Midnight Confessions
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Hi Yahweh,
I don't know if you've experienced this at all, but yes, my whole life, I've been rather irritated at having to repeat what seemed like even the simplest facts to people over and over (it's been a requirement at most of my jobs.) I too figured they just weren't paying attention or were a little slow when it came to comprehension.
And then God did an interesting thing with me.
I've come to realize over the years that I have the exact same "fault". Although I did all right in school, I had to work very hard--when I learn things, including about people, I need to have it repeated several times. What I realized is that my brain only seems to grab on to one piece of information at a time. So, if you tell me 5 things about yourself... I might only be able to take in 1 of those things. And the next time you tell me, it might just reinforce that 1 thing from last time, and I'll still need to hear the story again a few more times in the hopes of learning, or remembering, all the other things.
I have this problem even in writing--you'd think I could just go back and re-read something a dozen time, but I actually do better when the person tells me (in writing) or explains to me (in writing) again and again.
I've been wanting to write a thread that asks what causes people here to remember other people, and I know that one thing that helps me remember various CC members is when they retell things about themselves in the forum. I know someone might say, "I already told (wrote) you all that before," but I may very well have to go over it a dozen times.
I know some people get frustrated that no one seems to remember them here, but if they only make one or two posts here and there and it's rather random or cryptic, then yes, there is a good chance that unfortunately, I won't remember them in particular, though I do try.
And I have come to realize that other people probably have the same learning style as well.
As Tourist said, you're an extremely interesting and open person. I'm not sure if you were venting mostly about real life or also life here in the forums, but please, if you have to repeat yourself a few times...
I can openly admit.
I'm just a little slow.
Keep trying!
Just stop threatening me with certain dinner entrees, and we're all good.
I don't know if you've experienced this at all, but yes, my whole life, I've been rather irritated at having to repeat what seemed like even the simplest facts to people over and over (it's been a requirement at most of my jobs.) I too figured they just weren't paying attention or were a little slow when it came to comprehension.
And then God did an interesting thing with me.
I've come to realize over the years that I have the exact same "fault". Although I did all right in school, I had to work very hard--when I learn things, including about people, I need to have it repeated several times. What I realized is that my brain only seems to grab on to one piece of information at a time. So, if you tell me 5 things about yourself... I might only be able to take in 1 of those things. And the next time you tell me, it might just reinforce that 1 thing from last time, and I'll still need to hear the story again a few more times in the hopes of learning, or remembering, all the other things.
I have this problem even in writing--you'd think I could just go back and re-read something a dozen time, but I actually do better when the person tells me (in writing) or explains to me (in writing) again and again.
I've been wanting to write a thread that asks what causes people here to remember other people, and I know that one thing that helps me remember various CC members is when they retell things about themselves in the forum. I know someone might say, "I already told (wrote) you all that before," but I may very well have to go over it a dozen times.
I know some people get frustrated that no one seems to remember them here, but if they only make one or two posts here and there and it's rather random or cryptic, then yes, there is a good chance that unfortunately, I won't remember them in particular, though I do try.
And I have come to realize that other people probably have the same learning style as well.
As Tourist said, you're an extremely interesting and open person. I'm not sure if you were venting mostly about real life or also life here in the forums, but please, if you have to repeat yourself a few times...
I can openly admit.
I'm just a little slow.
Keep trying!
Just stop threatening me with certain dinner entrees, and we're all good.
Y
It's venting about life both inside and outside of CC. Such an emphasis has been placed on communication, and while most people might not give it much attention and communicating comes so naturally to them, for others it's a lot of work and it takes a lot of energy. Trying to interpret what people mean versus what they say (since I've found with most people the two don't match), trying to pay attention to that 80% of communication that's non-verbal, trying to pay attention to cadence and rhythm of speech...bah.
Just an hour ago, I went to the grocery store to get stuff for supper tonight, and aside from verbalizing my desire for "half a pound each of oven-roast turkey lunch meat and some of that chicken salad", I didn't need to speak another word, so I didn't. No confusion in communication. No idle words. No need to ruin perfectly good silence with the bumping of gums. Slowly, that same attitude will extend to my existence here. It feels like the right thing to do.
Just an hour ago, I went to the grocery store to get stuff for supper tonight, and aside from verbalizing my desire for "half a pound each of oven-roast turkey lunch meat and some of that chicken salad", I didn't need to speak another word, so I didn't. No confusion in communication. No idle words. No need to ruin perfectly good silence with the bumping of gums. Slowly, that same attitude will extend to my existence here. It feels like the right thing to do.
J
I guess I still think of all those nights...all those plans we made together. It's a bittersweet end to a terrible 12 year marriage. It hurts because I know with God we could've worked things out. We could've had all that we dreamed of. But it's nice to think that the constant nagging and disrespect is over. I don't have to put up with it anymore. She is no longer mine. All I have is God and he is all I need.
Y
To be perfectly honest, I do not hate people. I'm simply disappointed in you. You might be nice, kind, funny, charming, etc. However, you are as interesting as watching paint dry. Yes, I realize that's arrogant, and I'm okay with that. I've always known I am the most interesting person I've ever known. I keep about 99% of myself hidden because I don't think it's worth letting you know the good parts about me...and I have too much fun at your expense with the bad parts of me.
...yes, I have slipped off the wagon tonight and am drunk as a waltzing piss-ant. No, I don't care. If I had the opportunity, I'd drink myself right into the grave.
...yes, I have slipped off the wagon tonight and am drunk as a waltzing piss-ant. No, I don't care. If I had the opportunity, I'd drink myself right into the grave.
Truly sorry that you are hurting. Why is it that when we hurt we become self destructive? I know because I have tried to eat myself into the grave and one day I might succeed. Problem is we only hurt ourselves more. Good news is that Jesus died to give us freedom from hurting ourselves if we would take the time to allow Him to heal us.