What's unromantic to me is being systematically exploited by the state on behalf of an ex-wife who filed a no fault divorce.
I would never allow someone who chooses to engage in tactics of false shaming, in this case attempting to paint me as an unromantic morally blighted person who engages in bribery, to coerce me into being irresponsible with one of the most important decisions a person can make in this life. I am not a naive or stupid person.
The "sweetner" is an annuity which means I care enough about her to even deprive myself of that amount should she end the marriage by filing a no fault divorce against me.
And, as I stated:
"Understand; however, that it's still financially more desirable to simply outlive me within marriage because at the point of my death (assuming no foul play) she would get
everything."
This is a
good thing. You don't want to make it more economically desirable for your spouse to divorce you than to stay married to you. Why only a fool would put themselves in a place where it's more financially profitable to divorce them than to remain married to them. I'm not a fool.
My future wife, if there is one, might be professional with a career or she might be a woman that chooses homemaker for her career. That is, of course, her choice to make not mine. For my part, I view both as positive choices that benefit a marriage.
A wise person would have asked me what I thought instead of making the inferences that you did in the manner that you did. I would never marry a person who exhibits the behaviors and attitudes which you do so for you it's a non-issue. Why, I wouldn't marry you under
any circumstances... lol.