How to date introverted Christian men?

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Kim82

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Thanks for sharing your thoughts, joefizz. Quietness is so precious in this chaotic world, and that's what I like about introverted men.
Has he invited you out yet? Keep me posted, OK hon? ajax-loader.gif
 
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An introvert's icon.................do you see it yet?..............................the icon is there..........
 
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Joefizz
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Where have you been!? Good to see you!
 

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what would "normal" be like? and how can a person who is not normal ever understand what normal is?
I'm not convinced that there is such a thing as a normal person as we all are a unique creation in Christ. Perhaps we are all abnormal to a certain degree in certain ways. There are basically however two groups of people - good people and bad people. Probably a good thing to be considered a good person rather than a bad person but of course, God is the ultimate judge of that.
 
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Be patient. Be faithful. Introverted Christian men are looking for the diamond on the street. Good women are more rare than diamonds. Do not jump to the thought that they may be uninterested. Introverted Christian men court on the inside first.
 
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Hi :)
But why should a woman make the first move? I feel that if a man is truly interested in a woman, it doesn't matter how introverted he is, he will find a way to do something about it.

So to the first poster, I would say, just be friendly with the person so that he can feel comfortable. If after that he still can't show interest then he is not interested.

But then we come to another question. If after you've gone out of your way to be friends with someone, it turns out they are not interested, what do you do then? What happens to the "friendship"?
If he is an introverted Christian man, he is not looking for a "friendship." We don't need friends. We have our savior. We are just listening to God and when he says "pay attention to her" we do. There is no sense in trying it our way.
 
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Has he invited you out yet? Keep me posted, OK hon? View attachment 184946
To the contrary, I invited him out, thanks to the encouragement and prayers from many of you here! The good news is that he accepted it and we met this afternoon. The bad news is that it didn't work out well - nothing to do with him being an introvert but that he has no passion for following or serving God. It's pretty sad to find out this, but in the end it's good to know that he is not the right person for me. Despite being raised up in a traditional Christian family, he stopped attending Sunday Service since last year and is venturing into the non-Christian world, which I could clearly tell from our conversation.

It has been nearly a week since I started this thread, and I'm amazed by how much all of your advice and encouragement have changed me - from a woman who firmly believes in waiting for the right man - to warmly inviting my interested one out. Yes, my first date was a failure today, but I gained new insights and will reach out to more men. I THANK EACH OF YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM WITH ME! And my blessings to you all - whether you are still looking for the right one, or in a relationship. God has the best in store for us.
 

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Being on the introverted side of things myself and as a male i would advise it is near impossible for a woman who is interested in an introvert to force the issue along.. Taking the classical mans role and asking a introvert out will just end in the guy running...

The only way a woman can have a chance with an introvert... and it is not much of a chance... Is to make themselves as less threatening towards the introvert as they can.. Also if a woman is to show interest in an introvert she should do so by looking at him and trying to establish eye contact and in that moment make it clear that she finds him appealing.. But only do so for a very short time period like 1 or two seconds.. Then look away and give him time to de-stress and take on board the information, maybe half an hour .. Then try it again.. Seek to establish eye contact with the introvert and when contact is established give him that look again with a smile.. You should probably act kind of shy also.. Making yourself seem even less dangerous or threatening or confronting as you can..

Introverts find the process of establishing new human friends a very stressful high pressure experience.. Establishing a romantic relationship is is 10 times more stressful then establishing a friend..

Also the statements from some saying that if the introverted guy is ""really interested"" in you enough then he will suddenly change into an extrovert for you is just wrong.. There are a lot of introverts who find themselves deeply in love with a woman and will admire her from afar for years and he never ever approach her.. Sad but true..
 
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Be patient. Be faithful. Introverted Christian men are looking for the diamond on the street. Good women are more rare than diamonds. Do not jump to the thought that they may be uninterested. Introverted Christian men court on the inside first.
If he is an introverted Christian man, he is not looking for a "friendship." We don't need friends. We have our savior. We are just listening to God and when he says "pay attention to her" we do. There is no sense in trying it our way.
You have an "odd" way of putting things...(says an introvert who has friends)
 
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Being on the introverted side of things myself and as a male i would advise it is near impossible for a woman who is interested in an introvert to force the issue along.. Taking the classical mans role and asking a introvert out will just end in the guy running...

The only way a woman can have a chance with an introvert... and it is not much of a chance... Is to make themselves as less threatening towards the introvert as they can.. Also if a woman is to show interest in an introvert she should do so by looking at him and trying to establish eye contact and in that moment make it clear that she finds him appealing.. But only do so for a very short time period like 1 or two seconds.. Then look away and give him time to de-stress and take on board the information, maybe half an hour .. Then try it again.. Seek to establish eye contact with the introvert and when contact is established give him that look again with a smile.. You should probably act kind of shy also.. Making yourself seem even less dangerous or threatening or confronting as you can..

Introverts find the process of establishing new human friends a very stressful high pressure experience.. Establishing a romantic relationship is is 10 times more stressful then establishing a friend..

Also the statements from some saying that if the introverted guy is ""really interested"" in you enough then he will suddenly change into an extrovert for you is just wrong.. There are a lot of introverts who find themselves deeply in love with a woman and will admire her from afar for years and he never ever approach her.. Sad but true..
Actually "stress" just depends on one's mood and the all around "atmosphere" I have made friends in school through just "chiming into" a cconversation or just simply listening to someone's "problems".
 

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My sweetie is an introvert.. at the beginning it was pretty hard becauae I am veeeery extroverted :pbut with work and patience its sooo great,
Theyre worth it :love:
 

Kim82

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Also the statements from some saying that if the introverted guy is ""really interested"" in you enough then he will suddenly change into an extrovert for you is just wrong.. There are a lot of introverts who find themselves deeply in love with a woman and will admire her from afar for years and he never ever approach her.. Sad but true..
I'm an introvert, and I was agreeing to all you were saying except the bit that is quoted above.

If all an introvert can do is be inlove with a woman from afar, then let him be content with being single.

If a woman does the things you stated above, moments of eye contact etc and you still can't find it in yourself to let the woman know what you feel, in this modern day of various means of communication and even the good old fashion hand written love letter, or an unanimous secret admire letter, bro if you can't even work your brain to find a way that's comfortable for you, to let a woman know you like her, then the fact is, you don't really want her or want a life with her, you are only an admirer. And really what good is that?
 

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I'm an introvert, and I was agreeing to all you were saying except the bit that is quoted above.

If all an introvert can do is be inlove with a woman from afar, then let him be content with being single.

If a woman does the things you stated above, moments of eye contact etc and you still can't find it in yourself to let the woman know what you feel, in this modern day of various means of communication and even the good old fashion hand written love letter, or an unanimous secret admire letter, bro if you can't even work your brain to find a way that's comfortable for you, to let a woman know you like her, then the fact is, you don't really want her or want a life with her, you are only an admirer. And really what good is that?
Well you are not as introverted as some other people are.. If you where then you would understand..