attention, and you can only do that by being who you really are, and seeing who accepts and enjoys that about you.

 

[Desdichado]

Depends who is looking.

 

[Willie-T]

This can't be serious..

This is you're first and only post after joining..

You are well aware of the very first flag in Trolls Posting.

 

[NotmebutHim]

This can't be serious..

This is you're first and only post after joining..

It's kinda the equivalent of walking into someone's house in which you had never been before, and immediately asking, "Hey, where's the bathroom at?". Exception being, you REALLY have to go.

 

[AuntieAnt]

Q: How important are looks to you when you are searching?

A: Of course, most people want to be at least somewhat physically attracted to a prospective mate. But good looks doesn't guarantee that the person will be genuinely loving, honest or even compatible with you.

Q: Can the image that people present of themselves be trusted?

A: It seems to me that most people use filters for their photos these days and also take shots at odd angles. I wouldn't put 100% stock in their image, but I think it would give you a pretty good idea of what they look like.

Unless they're catfishing. *ugh*

Q: Should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile?

A: Do you believe everyone is honest 100% of the time in this world? Let me ask you this, are you 100% honest with everyone all the time? That may answer your question.

I may be naïve in my old age, but I think most people try to be honest most of the time. On dating sites, you can expect people are putting their best foot forward and leaving out any flaws in their character. After all, if you're trying to attract someone, you're going to use your best features, right?

At any rate, you cannot possibly know someone until you spend sufficient amount of quality time with them to see how they conduct their daily lives and how they treat you and other people.

 

[Desdichado]

Hi, I am planning on trying out online dating and I wanted to hear from maybe some of you who have tried it. How important are looks to you when you are searching? Also, can the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile? Thank you!

Well it doesn't really matter what I would look for. For most people? Yeah, pics matter. Stay as far away as you can from selfies. My advice is to find a hipster friend with a good camera and aesthetic sense.

Play to your strengths. If you're athletic, look athletic. If you're smart, sit in front of books or look ponderously into a pond.

I mean sure, looking like Chris Hemsworth would help, but not all of us are so lucky.

In my experience, most online daters are honest brokers. Maybe a little too honest sometimes.

 

[HisHolly]

It's kinda the equivalent of walking into someone's house in which you had never been before, and immediately asking, "Hey, where's the bathroom at?". Exception being, you REALLY have to go.

They can navigate the web enough to join, post, and say their interest is dating sites.
But they aren't intelligent enough to know if looks are important or not?

It's bait to see if Christians have a shallow answer... It's well written. They are not clueless

 

[Gary]

I wonder what the percentage is of honest people on this site!

 

[Elizabeth619]

I wonder what the percentage is of honest people on this site!

Probably in the single digits.

 

[melita916]

looks capture a person's attention initially.

but after that? should be character.

i've never done online dating sites, so i don't know how they roll. lol

 

[Desdichado]

Probably in the single digits.

Well, thank God this isn't a dating site.

A lot of people try to make it one, but thank God it isn't!

 

[MY95]

They can navigate the web enough to join, post, and say their interest is dating sites.
But they aren't intelligent enough to know if looks are important or not?

It's bait to see if Christians have a shallow answer... It's well written. They are not clueless

I'm new here, and I didn't realize that asking a question like this would be a problem. I'm really just here looking for answers in a Christian setting. Biola Student here. Thank you for your consideration.

 

[Desdichado]

I'm new here, and I didn't realize that asking a question like this would be a problem. I'm really just here looking for answers in a Christian setting. Biola Student here. Thank you for your consideration.

Oh, don't worry about it. Plenty of people ask questions on here that others consider silly because relationships themselves are inherently silly.

 

[HisHolly]

I'm new here, and I didn't realize that asking a question like this would be a problem. I'm really just here looking for answers in a Christian setting. Biola Student here. Thank you for your consideration.

If I wouldn't have said you would have been picked off worse... I was hopefully saving you.. look thru other threads.. people are piranhas on here

 

[Elizabeth619]

If I wouldn't have said you would have been picked off worse... I was hopefully saving you.. look thru other threads.. people are piranhas on here

This. Right here. Is hilarious

 

[tourist]

Hi, I am planning on trying out online dating and I wanted to hear from maybe some of you who have tried it. How important are looks to you when you are searching? Also, can the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile? Thank you!

If you accept that there is a certain amount of dishonesty in online dating then maybe this is not a good outlet for you. This does not mean that you should be naïve about this either, just be a little cautious at first and see how it plays out.

 

[tourist]

I'm new here, and I didn't realize that asking a question like this would be a problem. I'm really just here looking for answers in a Christian setting. Biola Student here. Thank you for your consideration.

Asking a question is not a problem on this site but if you do ask a question you will receive various opinions, some of which you may not agree with. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.