Interracial dating. What are your thoughts?

[sydlit]

I have more fun with non-White women. Mrs. Utah will more than likely not be White.

Isn't our God and Saviour great that He gives us such variety,
and beauty in every color?!
And love and joy and fun too, Utah, you're right.
There's a purple (magenta) one I've had great fun with,
and hope for more, though I've been missing her lately,
and miles upon miles doesn't help, but the heart is there.
There's at least two violet ones, great fun and again, heart.
There's some fun blond ones, but I get them confused,
THAT'S always fun, lol, and a blondIE, great, great fun,
I smile every time, no baloney there.
There's even some blues that are fun, how's that for irony,
and I recently met a fine, fun green one, (a bonnie lass).
There's one like rainbow candies...is there any color
that's NOT in her hair? How cool and fun is that?!
There's so many, many more, who may not have a
color in their name, but all have a colorful heart,
and so much beauty radiates, with every 'race' represented.
Like any family, we all have our ups and downs,
and round and rounds, like a caliopè, a colorful ride,
But God must be well pleased.
He is such a wonderful God, the Creator of all
these races and colors, He's the ultimate artist
and He's still sculpting and painting our lives,
individually and collectively, into His masterpiece,
I just want to give Him thanks, praise Him for His
Mighty Works, and say thanks for, and to, everyone here.
May our Heavenly Father continue blessing you (us) all,
In Jesus' Love and Grace, Thank you, Lord. Amen.

 

[Tintin]

Another upside of not marrying the same ethnicity is fewer DNA mutations. You're also less likely to end up marrying a cousin or something (like a first or second cousin - we can all be traced back to Adam and Eve).

 

[seoulsearch]

I have more fun with non-White women. Mrs. Utah will more than likely not be White.

I always wonder if God puts different preferences on our hearts for a reason.

Of my siblings and I, none of us married someone of the same race. I know that one of my siblings in particular actually prayed for a spouse of a different race, and at one time, I had prayed that for myself as well.

Nowadays, the race issues don't really bother me (it only does when other people make it an issue) and it's all about the person rather than ethnics, but I still feel that tug towards diversity... (I find multi-cultural people to be especially fascinating, probably because I've known many mixed families myself.)

 

[Roh_Chris]

So, while most of us are okay with interracial dating, would the kids have to deal with a lot of bullying and rejection because they "do not fit" in with any of the groups in their schools and colleges? That may not be the case in India, because if the society accepts the couple, then the rest will automatically "fall into place". How about the other countries?

 

[seoulsearch]

So, while most of us are okay with interracial dating, would the kids have to deal with a lot of bullying and rejection because they "do not fit" in with any of the groups in their schools and colleges? That may not be the case in India, because if the society accepts the couple, then the rest will automatically "fall into place". How about the other countries?

As much as the USA likes to think of itself as the modern forefront, racism here is the pits. White/black issues are still a hot topic, and I used to live in an area where people were accused of being racist all the time (even when they were in mixed relationships and had mixed children.)

I was at a farm with a (white) friend and her kids, who are mixed... A group of (white) school kids saw them and one of them started making fun of her kids. I didn't see which little punk it was, or I would have surely called him out on it.

It was the one time in my life where I wouldn't have held back from slapping a kid (I know, I know... I wouldn't have actually done that. But boy, did I want to.)

People always say, "Well, they don't know any better," when it involves kids, and I'm always like, "Well, you'd better teach them before they get their butts kicked." And usually, the kids are almost always emulating what they learned from their parents.

This is a particularly sensitive issue for me, as I grew up in a small town and dealt with plenty of racism (thought not nearly as much as a friend of mine who grew up in the South), and even as an adult, have experienced kids "slanting" their eyes at me. This is why I'm sometimes very vocal about things I don't like. There were so many times when someone would say or do something that put me in such a state of shock, I just froze. I told God, "Not anymore, if I can help it." I wanted to grow up and be the person who said something when no one else would, especially for someone who couldn't defend themselves.

I try to brush it off as an adult. But heaven help me when I see kids being made fun of, especially because of race. It truly brings out the worst in me. I don't handle things in the best ways, but it's yet another thing on my long list of things to work on.

 

[NarrowRoadDisciple]

Let me take a stab at this with a biblical understanding.
God told the Israelites not to intermarry with foreign people. What is the spiritual application of this for the Church?
It goes back to not yoking with those who are of other faiths and those of the world, whether in friendship or relationships.

Do I have a problem with "interracial" relationships? Absolutely not.
Would I date or marry someone who is not a Christian or holds to cultural/traditional practices contrary to the bible that are in effect idolatry? Nope.

The important part is asking God to lead you to that person who will be that head of family or helpmate in your life. That someone who will not tear you away from your focus on God.
Hope that helps

 

[NarrowRoadDisciple]

So, while most of us are okay with interracial dating, would the kids have to deal with a lot of bullying and rejection because they "do not fit" in with any of the groups in their schools and colleges? That may not be the case in India, because if the society accepts the couple, then the rest will automatically "fall into place". How about the other countries?

This is why promoting "groups" based on race in the United States does more to hinder and hurt this country than unite it. By effectively dividing ourselves based on ethnicity, we create divisions which destroy the attempt for an "actual" multicultural society.

 

[WadeWilson14]

Interracial dating is awesome. Being half black (mother) and half white (sperm donor), if it weren't for interracial dating, I wouldn't be alive. I think it just comes down to two things - the heart knows what the heart wants; and as long as you both love Jesus, and are compatible personalitywise, you're all good.
Funny thing is, I'm mainly attracted to white women, but if you really want to get technical, the only way I wouldn't be interracially dating is if I found someone with my exact same racial makeup! And dating/guy-girl relations are complicated enough; why make them tougher?

 

[jsr1221]

Shouldn't be an issue. Jesus does instruct us to look at the heart, not physical appearance. As far as different cultures go, helping each other learn of the different culture is part of the relationship.

 

[1still_waters]

You might face contrary opinions from people in your family/circle of influence with an older/different worldview. It's really up to you if you'll let that influence your decision.

 

[spikespiegel]

I'm mixed of European White and Mulato/Indian/White, I'm alive, I can breath, I can speak, I'm perfectly normal, so who cares?
If you're interested in people that are different from you in the looks, it doesn't matter as long as you're happy with your decisions.

 

[LiJo]

So, while most of us are okay with interracial dating, would the kids have to deal with a lot of bullying and rejection because they "do not fit" in with any of the groups in their schools and colleges? That may not be the case in India, because if the society accepts the couple, then the rest will automatically "fall into place". How about the other countries?

My children are multiracial and have never had any problem with bullying or rejections. People often always ask my children about their nationality because they are multiracial, but my children are so used to it, they are not offend by it...lol

 

[spikespiegel]

I'm terribly sorry, there were some grammatical errors in my last reply, like missing a common. lol
What I meant was "As long as it make you happy, it doesn't matter what race you choose", this thing of "We can't mix races because of genetics" is a racist thing created by the nazi.

Even most white american are mixed, Russian with Italian, German with french, British with Japanese, and today we've got everything mixed, like afro + white. Who cares about that.....

 

[spikespiegel]

As much as the USA likes to think of itself as the modern forefront, racism here is the pits. White/black issues are still a hot topic, and I used to live in an area where people were accused of being racist all the time (even when they were in mixed relationships and had mixed children.)

I was at a farm with a (white) friend and her kids, who are mixed... A group of (white) school kids saw them and one of them started making fun of her kids. I didn't see which little punk it was, or I would have surely called him out on it.

It was the one time in my life where I wouldn't have held back from slapping a kid (I know, I know... I wouldn't have actually done that. But boy, did I want to.)

People always say, "Well, they don't know any better," when it involves kids, and I'm always like, "Well, you'd better teach them before they get their butts kicked." And usually, the kids are almost always emulating what they learned from their parents.

This is a particularly sensitive issue for me, as I grew up in a small town and dealt with plenty of racism (thought not nearly as much as a friend of mine who grew up in the South), and even as an adult, have experienced kids "slanting" their eyes at me. This is why I'm sometimes very vocal about things I don't like. There were so many times when someone would say or do something that put me in such a state of shock, I just froze. I told God, "Not anymore, if I can help it." I wanted to grow up and be the person who said something when no one else would, especially for someone who couldn't defend themselves.

I try to brush it off as an adult. But heaven help me when I see kids being made fun of, especially because of race. It truly brings out the worst in me. I don't handle things in the best ways, but it's yet another thing on my long list of things to work on.

Let's first look at what is racism: Racism is to considerate another race inferior, it is also to act inferior towards another race.
People making fun out of black people, that should be just normal, because won't black people make fun out of white people too?
Won't most of us make fun out of Asian? Where is the free speech granted by the constitution if we're limited by political correctness?
Who cares of what they say? If they call you of something to make fun of you, you call them back of something even funnier, just offend them back, but making fun out of them, that's how the game works.
If you accept their game, you'll be directly telling them that you're annoyed by the bully, and that's just bad, it will make things worse. You could even make fun of yourself, because everything they are doing is trying to make everybody laugh.

When you have a deep sense of who you are and what you do from your life, it doesn't matter who says what for you.
People can point the finger in your face the way they want, in the end all they wanted was to be in your feet.

What I'm saying is that we can't actually choose what people may say or not, if you limit someone's vocabulary, you're just acting like a dictator. As long as what they say doesn't incite hate and violence taking away your freedom, who cares?

Daily bullying situation:

Asian dude: OMG, I got a F at Math...
Attacker: You're a yellow Asian, you're supposed to be good at math dude.
Asian dude: Yeah, but I couldn't sum two O's and a 7...
Attacker: What?
Asian dude: You know.... double O seven. xD

Just laugh and make fun of stuff like you don't give a Shift Key.

 

[Utah]

So, while most of us are okay with interracial dating, would the kids have to deal with a lot of bullying and rejection because they "do not fit" in with any of the groups in their schools and colleges? That may not be the case in India, because if the society accepts the couple, then the rest will automatically "fall into place". How about the other countries?

Roh, in complete honesty and in utter humility, with all fake cyberspace tough guy talk aside, I am convinced that God never blessed me with children because I would not be able to handle my children being bullied under any circumstance.

This papa bear would kill with extreme prejudice anyone who harmed his cubs; I don't care if it was something as simple as putting gum in their hair, let alone mocking the pigmentation of their skin. The consequences against the perpetrator would be life-altering. Sorry, just being honest about this.

 

[Roh_Chris]

As much as the USA likes to think of itself as the modern forefront, racism here is the pits. White/black issues are still a hot topic, and I used to live in an area where people were accused of being racist all the time (even when they were in mixed relationships and had mixed children.)

People always say, "Well, they don't know any better," when it involves kids, and I'm always like, "Well, you'd better teach them before they get their butts kicked." And usually, the kids are almost always emulating what they learned from their parents.

This is a particularly sensitive issue for me, as I grew up in a small town and dealt with plenty of racism (thought not nearly as much as a friend of mine who grew up in the South), and even as an adult, have experienced kids "slanting" their eyes at me. This is why I'm sometimes very vocal about things I don't like. There were so many times when someone would say or do something that put me in such a state of shock, I just froze. I told God, "Not anymore, if I can help it." I wanted to grow up and be the person who said something when no one else would, especially for someone who couldn't defend themselves.

Kim, I am sorry that you had to deal with a lot of racism when you were a kid. As a victim of bullying myself, I can understand your pain and agony and I am sorry about it.

I really think parents should take take a more active interest in teaching their kids to accept other kids who are "different" from them. No kid deserves to be bullied, irrespective of gender, race, nationality or any other attributes.

My children are multiracial and have never had any problem with bullying or rejections. People often always ask my children about their nationality because they are multiracial, but my children are so used to it, they are not offend by it...lol

Thank you for sharing this.

Roh, in complete honesty and in utter humility, with all fake cyberspace tough guy talk aside, I am convinced that God never blessed me with children because I would not be able to handle my children being bullied under any circumstance.

I don't know how I would react if I were to witness my kids being bullied, but I think I would become pretty protective.

 

[spikespiegel]

For a long time I was a victim of bullying, until I decided to be the player.
You're not a victim at all, you just have to know how the game works, then they'll stop bullying you.
It's all about making fun, then you have two options:

You beat the crap out of them or you join their game and make fun out of yourself and everything else.

Stop playing the victim role. Being the victim is worse than being the bully. When you play the victim role, you're doing exactly what they want you to do.

 

[seoulsearch]

Roh, in complete honesty and in utter humility, with all fake cyberspace tough guy talk aside, I am convinced that God never blessed me with children because I would not be able to handle my children being bullied under any circumstance.

This papa bear would kill with extreme prejudice anyone who harmed his cubs; I don't care if it was something as simple as putting gum in their hair, let alone mocking the pigmentation of their skin. The consequences against the perpetrator would be life-altering. Sorry, just being honest about this.

Utah, I think it's awesome that you have the nerve to state this publicly, because this is exactly how I feel as well.

I absolutely could not tolerate anyone belittling or harming my children, and I would have spent everything I had pursuing whatever retribution was available to the fullest extent of the law.

 

[Lynx]

For some reason I'm reminded of my niece. My sister was white but her... um... paramour, was black. To my knowledge nobody picks on my niece because she is mixed. She's a nice person, my niece, everyone likes her. But if someone did pick on her the picker would probably get a bunch of her friends on his butt.


For some reason I picture a mother labrador telling her daughter, "Now girl, you stay away from that boy. We don't associate with dobermans."

Nope, that's now how it works.

 

[seoulsearch]

For some reason I'm reminded of my niece. My sister was white but her... um... paramour, was black. To my knowledge nobody picks on my niece because she is mixed. She's a nice person, my niece, everyone likes her. But if someone did pick on her the picker would probably get a bunch of her friends on his butt.


For some reason I picture a mother labrador telling her daughter, "Now girl, you stay away from that boy. We don't associate with dobermans."

Nope, that's now how it works.

There are a lot of people in the world who are much more accepting of mixed breed animals than they are of mixed race people.