Misery makes people bitter makes people grumpy and cranky. Being single can be miserable! To be rejected is even more so.
Do you really want a spontanous, free spirited girl? To make you alive? To give you a challenge? Why don't you seek a virtuos woman and when you find her, become free with her to be spontanous and joyful. It is your life to live. And your decision to stay miserable (says I!!!!!! of all people).
Find joy and peace. Pray God will open your eyes for that special woman. Where she is? She might be sitting next to you in church or on the bus. A free spirited girl doesn't normally get all crazy in those places. But watch her eyes. Are they happy or sad, playful or just dull? You will find your girl when you least expect it. (again... who am I to speak... )